Breakups suck (Bieber and Selena, we feel you。) But lots of times, they're
for the best. (Repeat after us: It's for the best。) Susan Elliot, relationship
counselor and author of Getting Past Your Breakup, and Caryn Beth Rosenthal and
Maryjane Fahey, authors Dumped and founders of dumped411.com, have tips on
moving
on。 1. Go Cold Turkey Staying in touch with him just keeps you stuck in the past, so at least in
the beginning, break off all contact: Unfriend him, remove his name from Gchat,
and delete him from your phone. If you have friends in common, take a temporary
hiatus from them,
too。 2. Travel somewhere fabulous Take a trip to a place that's the total opposite of where you live. So if
you're in the city, head to a yoga retreat or spend the weekend at a spa in the
country; if you're in a small town, party in Austin or Miami with your bestie.
Travel not in your budget right now? At least hang out in a different part of
town. When you're taking in a ton of new stimulation, you won't have a chance to
wallow in the
past。 3.Eat more salad The iconic post-breakup image is a girl in her sweats with a remote in one
hand and a pint of Ben & Jerry's in the other. But even though you might
feel like scarfing a dish of Cherry Garcia and vegging all day, you'll move on
faster by eating healthy and amping up your workouts (a natural endorphin
booster, btw). It's cheesy but true: When you feel terrific about how you look
on the outside, you'll feel better on the inside
too。 4. Flaunt Your Body 5. Schedule a Massage Getting pampering puts your focus back on you instead of the relationship.
Plus, getting a facial or pedicure makes you feel and look
fantastic。 6. Fake It 'Til You Make It Trust us on this one. Even though you're not over him, act like you are…and
it will eventually manifest. Force yourself to go to parties and flirt with
other guys, and one day you'll realize you're not just pretending to have fun or
playing along with the dude hitting on you-you're legitimately into
it。 7. Make Yourself Busy One of the hardest things about breaking up is no longer having a permanent
buddy to hang out with every night of the week. To fill the void, make more
plans-organize a weekly happy hour with coworkers and brunch dates with your
girls. Take on a new hobby, like wine and painting classes or volunteering to
walk dogs at an animal
shelter。 8. …But Also Let Yourself Cry Leave enough room in your sched for the occasional night when you stay home
and process the loss of your relationship. Give yourself an hour or two to let
it all out, because expressing your grief will help you heal. Just be sure to
end things on a positive note, like enjoying a bubblebath or chick
flick。 9. De-Clutter Your Life Toss his toiletries, send clothes he left at your place back to him, and put
any gifts or cards he gave you in a box in your closet (decide later whether you
want to keep them; if you purge everything right away, you might regret it).
Beyond ditching his stuff, shed clutter in general. Clearing out your place
helps clear out your mind and make room for the
new。 10. Take Off Your Blinders Many women either demonize or idolize their ex post-split.But if you only
focus on what an a-hole he was, you'll get bitter. And if allyou can remember is
his amazing qualities, no other guy will be able to measureup. So take a
relationship inventory: Make list of your ex's good and badtraits so you get a
complete picture of him. Then remind yourself that theperson you're ultimately
supposed to be with is out there, and the longer youstay entrenched in your ex,
the longer it'll take you to find
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