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自我增能：你要对自己的生命负责2 Did you know that all the power to improve your life lies in your hands, and only your hands? Why do not you use it more then? Perhaps because human beings have the tendency to forget that they are ultimately responsible for their own lives? It is so much easier to tell ourselves that when things don’t turn out as we want them to, it is the fault of others or events. 你知道吗，提升你生活的所有能量掌控在你手中，也只能在你手中。你为什么不多用用呢？可能是因为人类倾向于忘记他们最终是要对他们自己的生命负责的？当事情不是按照我们预想那样发展时，很容易告诉我们自己，那是别人或是事件的错。 However, our success depends only on ourselves! Of course, some are born rich, others poor. Some have suffered a lot and others less. Success does not depend on chance or fate. It depends on our ability to dream, to take action and persevere even when we fail. 可是，我们的成功只依赖于我们自己。当然，有的人生来富裕，另一些人则贫穷。有些人遭受很多，而另一些人却没有。成功不依赖于机遇或者命运。它依赖于我们梦的能力，行动的能力已经即使失败仍然坚持的能力。3 You need to develop the ability to make yourself depend on your own potential to take responsibility for the results you get in your life. Whenever you blame others, you give yourself excuses for doing nothing; every time you criticize a person unnecessarily or situation, you suffer. Without knowing it, you reject the phenomenal power that you have on your life. 你需要发展能力，能让你自己依靠你潜在的力量去为你生命的结果负责任。每当你归咎于他人，你为一事无成寻找借口；每次你批评不必要的人或者境遇，还是得你承受。如果不了解的话 ，你就拒绝了知觉生命的强大力量。3 Whenever you listen to your fears, when you say that success is not for you, you suffer. Whenever you are unwilling to go beyond a lack of will, you suffer. You cannot indulge in your own weaknesses and let others choose events and opportunities for you to get what you want! 每次你听从自己的胆怯，你说成功不属于你，你认了。每次你不愿意前进，缺乏意志，你认了。你不能沉陷于自己的弱势，让他人选择属于你得到的事件和机遇。 Imagine you are driving a car and this car is your life. Not taking responsibility for your life is to remain in the passenger seat. Sure, you "drive" your life sometimes. But the goal is to always be in the driver's seat. 设想你一下你正开着一辆车，这辆车就是你的生活。不对生活负责就是保留在乘客的座位。当然，有时你能“驾驭”自己的生活。但是目标应该是总是在驾驶员的位置上。 When you do not take responsibility for your life, you perceive yourself as a victim. You remain passive and convince yourself that you have nothing to hope for. Instead of climbing to the top of your life, you let yourself be buried ever deeper by inaction. 当你不对自己的生活负责，你把自己当成一个受害者。你消极被动，让自己确信你没有希冀的事。你不是攀上生命的高峰，而是让自己深埋于消极被动中。 You end up feeling incapable, powerless. You lock yourself in the prison that you make for yourself. Your newspaper loses its attraction and the pleasure of living decreases. Over time, the conviction of your permanent uselessness and lack of meaning can even make you want to die. 你在无能无力中老去。你把自己锁在自己造就的牢狱中。你的新闻失去了它的吸引力以及生命消逝的快乐。随着时间，你对自己永远无用和缺乏意义的确信甚至会让你想去死。 To escape this prison and empower yourself, you must identify areas of your life over which you have power. When you criticize others, or rehash past events that you cannot change, you focus your precious energies on unnecessary concerns. 要逃离这个牢狱和提升自己的能力，你必须确定你生命中你拥有掌控力量的区域。当你批判他人时，或者重新处理那些你不能改变的过去的事件时，你会把自己宝贵的精力集中于不必要的担心上。 It is very easy to focus on unnecessary areas, but unfortunately it generates negative emotions. Instead, you should focus your efforts on what you really control. This area covers all your life that you can change, starting with yourself. 很容易集中于没有必要的领域里，但是不幸的是，那会产生消极的情绪。所以，你必须将自己的努力集中于你真正能掌控的事物上。这个领域覆盖你能改变的生活，从你自己开始。 As Alexander Graham Bell said, when one door closes, another door opens. The problem is that we mourn for too long the door that closed and we fail to look at new opportunities before us. 正如亚历山大·格雷厄姆·贝尔（电话发明者）所说，当一扇门打开，另一扇门也打开。问题是，我们久久地追悼关闭的门，我们未能着眼于我们面前的新的机遇。 In other words, we focus on unnecessary concerns rather than act on what we can control. The more we focus on what we can control, the more we increase the power we have over our own lives and stop wasting our efforts. 换句话说，我们集中注意于不必要的担心上，而不是在我们所能控制的上行动。我们越多的集中于我们所能控制的，我们就越能增加我们控制我们自己生活和停止浪费我们努力的力量。 Stop complaining about everything that does not please you! This only serves to maintain your sense of outrage and helplessness. Instead of swimming against the tide, against anything that does not satisfy you, use the strengths of the current to direct you and move faster in the direction of your dreams! Here are some examples to help you clearly define the difference between these two core "zones" of your life: 不要再抱怨那些不如你意的每一件事！这只能使你愤慨和无助。不是逆潮而游，与一些不能使你满意的事物顽抗，而是用你当前的力量导引你，使你在追梦的路上走得更快。这有些例子能帮你更明确地区分这些你生活中的两个核心“区域”。 Self-Empowerment 自我增能 •Setting goals 设定目标 •Feeding your personal vision 增长个人的视野 •Being creative 变得有创造力 •Learning 学习 •Preventing and managing conflicts 预防和管理冲突 Self-Disempowerment
自我减能 •Believing that we cannot improve 认为我们不能提升自己 •Speaking against others 与他人唇舌交战 •Remaining passive 保持被动 •Complaining 抱怨 •Wanting others to think like us 想让他人与我们一样思考 |
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