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I think of myself as the happiest person whenever I walk into a room, and most people notice my smile right away. Here are 20 ways you can find yourself as happy as I am.
每当我进入一个房间的时候，我总是认为自己是最幸福的人，大部分的人都会立刻注意到我的微笑。下面是20条习惯，可以让你和我一样幸福。
1. Let it go. 顺其自然 When someone criticizes you or says something not-so-nice, just forget it. Worse things have been uttered in human history. Even when you know the person meant it, remember that you become stronger by accepting them for who they are and knowing your capabilities. 当有人批评你或说你坏话时，别往心里去。人类历史上还发生过比这更糟糕的事情呢。即便你知道这个人不是在开玩笑，记住，学会接受并相信自己的能力会让你变得更强大。 2. Be kind. 待人友善 People who are mean and feel the need to put others down are insecure with themselves. But when you are kind to others, kindness returns to you. 有些人刻薄，喜欢贬低别人以求得自身的安全感。但当你友善地对待他人时，他们也会用友善回报你。 3. Think of your problems as challenges. 把问题看做挑战 When you come up against a difficulty, whether a person or an event, consider what your future self will have learned from it. I believe it was Kanye West, or maybe Nietszche, who said, "What doesn’t kill me makes me stronger." 遇到困难时，不论这困难是人还是事，想想你将会从中学到什么。记不清是坎耶维特斯(Kanye West)还是尼采(Nietszche)曾说过，“那些杀不死我的东西，只会让我变更强。” 4. Express gratitude. 学会表达感谢 When you let people know that you appreciate them, they are more willing to help you in the future. Saying thank you is more than good manners—it’s karma. 时时对人表达感谢之意会使他们在未来更愿意帮助你。说一句“谢谢”不仅仅是礼貌——凡事都有因果报应。 5. Dream big. 理想远大 The happiest person has reached the highest level of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs—self-actualization. If you want to be happy you must work hard to achieve something, and strive to attain that life goal. 最幸福的人已经达到马洛斯需求层次的最高层次——自我实现。想要幸福，你就得努力工作取得些成就，并努力实现人生目标。 6. Speak well of others. 称赞他人 The Buddhist notion of "right thought, right action" is an important one. It’s in the mind that negativity starts. By clearing your head of negative ideas of others, you will clear your mind of problems, worries and fears, and you won’t be tempted to gossip or speak ill and bring that negativity back to you. 佛语说“思想正确决定行动正确”，这是个很重要的观念。消极情绪是从思想中产生的。清除大脑中对他人的负面想法，就会清除你脑中的问题、担忧与恐惧，这样你就不想八卦或诋毁他人，也不会再把消极情绪带给自己。 7. Be in the now. 干什么想什么 Yes, you have to do your laundry and clean the bathroom when you get home, but while you’re here now eating this cheeseburger, just enjoy the cheeseburger. Then apply this lesson to all other moments of pleasure and work—you can deal with the little stuff later. 是的，你回家后需要洗衣服、打扫浴室，但现在你正在吃奶酪堡，那就好好享受现在的美食。把这个道理应用到其他的娱乐和工作时间——你可以等会儿再完成那些琐事。 8. Do not compare yourself to others. 不要把自己和他人作比较 As soon as you start this, you fall into a trap of ego, a grasping at the temporal, fleeting aspects of reality. Instead, think about what you have that makes you happy, or at least satisfied. 一旦开始，你便会陷入自我意识的陷阱、世俗的贪婪、即逝的现实。相反，想想你拥有的让你幸福的一切，或者至少让你满意的东西。 9. Realize you don’t need others’ approval. 清楚你不需要他人的认同 As long as you do what makes you happy, you don’t need other people to condone your actions. This will free you to act on what you believe, which will instill confidence into your every act. 只要你的作为让你开心，那么就不需要他人认同的你的行为。这将使你自由地做你信仰的事情，并且一举一动都充满自信。 10. Be honest. 诚信待人 Lies, even little ones, imply that you are willing to be lied to in return. But when you keep your conversation honest, you will maintain a higher level of integrity in your world. 谎言，即使是微不足道的小谎，都暗示着别人也可能对你撒谎。但如果你诚信待人，那么你的世界便会充满诚信。 |
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