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快乐旅途（双语） 邓笛/编译 刚结婚的时候，我们相信，日子会越过越好。 后来，我们有了孩子。 孩子小的时候，要我们把屎把尿，我们想，等他们长大一点就好了。孩子长成少年了，调皮捣蛋，惹人生气，我们想，过了这个年龄段，一切就好了。 我们不断地这样告诉自己，生活总有一天会完美的，是孩子上大学的时候，是我们挣了足够多的钱的时候，是我们买了汽车的时候，是我们功成名就的时候，是我们退了休的时候。 我们就像一只头上拴了胡萝卜的驴子一样，前面永远有一个甜美的诱惑，但这诱惑又是那么可望而不可及。最后的结局是，驴子累死了，还没有吃着胡萝卜。 我最喜欢作家艾尔弗雷得·索扎的一段话。他说：“长期以来，我总有一种感觉，以为生活——真正的生活，即将开始了，但是，每一次总会遇到这样那样的障碍，总有些事没有完成，需要打通关节；总有些债务没有偿还，需要付出努力和时间……似乎只有完成了这些，生活才会真正开始。有一天，我忽然明白，其实正是这些障碍，才构成了我们的生活。” 索扎的话让我明白，世上根本没有通往幸福的光明大道，幸福本身就是路。我们拥有的每一时刻都值得珍惜。要幸福，没有比此刻更好的时候了，因为没有人能够许诺给我们明天。 确实，没有什么时候比眼前的日子更好了。如果眼前的日子不是好日子，那么什么时候才是好日子呢？拥挤在闹腾的人群里有纷繁的温暖，独步于僻静山野间有清闲的幽雅，漫游在花红柳绿的意境里有诱人的美丽。所以，打定注意，从现在开始，就要快乐起来！不要等到毕业以后，不要等到减去十磅的体重之后，不要等到有了孩子，不要等到孩子长大成人，不要等到周末，不要等到春天，不要等到有了车有了房，不要等到放工资的时候……快乐是一段旅途，不是目的地！ 附原文： Happinessis a journey We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we're frustrated that the kids aren't old enough and we'll be more content when they are. After that, we're frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We'll certainly be happy when they're out of that stage. We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice vacation, when we retire. The truth is, there's no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when? Your life will always be filled with challenges. It's best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway. One of my favorite quotes comes from Alfred D. Souza. He said, "For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin —— real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, or a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life." This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. So, treasure every moment that you have and treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time with ... and remember that time waits for no one. So, stop waiting until you finish school, until you go back to school, until you lose ten pounds, until you gain ten pounds, until you have kids, until your kids leave the house, until you start work, until you retire, until you get married, until you get divorced, until Friday night, until Sunday morning, until you get a new car or home, until your car or home is paid off, until spring, until summer, until fall, until winter, until you're off welfare, until the first or fifteenth, until your song comes on, until you've had a drink, until you've sobered up, until you die, until you're born again to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy. Happiness is a journey, not a destination. |
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