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Sonia_n:
Q: My girlfriend is mad at me for "not standing up" for her. What should I do? (Please read the description before you answer.)
Q：因为我没能替她“挺身而出”，我女友在冲我发火。我该怎么办？（答前请阅读问题说明）
So my significant other and I are out and about. We have been dating
for about 8 months and things have been going well. I am 23 years old
and she is my age. We were at this party and she accidentally spilled
her drink on a girl in the club. The other girl started to flip out
and her boyfriend came to see what the fuss was all about. My
girlfriend apologized but that was not enough; the other girl threw
her drink on my girlfriend's face and her boyfriend shoved me. Being a
quiet and rational guy, I decided to walk away from the situation, so
I grabbed my girlfriend and we left.
我那位和我常一起出去玩。我们交往（拍拖）差不多8个月，一切都还不错。我23了，她跟我同岁。那次我们在聚会（派对）上，她不小心把饮料溅到夜总会一个女孩儿身上。那女孩儿就开始发飙，她男朋友也过来看到底为啥吵架。我女友道了歉，可这还不够；那女孩把她的饮料泼到我女友脸上，她男友也对我推推搡搡。我是个安静理智的人，当下决定离开这个是非之地，所以拉着女友走了。
Afterwards my girlfriend was quite upset at me for not standing up for
her. I really did not want to fight. What should I do?
事后我女友为了我没替她站出来很是懊恼。我确实不想打架。我该怎么办？
Answered by George Graham
回答者：乔治·格拉汉姆
Some time ago a friend of mine was drinking in a bar with his wife
when she accidentally did the same as OPs girlfriend and spilled some
drink on another girl.
前段时间，我一个朋友和妻子在酒吧喝东西时，她也像题主的女友那样，不小心把饮料溅在另一位女郎身上。
The girl she spilled the drink on went crazy and just like in OPs
story the boyfriend appeared to see what was happening. My friend says
his biggest mistake was not to just turn and leave immediately,instead
he stepped between the boyfriend and his wife to try to de-escalate
things. While he was talking to the boyfriend (who it turns out was
pretty chill) the crazy girlfriend smashed a glass in his wifes face.
被溅到饮料的那女郎跟发疯了一样，就像题主经历的情况，她男友也出现了，来看看发生了什么。我朋友说，他最大的错误在于没有马上转身离开，而是挡在那男友和自己妻子中间，企图平息纠纷。可在他跟男友（结果他倒是个冷静的人）说话的当儿，那疯女郎把一只玻璃杯砸到他妻子脸上了。
The boyfriend dragged the crazy girlfriend away and my friend called
for an ambulance and got his wife outside and began administering
first aid.
那男友把疯女友拖开，我朋友则打电话叫了救护车，还把他妻子弄到外面，开始作急救处理。
As they waited for the ambulance to come, crazy girl appeared again
having got away from her boyfriend, but this time she had a knife and
went for my friends wife again. This time he had no choice but to stop
her. Which he did very violently and very decisively.
就在他们等救护车的时候，疯女郎挣脱了她的男友再次现身，但这回她拿了把刀，又冲着我朋友的妻子来了。这次他没有别的选择，只能制止她，而且他下手很重很果断。
You see the thing is that he was a very big guy and an ex para who
knew how to do things like that. But as he tells it, he felt
responsible for the fact that because he hadn't immediately left with
his wife when crazy girl started, there were now two women going to
hospital and one of them going to jail. He blamed his own self
confidence as he thought trouble would come from the boyfriend and he
knew he could handle it. Because of that, he says, his wife was
scarred for life.
你睢，问题是他块头很大，又是名退役伞兵，知道该怎么对付这类情况。可据他说，他觉得要为酿成的后果负责，因为在那疯女郎开始发作时他没带着妻子马上离开，结果现在两个女人都得去医院，其中一个还要进监狱。他怪自己过于自信，以为麻烦会出自那男友，而且自己能对付得了。他说就因为这个，他妻子终身落了疤（留下了终身创伤）。
He says if he could do one thing differently that night it would have
been to do what OP did and grab his wife and leave.
他说，假如那天晚上他可以做出不同的选择，那么会是像题主那样，拉起妻子转身离开。
OP if your girlfriend has fantasies of you being some kind of
superhero fighting bad guys over a perceived slight to her dignity
then she clearly isn't living in the real world.
题主，如果你的女友把你幻想成某位超级英雄，她的尊严稍受亵渎，你就会去揍坏家伙一顿，那她显然不是活在现实世界里。
In the real world bar fights end up with victims like this:
在现实的世界中，但凡酒吧斗殴，收场时总少不了这样的受害者：
You did the right thing.
你做的对。
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几点说明：
- significant other 就是指“另一半”、“配偶”、“恋人”，不适合译成“女神”，那是goddess
- be out and about 一般就是指“出去玩”，多半在室外，但肯定不是窝在家
- date 一词我比较倾向于译成“交往”或“拍拖”，而不是“谈恋爱”。这个词在英语国家很通用，像blind-date，不一定是一定有“爱”在里面，感情是通过不断交往培养的
- spill 一词，用“洒”多含了“故意”的意思，像“洒水”、“洒水节”，我个人觉得用“溅”更好，是无意的，本来这词也是指“溅出”
- smash 一词上下文明确是砸了，还砸碎了，可说“砸碎在他妻子脸上”，就不舒服。光一个“砸”字，又指明了是玻璃杯，后面还要急救了，可见一定是碎了，不必再多个“碎”字了
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