自我限制：成功的钥匙

自我限制：成功的钥匙！

 Is it really possible to be more successful by limiting yourself?

自我限制真的可能更成功吗？

Yes.

答案是肯定的。

But limits are supposed to be evil and dirty; the enemies to our inner free spirit. Right?

但限制通常被认为是有害的、恶劣的，是自由的敌人，这种观点正确么？

Well what I’ve realized is that sometimes limits are actually the key to your success.

我所意识到的是，有时，限制其实是成功的钥匙。

The Difference

不同之处

There are unconsciously ingrained self-limitations. And there are consciously chosen self-limitations.

既存在无意识地、根深蒂固的自我限制，又存在有意识地、选择性自我限制。

Unconsciously habituated limitations are the kind that just happen to you. You didn’t really choose them, they just kind of showed up. They might be the result of human domestication, institutionalization, or public schooling. Wherever they come from, you probably didn’t consciously decide that you want those self-defeating limits as part of your automatic behavior. No one wants that. To choose something like that on a conscious level would be pretty silly.

无意识的习惯性限制是那些只发生在你身上的事情。你并不是真正地选择了它们，只是由于它们出现了。它们可能是人类教化、制度化或公共教育的结果。无论它们的起源是什么，你极可能无法有意识地决定你希望这些自我挫败的限制成为你的惯性行为的一部分，没有人愿意这样。有意识地选择这样一些事情真的很愚蠢。

So that type of limiting conditioning really sucks.

所以这种限制条件真的很差劲。

And it’s no wonder that we become so loathing to the sight or mention of limits.

难怪我们会如此嫌恶地看待或提及限制。

But it turns out there is actually such a thing as positive limits. That sounds crazy, doesn’t it?

但实际上的确存在积极性限制。这听起来很疯狂，不是吗？

That’s what I first thought.

这是我的第一个念头。

I’ve always been a kind of nonconformist. I’ve long had a streak of wanting to test limits, break rules, and everything else that goes along with a rebellious mindset. Getting into self-development only added to that, as most gurus and “experts” in the human development field will tell you “There are no limits, but the ones you place on yourself.”

我一直是那种不愿墨守陈规的人，一直有想测试极限、打破规则的倾向，并抱着逆反的心态顺应每件事情。自我发展只是附加值，因为大多数人类发展领域的专家或“教授”将会告诉你“根本没有极限，那只是你为自己设定的！”

Well, what they never really tell you is that some of those limits you place on yourself can be positive.

好吧，他们所说的绝不是真正地告诉你，你为自己设定的这些限制有积极作用。

When you think of a “life without limits” you have a tendency to think that you can do anything. Which is true, to a certain extent. But the problem with the no limit perspective is that it avoids criticism because every critique is labeled as a “limitation.” Real legitimate issues are dismissed as impossibility thinking. Real legitimate problems are seen as selling yourself short, and stifling your potential.

当你思考“生命没有限制”的时候，你会有一种倾向，觉得自己能做任何事情。在一定程度上，这是正确的，但不存在限制这一观点引发的问题是，它避免了批评，因为每个批判都是黏上“限制”标签的。真正合理的问题在无法思考时，会予以驳回。真正合理的问题被视为推销短处，抑制潜能。

But this is just part of it. The real issue comes when you see all limits as evil without any evaluation.

但这只是它的一部分。当你认为所有的限制都是没有任何价值的恶魔时，真正的问题也就产生了。

Because some limits are actually beneficial. Sure, you can do anything you want, but you can’t do everything. The no limit mindset doesn’t really like this idea, though; it avoids boundaries and dismisses them as snares that would hold it down.

因为一些限制通常是有益的。当然，你能做任何你想做的事情，但是你无法做每件事情。尽管，没有限制的心态并不是这种想法，它应该是绕过界限，像陷阱一样抑制界限并最终解决它们。

Here’s the hidden irony:

以下是隐藏的讽刺：

The no-limit mindset is actually an act of limitation. 

没有限制的意识形态通常是限制的表现。

Once you’ve put yourself in a pattern of rejecting all limitation, you’ve embraced a fixed state of being. Your no-limit policy has deceptively limited you.

一旦陷入拒绝所有限制的模式，你就会信奉一种固定的生命形态。你的无限制规则迷惑地限制了你。

A few of the positive limits I’ve implemented

我执行的一些有用的限制：

I’ve come to realize in my own life that some limitations are positive and necessary. They help me achieve greater levels of success than I could have without them.

我意识到，在生活中，一些限制是积极的，必需的。它们帮助我达到更高的成功水平。

I limit myself by only focusing on one themer direction for improvement each month. 

我每个月会限制自己只在一个主题或发展方向上改善。

I limit myself to working on only the most important task every morning. 

我每天早上限制自己只为最重要的任务工作。

I limit myself to a maximum of 90 minute periods of work, then take at least a 10 minute break. 

我限制自己持续工作最长的时间为90分钟，然后至少休息10分钟。

I limit the number of projects I will work on at a time. 

我限制项目的数量，我会按照时间段工作。

I limit myself to the number of times I will check email every day. 

我现在每天限制自己查看电邮的次数。

I limit myself by not working on Saturday and Sunday. 

我限制自己周六和周末不工作。

I limit the amount of time I spend on writing blog posts. 

我限制自己写博客的时间。

I limit the number of coaching clients I will take on at a time. 

我限制自己每次指导顾客的数量。

These are just a few examples of way I embrace conscious limitation in my life.

这些只是我有意识进行限制的例子。

I’m sure you can think of way that you can implement limits in your life, in a way that serves and empowers you. And the good news is, you don’t have to disband your quest to obliterate self-defeating limits. Just take an intelligent approach to the limits you let into your life.

我肯定，你会思考你在生活中需要执行的限制，它们会更好地为你服务，让你更强大。好消息是，你无需撤销消灭自我挫败的限制。只需采用明智的方法规限你的生活。

Coming from someone who’s consistently blacklisted limits from his life, I can fervently tell you that they’re not all that bad. What matters is what you do with them. And more importantly, that you choose them, they don’t choose you.

我一直将限制从生活中拉入黑名单，我能真诚地告诉你们，它们并不都是有害的。重点是，你如何根据他们去做。而更重要的是，是你选择他们，而非他们选择你。