As young Chinese children head abroad to study, many anxious parents areopting to move with them, but some experts say the trend is a double-edgedsword, as Zhao Xinying reports.
Tang Xiaobing hasn't seen her 14-year-old son since March when she left him in the UnitedStates and traveled back to China alone. Now, the 45-year-old Beijing resident faces theprospect of another eight months of separation－and all because she tried to do the rightthing.
When her son began studying at a high school in the state of Connecticut in June 2013,Tang became one of a growing number of Chinese parents who move abroad and take upresidence close to their offspring. Despite speaking little English and fully aware that shewould see little of her son, and would even have to e-mail the school to arrange meetingswith him, Tang traveled to the US in March 2013 to find a place to live.
When the boy started at the new school, she went with him. "I couldn't let my son go byhimself because he had never been apart from me during the past 14 years. Even thoughwe wouldn't see each other often, I hoped that he would feel, 'Ah, Mom isn't far away'whenever he thought about me," she said.
Now, though, she won't be able to visit the US again for at least a year because of visaissues, and the pain of separation grows stronger every day.
Tang's story is all too familiar to Li Peng, deputy general manager of Kentrexs EducationGroup, which arranges for young Chinese to study in the US. Li said that as an increasingnumber of students from well-to-do families head overseas at a young age to study, agrowing army of parents, mostly mothers, are accompanying them.
Li's agency arranges for about 300 Chinese students to study overseas every year. "Ofthose, about one or two dozen parents express a willingness to accompany their childrenwhatever the cost, and that number will keep on rising," he said.
However, Kentrexs doesn't encourage parents to move abroad and act as travelingcompanions, especially if the child is headed for the US.
"The education system in the US is mature, and young Chinese students will be asked toattend boarding schools or stay with host families. Whatever the circumstances, thechildren will be well-protected and supervised. As such, there's no need for parents to stayon, especially as they will seldom see their children even if they live in the same place," hesaid.
Despite the setbacks, Tang's only goal is to return to the US and be with her son. "I hope togo back as soon as possible and continue as his companion," she said.
Positions reversed
Wu Ping and her 15-year-old son, a ninth-grader at a high school, live in a rented house inNew Haven, home of the famous Yale University.
At first, Wu seems no different to any other Chinese mother overseas, but her story is verydifferent. "In the first place, rather than me coming here to keep an eye on my son, hecame here to keep an eye me while I recuperated after an illness," the 46-year-old Beijingnative said.
Wu was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2010, but when her condition worsened in 2013,her husband－Lang Yongchun, main anchor of Xinwen Lianbo, or News Simulcast, one ofChina's most influential television programs－decided to send her overseas in the hope thata change of environment and mood would assist her recovery. However, as Lang wasunable to be absent for long periods, the couple decided that their son would accompanyWu to the US.
At first, the boy lived with a host family, but now after 15 months, both mother and sonhave adapted well to life in the US, and Wu's health has improved so much that inSeptember, her son moved into her rented home so she could look after him herself.
During her time in the US, Wu has made many friends, most of them Chinese parents inNew Haven accompanying their children. The 20-strong group often meets to exchangeexperiences and stories about their children's education, and to offer a helping hand toanyone encountering difficulties.
"We've even hired an American teacher together, to teach us English－$30 an hour, twohours a week," Wu said.
The former magazine editor has also been writing a book about the US education system. "I hope to offer my opinions and experience to a larger number of Chinese parents becausea growing number of young Chinese kids are coming to the US to study, and it's good to beprepared," she said.
