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天如何打破习惯1
So you want to break a bad habit, well you’re reading the right article. This brief article will let you know why you have bad habits as well as how you can break those bad habits. 你想打破坏习惯，现在你就正在读一篇正确的文章。这篇简洁的文章会让你知道，为什么你会有坏习惯，同时也让你知道如何打破那些坏习惯。 Where Did the Habit Come From? 习惯来自哪里？ A parent, a friend, a relative, perhaps the media taught you something that you wish you never learned. They taught you how to smoke a cigarette, gamble, eat excessively, et cetera, and they may have even taught you this unaware. 父母、朋友、亲人，可能媒体都在教你你祈祷永远不要学的东西。他们教你如何抽香烟、赌博、狂吃，等等其他的，他们可能是在无意识中教的。 So you picked up the habit, it was fun, it was relaxing, the only problem was it was also… “bad;” bad for your health, bad for your relationships, and ultimately bad for your long-term happiness. 所以你学会了那些习惯，那些习惯很有趣、很轻松，唯一的问题是那也很“坏”：对你的健康有害，对你的人际关系有害，最终对你的长期幸福有害。 Why Do You Have the Habit? 你为什么会有习惯？ Well since it’s so “bad,” why don’t you just get rid of it? 既然习惯很“坏”，你为什么不干脆改掉呢？ Of course it’s not that simple (it never is); it’s called a habit for a reason. You have developed a habit that you depend on. As Samuel Johnson so eloquently said, “The chains of habit are generally too small to be felt until they are too strong to be broken.” 当然那没那么简单（从来都不是），这被称为一种习惯是有原因的。你发展了一种你依赖的习惯，正如塞缪尔·约翰逊富有表现力地说：“习惯的链条一般都太微弱了，根本感觉不到，知道它们强大到难以被打破时才感觉得出来。” You now depend on this habit for comfort, happiness, freedom from boredom, and as a stress reliever. 你现在依赖这个习惯从无聊中寻求舒适、幸福、自由，做一个压力释放者。 Perhaps most importantly, you’ve come to depend on the habit to relieve you from the pain of living. Something in your life is causing you pain, and instead of dealing with the pain, you’ve opted for drugs. 可能更重要的是，你渐渐依赖习惯将自己从生活的痛苦中释放出来。你生活中的有些东西使你遭受痛苦，而不是解决痛苦，你就选择了药物。 Every time you perform that habit (e.g. eat that extra donut) your brain gets a shot of dopamine and you feel good; like the old saints use to sing, “You feel like going on.” 每次你开始那个习惯（例如，吃过多的炸面圈），你的脑袋得到一阵多巴胺(一种治脑神经病的药物)的冲击，你感觉不错，就像古老的圣贤唱的那样，“你感觉生活在继续。” That good feeling numbs out the real pain in your life. The pain caused because you feel unappreciated, unimportant, or unfulfilled. 那种好的感觉麻木了你生活中的痛苦。痛苦是因为你感觉没有得到赏识，不被重视，没有得到满足。 How Do You Break the Habit? 如何打破你的习惯？ Breaking the habit is the easy part. The hard part is figuring out why you have the habit and solving the real issues related to the pain that you feel everyday. 打破习惯是容易的部分，难的部分是找出你为什么会有那个习惯，然后解决和你每天感受到的痛苦相关的实际问题。 It’s very difficult to stop taking Novocain when you’ve just had a tooth extracted from your mouth. Why? Because you don’t want to deal with the pain caused by the extraction, you need the drug to cope with the pain, to assist you in continuing to live your life normally. 当你拔牙的时候你很难不使用奴佛卡因（局部麻醉剂）。为什么？因为你不想拔牙的时候痛，你需要药物来止痛，帮助你在生活中正常地继续生活。 To break the habit you must find the source of your pain. You must uncover the pain and deal with the pain. This is hard work; this may take a long time, you may need to remove some people from your life, you may need to add some people to your life, you may need to forgive someone; you may need to start living. 要打破习惯你必须找到痛苦的源头，你必须发现痛苦然后解决痛苦。这是个困难的工作，可能需要花很长的时间，你需要从你的生活中移出一些人，也可能在你的生活中加进一些人，你也可能忘记一些人，你也可能重新开始生活。 Whatever the issue, it must be uprooted from the very root, and that root is unhappiness; when you deal with the unhappiness, breaking the habit becomes easy. 不管是什么问题，必须从根除去，根源就是不幸福。当你处理不幸后，打破习惯就变得容易了。 The Easy Part 容易的部分 Once you are free from “unhappiness and pain,” it’s just a matter of committing to replace the bad habit with a good one (a good habit that’s related to the bad habit – i.e. replace overeating with jogging). 一旦你摆脱了“不幸和痛苦”，那就是用好习惯（和坏习惯有关的好习惯——用慢跑取代饮食过量）代替坏习惯的问题了。 You no longer need this bad habit, so get rid of it, don’t let it hang around just because it’s a “habit;” habits that have no use are relatively easy to break. 你不再需要这个坏习惯了，所以跟除掉吧，别让它再逗留，因为它是“习惯”，没有用的习惯相对来说要容易打破。 So use your discipline to “force your hand” initially into breaking the bad habit with a good one. With several months of practice the good habit will take over, and you’ll begin to forget that you ever struggled with the old. 所以用你的原则“迫使你的手”最先从坏习惯开始打破，然后取代为好习惯。经过几个月的练习，好习惯就会取代坏习惯，然后你就会开始忘记你曾经纠结过以前的坏习惯。 Thank you for reading! 感谢您的阅读! |
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