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1. Transactional Analysis Games People Play
2. Ego StatesEgo States in ManParentalAdultChild“Do as I say!”“I’ll be frank with you..”“What shall I do?”
3. Strokes – the result of hungerStructure HungerStimulus HungerPosition HungerPeople ‘hunger’ for recognition
4. Strokes“Warm fuzzies”“Cold pricklies”PositiveNegativeRecognition | Attention | Responsiveness
5. Theories governing behaviourGene theory – I am made that wayMake me feel theory – You make me feelYou-owe me theory – If only you changeSubconscious theory – Suddenly you got hold of me and I could do nothing.The fate theory – It was willed by Him
6. Types of StrokesConditionalPositive – “You’ve made a fantastic presentation!”Negative – “That was the worst report I ever read.”UnconditionalPositive – “You’re a nice guy!”Negative – “I’ve never seen anyone as arrogant as you.”Seek out ways to give more unconditional positive responses.Listen carefully to positive strokes from others.Everyone occupies a preferred basic life position (BLP).
7. The Power of Scripts“I won't amount to anything and I deserved to be locked up in a prison”
8. Life Scripts – Traps Abandonment “I get desperate when someone I love moves away”Mistrust“I’m angry about what people have done to me”Emotional deprivation“I feel disconnected, even from people closest to me” Dependence“I find everyday life overwhelming”
9. Life Scripts – Traps Vulnerability“Something bad is about to happen”Defectiveness“I’m inherently flawed”Subjugation“If I don’t give in to others, they will reject me”Failure“I don’t have any special talents”
10. How Scripts Shape Life
11. How Scripts Shape Life
12. ‘Scripting’ your own lifeArmstrongAlfred NobelEminemHarbhajanHelen Keller
13. Games People PlayGreeting“Hello, how are you?”“I’m good, what about you?”CamouflageIndirect hints – barely perceptible “Wow, Bill lost 20 pounds. He looks great!”CornerDamned if you do, damned if you don’tMeeting“Oh, so pleased to meet you!”Wooden Leg Eliciting sympathy – using excuses“How can I be patient with kids? I am short-tempered!!”
14. Games People PlaySwitch – reversal in roles/positionsThe victim-persecutor role reversalCross – disorientation between the two when switch happensPayoff – person getting justification for inaction and attention
15. One life – that’s all we have. What do you want to do with yours?
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