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做人四个准则（《人生实用的四句话》）
Four criteria life
人的一生中，遇到贵人不容易，要明白为人处世的道理也不容易。
Person's life experience elegant is not easy to understand the truth and acted not easy.
第一：不要盘算太多，要顺其自然
First: Do not plan too much to go with the flow
做一个人不要盘算太多，只要自身努力够了，就不要拼命去求人，有时想的越多，心越急就越得不到回报；等你不想的时候，它就会意想不到地属于你。有些潜规则与不能把握的东西，还是顺其自然。人的进步与发展是相对的，该是你的东西终归是你的，不要强求。
Do not plan to make a person too much as long as enough of their own efforts do not hard to ask for help and sometimes think the more the more urgent the more the heart not return; so when you do not want it will belong to you unexpectedly. Some of the unspoken rules and can not grasp things or go with the flow. The progress and development of people is relative that is your thing after all is you do not insist.
第二：压抑自己没必要，奉承巴结要适度
Second: no need to suppress their own flattery flattery to moderate
不要压抑自己，也不要巴结别人。乡下与城里、下属与上司、穷人与富人不可能对等，压抑自己是完全没有必要的。相对于趾高气昂的人，你再怎么尊重他，他也不会平等对你。因此，奉承、巴结要适度——他永远不会因为同情而施舍你。不管出身低微，还是处境艰难，都不要寄希望于他人礼遇，惟有保持应有的人格力量，直面人生，当说时就说，当做时就做，别心虚和畏首畏尾，就不会轻易让人看不起，也将赢得更多平等的机会和人的尊重。
Do not suppress their own and do not curry favor with others. The countryside and the city under and boss rich and poor is not possible so depressed that he is totally unnecessary. Relative to the airs of the people no matter how you respect him he would not equal to you. Therefore flattery flattery to moderate - he'll never be sympathetic to the charity you. Regardless of humble origin or difficult situation do not hope courtesy to others only to maintain proper personality face life when that time said as the time to do do not be timid and timid they will not easily make people look down on will also win more equal opportunities and respect for human beings.
第三：不要对谁特好，也不要对谁都趾高气扬、不肖一顾
Third: Do not who is especially good and do not arrogance to anyone unworthy of a care
拼命三郎值得肯定，但是要掌握好火候，因为有个基本现实是，多数人并不愿意看着你进步。不论你怎么做，最终还是难逃论资排辈、打钩与画圈的命运。你越是想进步就越难进步，越想做事往往越做不成事，个中缘由不言而喻，我们无须埋怨谁，关键是要学会随机应变的能力。工作中不要对谁特别好，也不要对谁特别不好，也不要对谁不好，不要引起公愤，成为公众不愉快的对象。“物以类聚，人以群分”。任何单位，任何群体，人际关系结构都离不开“三三制”，具体到个人身上就是三分之一的人对你一般，三分之一的人对你不“感冒”，三分之一的人对你好。这与我们常说的“三分之一的人在干、三分之一的人在看、三分之一的人在捣蛋”同理。所以，必须因人而异，好的要保持，中立的要争取，敌意的要宽容。永远不要被少数人所利用。
Workaholic worthy of recognition but to master the heat because there is a basic reality is that most people do not want to see your progress. No matter how you do eventually escape the seniority the fate of tick and circle. The more you progress to progress to more difficult more they want to do things more often impossible to do things and one reason is self-evident we do not complain about who the key is to learn to be instinctive. Do not work who are particularly good and who do not particularly bad not on who is not good not public outrage as the public is not happy objects. "Like attracts like people in groups." Any unit any group relationship structure are inseparable from the "three-three" system that is specific to the individual one-third of the people in your general one third of the people you do not "cold" one-third of the Hello one person. This we have often said "one third of the people in the dry one-third of people are looking at a third of people in the mischief-making" empathy. Therefore we must vary to maintain a good neutral to fight hostility to tolerance. Never use a small number of people.
第四：相信自己比依赖别人重要
Fourth: I believe its important than relying on others
做一个人，必须要有思想，有社会责任感，相信自己比依赖别人重要。不同的人做事肯定不一样，上司一般都会看出来的。只要尽心尽力做事，就不会被埋没，除非你对自己的能力有怀疑。关键是要摆正心态，有机会时就为社会多做点儿什么，没机会时要记住“为自己打工”，积累更多的有形无形资本，为自己做再多的事情也不过分，不论人生给予际遇如何，及时努力都不会错。是的，不论怎么用尽心机，都不如静心做事。尤其是多做一些能够体现自身价值的事，这会让我们终生受益。
A human being there must be thinking social responsibility believe in yourself than rely on others important. Things to different people certainly do not like your boss will usually see out of. As long as their best work will not be buried unless you have doubts about their ability. The key is to put right state of mind when the opportunity arises to do something for the community no opportunities to remember "to work for themselves" the accumulation of more tangible and intangible assets to do more things for themselves is not excessive regardless of how fortunate in life to give timely efforts are wrong. Yes no matter how exhausted efforts do not do things such as meditation. Particular do more things that reflect their own values which makes us a lifetime.
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