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当你处于危机之中你才能真正了解你的核心圈子。当时我的网校已经公布了学校章程，可是我却被卡在一个对我的网校至关重要的验证程序上，更可怕的是该程序的截止日期正一天天逼近。 Defining My Inner Circle: 定义我的核心圈子 I had been looking at the options available to me without acquiring more debt. I had already acquired enough business debt and school loan debt. I was writing down my options, and by the time I finished writing down a list of fifty possible ways that I could raise the needed capital, I was at the deadline. I was at the deadline, so I did what I really didn't want to do. I called a few family members, and I put up a YouTube video about the challenge I was facing in a Facebook event. 当时我一直在寻找可以减少我负债比例的方案。我已经申请了足够多的商业贷款和学校贷款。我还把自己想到的其他可能在截止日期之前获取所需资金的50个选择写在了一个单子上。截止日期在临近，所以我那时做了某些我平时绝不会做的事情。我联系了几个亲戚，还在一个脸书的活动中发布了一个视频陈述我当前遇到的挑战。 Nothing came of the Facebook posting, but the phone calls translated into two thousand dollars in backing. I needed five thousand, but two thousand was enough to start. As I passionately shared how excited I was about starting on the path to my dreams, two of my uncles just agreed to help without really hearing what they were investing in. So, this time of crisis bound me to these two uncles, and I know that they were really part of my "inner circle;" they're people who will back you no matter what; they're people who believe in you. 脸书上面张贴的视频最后无疾而终，但是那几通电话却给我带来了2千美元的资金。我总共需要5千美元，但有了这两千美元也足够我开工了。我向每个人表达我心中的激动情绪，我终于向着自己的梦想迈出了一大步，我的两个叔叔都没有详细了解他们的投资就果断出钱帮助了我。这么一来，在这次危机之中我就得对两位叔叔的投资负责，而且我深深的明白了他们俩是我“核心圈子”的一份子。核心圈子里的人无论在你遇到什么情况都会帮助你并信任你。 Before I made the dials, there was a self-defeating thought that I had to overcome before I had enough confidence to make the calls. I believed that my family was all busy leading their own lives and would not help me because they had too many other obligations. Then, I asked myself this question. "What if I'm wrong?" From this question, I took on the attitude that I would investigate the reality of this belief. And, I discovered I was wrong. 在我拨打电话前，我不得不克服自己心中那种负面暗示以使我有足够的信心能够亲口向我的家人们求助。我当时认为我的家人们都在忙着过他们自己的日子，而且他们又有那么多其他方面的义务要履行，恐怕是难以向我伸出援手了。接着，我就问了自己一个问题：“如果我想错了呢？”想过这个问题以后，我抱着试一试的态度打了电话，结果事实证明我之前确实想错了。 Fixing My Inner Circle: 修复我的核心圈子 I did not just create these great relationships with my family without effort. I had visited both uncles that agreed to help me at least twice in the previous year. I made it a point to express my gratitude to them for being kind and encouraging while I was with them. Do you have friends or family like that? How often do you express your gratitude? 我并不是轻轻松松就建立了这样一种伟大的家庭关系。在前些年我每年都会亲自去我那两个叔叔家看望他们。当我和他们共处时，他们总是鼓励支持着我，而我也从没有忘记表达我对他们的感激。你也有这样的家人朋友吗？你是否经常对他们表示感激？ In order to make the YouTube video and share it with a few hundred friends on Facebook, I had to become vulnerable. I did not want anyone to know that I was struggling to get my company going which I so proudly displayed on my profile. I did not want to be thought of as a failure. But, I also realized that I would never be able to help these people like I wanted to if I wasn't completely honest. What relationships are your seeking to deepen now? Have you shared your dream with them? 为了做那个脸书上给数百人分享的视频，我变得很敏感。我不愿意让任何人知道我内心的挣扎，在我的公司里展示着的也是我充满豪情的侧脸。我不想被人说成是个失败者。但是我也意识到我没法帮助像我这样的虚伪的人。你现在寻求深化哪一种人际关系呢？你会和他们分享你的梦想吗？ Through this process I reached a new level of authenticity. Before that time I had been hiding my fascination with online marketing. I had also been hiding mt grand vision to start an online school. I did not want anyone to know about my intention to make a lot more money than the average person because I feared be judged as greedy. But, then I realized that I would not ever know who might want to partner with me in building the school if I did not share the vision with them. So, now I share myself. I know that you get what you give. Have you shared your worse and your best with others around you? 通过这件事，我变得越发真诚了。再此之前我一直执着于网络营销。我还带着宏大的愿景开办了一个网校。我不愿意让身边的人知道我想赚比普通人多得多的钱，因为我觉得这会让他们觉得我是个贪心的人。但后来我意识到如果我不愿意与人分享我的愿望，就不可能找到开办网校的合作伙伴。所以，现在我更坦诚了。我知道没有付出就没有回报。你曾经和你周围的人谈起过你的优缺点吗？ I have set up reminders in my daily agenda to pour life-giving encouragement into my "inner circle." Nurturing your inner circle is one of the most powerful things that you can do. You want to keep the relationships of your inner circle hot. I mean, if you think about the earth, the core is the hottest area. It is the place of the most creative power and activity. This is how your inner circle should be. If your closest relationships are cold, you will struggle. 我已经在每天的日程表中提醒自己要给核心圈子中的人更多温馨的鼓励。培养你的核心圈子也是你能做的最有益的事情之一。你要保持和圈子里的每个人的经常性的联系。我的意思是说，你可以想想地球，它的核心是它所以地方里面最热的。那里也是地球运动最剧烈的地方和最有创造力的地方。这也解释了你为什么应该有个核心圈子。如果你和你最亲密的人之间都关系冷淡，你将体会到生活的无力。 Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/6952925 |
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