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相亲成功的五大诀窍 5 Tips to a Successful Blind Date 相亲成功的五大诀窍 “I know the perfect guy for you!” Your best friend has decided she’s found the perfect man for you, and she’s set the two of you up on a blind date. Your palms are sweaty, and your heart is palpitating. How will you ever survive this night? Blind dates can induce feelings of anxiousness and worry, but do not fear; it is possible to survive a blind date and have a great night! A few simple steps can help you make the most of your blind date. “我认识一个男孩，真是太适合你啦！”你最好的朋友认定她已为你找到完美男友，并且准备帮你俩来一次相亲。你的手心都是汗，心脏也在悸动。你怎么熬过这个夜晚？相亲会引发焦虑，但是，不要害怕; 若想顺利度过相亲的夜晚，还是有可能的。几个简单的步骤可以帮助你成功相亲。 The Fallacy of Great Expectations 谬误：过高的期望值 When preparing for your date, it is best not to set the bar too high. If you begin the night expecting a muscular, suave knight in shining armor, you may be disappointed if a 250 pound mechanic shows up at your door. Be prepared to meet a gentleman of any race, height, and size. Tell yourself that you will have fun, regardless of how your suitor looks. 做相亲前准备时，期望值最好不要过高。约会前，如果你期待对方是一位肌肉发达，风流倜傥的“侠客”，结果出现在你家门口的却是一个重达250磅的机修工，你可能会感到失望。准备好迎接“任意款”的男人，不论他的种族，身高还是体型。不管相亲对象长啥样，告诉自己，相亲时你会玩得开心。 Choosing an Activity 挑选约会形式 This may very well be the most important aspect of having a successful blind date. A blind date should never involve going to a movie, play, or concert. Going to a movie is impersonal and will not allow you and your date to get to know one another. It is best that you and your partner choose an avenue that will allow the two of you to talk freely. A few good ideas would be going out to eat, going on a picnic, or going to the park. Both you and your suitor should play a role in selecting where the date takes place. Be sure to choose somewhere that makes you comfortable and will allow you to be relaxed. 这可能是一次成功相亲最重要的方面。相亲不应该仅仅是去看场电影，欣赏场戏剧或是听场音乐会。看电影没有私人空间，你和相亲对象没有机会了解彼此。你和他（她）最好选择一条林荫路，可以让你们两个人自由交谈。还有一些好办法：去外面吃饭，野餐，或者去公园。你和相亲对象在选择相亲地点这方面都起了一定的作用。一定要选择让你感到舒服，可以让你放松的地方约会。 Meeting in Public 在公开场所见面 The next step to making the most of your date is meeting in a public place. It is best if the two of you meet somewhere, rather than having your suitor pick you up from your home. This is important because it allows you a bit more control. Your date will not know your home address and you will have the freedom to drive yourself to and from the meeting place without awkward silence or forced conversation. This also will give you additional time to prepare yourself. Listen to some good music or your favorite CD to get yourself in a good mood. Try not to think about your feelings of fear or stress. 相亲顺利的下一步即是约在公共场所见面。你们两人最好在其他地方见面，而不是让相亲对象去你家接你。这点很重要，因为可以让你能对后期有所控制。你的约会对象不会知道你家的地址，你还可以自由驾车往返于约会地点，没有半点尴尬的沉默或勉强的谈话。去其他地方约会也会给你更多的时间来准备。听听好音乐或你喜欢的CD，给自己一个好心情。尽量不要去想你的恐惧或紧张情绪。 Spicing Things Up 增添点乐趣 Once you have arrived at the meeting place greet your suitor with a smile and friendly handshake, or a hug. If you are meeting at a restaurant, order your favorite nonalcoholic beverage and begin introducing yourself. Conversation is a pivotal point of the date. It sets the mood, and allows the two of you to get to know each other better. Here are a few do’s & don’ts to get the conversation started: 当你到达约会地点时，请给相亲对象一个微笑和友好的握手，或者是拥抱。如果你们约在餐厅见面，请点你喜爱的非酒精性饮料，并开始做自我介绍。谈话是约会的关键点。它影响着心情，让你们两个更好地了解彼此。这里有一些谈话中该做的和不该做的事情： Do: Introduce yourself by telling him a few details about yourself such as your name, what your occupation is, one interesting detail about yourself and what you like to do for fun. Allow him the opportunity to do the same. 建议事项：告诉他关于自己的一些细节，比如你的名字，职业，有趣的细节和你喜欢做的事情。这样也能让他做自我介绍。 Don’t: Dwell too much on yourself, or dominate the conversation. Talking too much can lead your suitor to lose interest very quickly. 禁忌事项：过多地谈论自己，或是成为谈话的主导。说得太多会导致相亲对象很快对你失去兴趣。 Do: Let your date know if you have kids. 建议事项：让相亲对象知道你是否有孩子。 Don’t: Dwell on your kids, or make the entire night about your daughter’s last Swan Lake performance. It is great to put your cards on the table, but it should not be the focus of your evening. 禁忌事项：过多谈论你的孩子，或整个晚上都在谈论你女儿上次的天鹅湖表演。像你这样开诚布公非常棒，但是这也不能是你当晚谈论的焦点。 Do: Be yourself! Don’t try to change who you are to accommodate what you think your date would be more interested in. If you present yourself as you are, there will be no surprises in the future. 建议事项：做你自己！不要试图把自己改造成你认为约会对象可能更感兴趣的样子。如果你真实地展示自己，后来的日子也不会有“惊喜”。 Do: Be relaxed and open minded. Be willing to get up and dance, or try a new dish. 建议事项：放松，思想保持开放。愿意站起来跳舞，或者尝试新的菜式。 Don’t: Drink too many alcoholic beverages. There is nothing worse than a drunk first date. Becoming inebriated could lead your date to see you as less classy and less worth his time. In addition you may end up doing or saying things that you will later regret. 禁忌事项：喝太多酒精类饮料。没有什么比第一次约会就酗酒更糟糕的了。喝醉酒可能会导致你的约会对象认为你不够优雅，不值得他为你花时间。另外，你们的关系可能会以你做出或者说出今后会后悔的事情而告终。 Ending the Night 结束约会之夜 Once the two of you have eaten your fill and thoroughly gotten to know each other, it’s time to head home. End the night by telling your date that you had a good night. Never invite your date back to your home on the first date. Give them a nice hug goodnight; promise to give them a call or text, and head home. You have just successfully survived a blind date! 当你们两个吃过饭后，那时已彻底地认识了对方，就到了回家的时候了。告诉你的约会对象，你度过了一个愉快的夜晚，就此结束约会之夜。不要第一次约会就邀请对方来家中做客。给他们一个热情的拥抱并且道晚安;答应会给他们打电话或发信息，然后各自回家。你就已经算相亲成功啦！ |
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