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原作者： Illusions hold you back. They stop you from striving forward and making leaps and bounds towards fulfilling all of your hopes and desires. There are 7 specific illusions and I promise you will recognise at least two, out of the seven, that you will have used on yourself within the past month. Read through them carefully and understand them. Wake up and recognise when you start using them to break that pattern of thinking. 1. I will do something when I have more time… This is a massive one. A common statement I hear people make is ‘I’ll get to it when I have the time. I’ll meet you when I have the time.’ Etc. There is no such thing as ‘I don’t have the time’. If something is important to you, you automatically make the time. It’s probably the biggest of the 7 illusions that still plagues humanity. You don’t necessarily have to be honest with other people to the level where it hurts their feelings, but do be 100% honest with yourself. What is the real reason you’re not making time for someone or something? 2. I will get there faster if I… You will never reach your destination any quicker than you are supposed to. When you do reach a milestone it will have happened exactly how it should have happened. You can try all you want but those efforts are a part of the enjoyment of the journey. They make reaching the destination that much sweeter. When you try all you marketing techniques, your strategies your tactics, let go of the outcome and allow them to unfold naturally. 3. I have control over… You have control over nothing except your own mind. Our spirit has access to this world through the mind in the same way that we plug into the phone socket to get internet access. Now that the tool is available to you what you do with it is up to you. You control nothing except your own mind. Even then, the best use of that tool is release. When you let go amazing things happen. 4. I will be happy if… I still hear this old chestnut. People still hold the illusion that if X happens then I will be happy. No you won’t! If you haven’t developed your mental perception to see the reason for happiness now, or just the happiness of being, nothing will change the way you feel. You may temporarily be happy by winning the lottery but unless you understand how to manage it you will be pulled in all sorts of directions. People may want to borrow money. You may worry about being robbed of your wealth. Whatever your situation is now, be happy. Even if it changed drastically for the better, If you weren’t happy in the first place, I very much doubt that you’ll be happy after the change. 5. I can change others… When you try to change other people they will often resist the change. Unless you understand how to communicate in their value system, and inspire them to change themselves, you will always be stuck trying to change them according to your values. You can never change a person. You can however change the way you see them. When you change the way you perceive them they will change in your eyes without them actually changing. 6. I will go and do this when… A perfect example of this is in one of my older articles called Going It Alone and the part about being and IGUIG (I’ll go if you go) kind of person. Do you stop yourself from doing the things you really want to do until the circumstances are just right? What if they are never right, does that mean you’ll never go and do it? In the case of that article I talked about doing things alone. When you do that you’re not waiting for circumstances to be perfect. You just do it anyway and that is the best place to be in. 7. I’ll start exercising when I have more energy… This one really does embody the term self fulfilling prophecy or vicious cycle. It’s ironic and I’ve seen this with so many people. They think they’ll undertake an exercise regime when they have more energy. What they don’t realise is that they will get more energy from exercising. So unless they take that first step they are very unlikely to get the increase in energy that they’re hoping for. Are there any illusions holding you back? 幻想会拖你的后腿。它们会阻止你开拓进取，做出跨越式的发展，它们会阻碍你实现你的理想与愿望。
这里有7种最基本的幻想，我保证在这七个当中，你至少会意识到两种，这两种幻想是您在过去的两个月中经历过的。
仔细阅读这些幻想并理解它们的含义。当你产生幻想时，你要清醒的意识到，并打破幻想的思维模式。
1.如果有更多的时间我会做……
大多数人都存在过这种幻想。我听到人们最常挂在嘴边的话就是“‘如果有时间的话我就会完成这件事。如果我有时间的话我会和你见面的。’”等等。人们从来不说‘我没有时间’。如果真有什么事对你非常重要，你会自动挤出时间的。
这一条可能是这七条幻想中最普遍的一条，就像瘟疫一样仍然在感染着人类。你没有必要对别人忠诚到伤害他们情感的地步，但是你要对你自己做到百分百的真诚。你清楚的了解让你不愿意花时间在某人或某事上的真正原因吗？
2. 如果……我就能快点到那了。
你到达目的地的速度永远都不会比你自己期望的速度快。当你确实到达一个里程碑的时候，一定会准确的发生该发生的事（上面的那句话的内容一定会发生）。你可以努力尝试所有你能想到的加快速度的方法，而且这些努力是人生旅途中很享受的一部分。
这些努力使我们到达目的地时更开心更甜蜜。
当你尝试了你所有的营销技巧、你的策略、你的战术，那么就让结果顺其自然的展开吧。
3．我已经控制了……
除了自己的思想你什么也没有控制到。我们的精神以同样的方式经由我们的意识进入到这个世界，我们都要插入电话插座才能获得因特网的上网许可。现在这个工具对你有用，那么怎么使用它完全取决于你。除了自己的意识你什么也没控制到。
即使这样，对工具最好的使用方法就是物尽其能。当你放手任其发展的时候，奇迹的事情就会发生。
4．如果……我就会感到快乐
直到现在我仍然能听到这句老话。人们仍然存在着这种幻想，要是有某事发生那么他们就会感到快乐。不，你不会的！如果现在你还没有开发出你的慧眼去观察你幸福的原因，而仅仅看到幸福二字，那么无论发生什么你也不会感到快乐。
你可能会赢得了彩票，暂时的得到快乐，但是除非你了解该如何管理它，否则你会被拉向不同方向。人们可能想向你借钱。你会担心你的财富会被洗劫一空。
无论你现在的处境如何，要快乐。即使为了快乐大幅度的转变，如果你一开始就不开心，我很不确定改变之后的你是否会感到快乐。
5．我可以改变别人……
当你试图去改变他人，人们通常会抵制这种改变。除非你懂得怎样以他们的价值观去沟通，并鼓励他们去改变他们自己。如果你以自己的价值观试着去改变他们，那么你一定不会成功的。
你永远也不可能改变一个人。然而你可以改变自己看人的方式。当你换另一种方式去接受他们，他们会在你的眼里改变，虽然事实上他们并没有改变。
6．当……的时候我就去做这件事
对于这种幻想，最经典的例子就是我在一篇文章中提到的，单干和合伙还有IGUIG(要是你去我也去)这类型的人。你能控制得住自己不做真正感兴趣的事，直到时机成熟么？如果一直都没有好的时机，是不是就意味着你就不会去做这些事了呢？在那篇文章中我谈论过单干。当你单干的时候，你没有等待时机的成熟。你只是做那件事而且那是最好的选择。
7．我会开始锻炼，当我有更多的精力……
这种幻想确实体现了一个长期自我实现的预言或恶性循环。它是讽刺的，但是我在很多人身上都发现了。他们认为他们会制作一个锻炼日程表，如果他们有足够精力的话。然而他们没有意识到的是他们会从锻炼中得到更多的精力。
所以除非他们迈出第一步，否则他们不太可能像他们所期待的那样增加精力和能量。
有哪种幻想在困扰着你吗？ |
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