Post written by Zen Family Habits contributor Mandi from Life…Your Way.
帖子来自禅宗家庭习惯的投稿人曼迪《用你自己的方式生活》
One of my hopes for my children is that they’ll live a passionate life, not settling for less just because they’re told they should or because the alternative seems too hard. But living passionately isn’t easy because it involves taking risks, putting yourself out there and being confident, even when you fail. I don’t think it’s something that can be taught or learned. Our best hope is to model and encourage it.
Although I’m not an expert in this area (and because my kids are young, I don’t have any proof that any of these methods work, just being honest), but here are the methods we’re using to inspire our girls to live passionate lives:
对于孩子来说，我最大的愿望是他们将充满热情的生活。而不是仅仅满足于他们应该做什么或者生活对于他们来说很难选择。但是充满热情的生活是不容易的，可能你很投入，很自信。那是因为过这样的生活是有风险的，即使是失败。我认为一些东西不是被教会或者学会的。我们最大的希望是鼓励和模仿他们。尽管我不是这方面的专家，因为我的孩子们很年轻，坦白地说，我没有证据说明这些方法会起作用。但是我们有能让我们的女孩们生活的更热情的方法：
1. Let Them See Your Passion
一、让他们看到你的热情
A lot of “experts” talk about balance, which I think leaves many people discouraged and unhappy, to be honest. It’s okay for parents to have passions outside of our kids, and beyond being okay, I think it’s important that our kids see us excited and passionate about something other than them, even if it means sometimes they have to wait for our attention or help out around the house more.一些所谓的专家谈论平衡，坦白地说，我认为那些专家的建议让大家不自信，不开心。对于我们父母来说，我们可以有超出我们孩子的热情，甚至最的更好。让我们的孩子看到我们对某些事情感到兴奋和其他一些事情比他们更有热情，即使有时候他们不得不听从我们的命令，或者帮助我们做更多的家务。
2. Invite Them to Be Part of What Your Passionate About
二，邀请你的孩子成为你热情的一部分
In no way am I suggesting that you should force your children to share your interests, hobbies or passions, but let’s face it, kids like to be with their parents and would probably jump at the chance to participate with you in the things you’re excited about. Even if they don’t adopt those interests as their own, it’s still a good opportunity for them to see and participate in the things that get you excited.
For example, my husband loves to build and fly model airplanes, and even though our girls are too young to
really
participate, he invites them to watch, lets them “toss” his planes for him and answers all of their questions along the way.
我绝不建议你强迫你的孩子去分享你的兴趣，爱好或者热情，但是我们真面这些东西，孩子们会急切的成为分享你所激动的事情。虽然他们不会像自己的兴趣那样去接受，但是这仍然是一个让他们看到并参与让你很激动的事情的好方法。
比如，我的丈夫喜欢建造和玩飞机模型，尽管我们的女儿们太小并不能真正的参与进去。他请我的女儿们看他玩飞机模型，然后让他们投掷他的飞机模型并回答在次过程中的一切问题。
3. Help Them Pursue Their Own Passions
三，帮助他们追求他们自己的热情
Although I don’t have a ton of memories from my childhood, I distinctly remember being in elementary school and learning about animal classification. I decided then and there that I was going to be a zoologist, and I had a notebook filled with information about various animals. My parents indulged this love of animals and allowed me to hav e a variety of pets, including birds, an iguana, rabbits, a hamster who eventually had babies and so on.
Having a small pet store in your home isn’t the only way to engage your child’s love of animals, of course, and the important part is that you support their interests and help them find and outlet. You never know if one of your children might actually grow up to be a zoologist because of the foundation you laid during their childhood!
虽然我没有关于童年的太多记忆，但是我清晰的记得我在小学的时候学习动物分类的事情。我当场决定我要成为一个动物学家。我有一个写满着各种各样动物的信息的本子。我的父母亲对动物有着很深的感情并允许我养很多宠物，包括很多鸟，一只鬣蜥蜴，一窝兔子，还有一只最终生生育了仓鼠等等。
当然在家里建个宠物储藏室并不是唯一一种让你的孩子热爱动物的方法，重要的是你支持他们的兴趣，帮助他们找到自己的兴趣。你不知道就是因为你在童年时期为他们打下的基础，在你的孩子中间可能真的会成为一个生物学家。
4. Give Them Lots of Opportunities to Try New Things
四，给予他们更多的机会去尝试新事物
An important part of discovering what you’re passionate about is trying lots of new things. There could be a hobby, career or field of study out there that you don’t even know about that would capture your attention if you gave it a chance.
While lessons and hobbies can be expensive, trying new things doesn’t have to be. If you don’t have the money for your children to try a different hobby or sport every season, look for free opportunities. Visit the library and pick up all of the books they have on a single subject. Spend time video-hopping on YouTube for related videos. Scout thrift stores, Freecycle, Craigslist and yard sales for gently used equipment or supplies. And if you’re lucky enough to live near a metropolitan area like we do, take advantage of free museums and events.
How do you encourage your children to live passionately?
发现自己热情所在的重要部分是尝试新事物。那里可能有那些那不了解的爱好，职业或者研究领域都会吸引你的注意，如果你试着去尝试。
然而经验和爱好可能是需要花费很多，但是尝试新的事物并不一定。如果你没有钱让你的孩子每个季节都去尝试不同的爱好和体育活动，那就去找些免费的机会。去图书馆挑选针对一个主题的所有书。在视频网站上寻找相关的视频。关注那些便宜的商店，免费循环的克雷格列表网站以及家庭旧货，让他们成为你的装备物资。如果你有机会像我们一样住在大城市附近，那你们就有利用免费的图书馆等资源。
你有什么好的方法让你的孩子生活的充满热情呢？
