有什么事改变了你的一生？

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有什么事改变了你的一生？

Nilesh Kumar

这件事发生在我大学第一个学期（我学的是电脑科学）。就在电脑程序课的第一次进实验室时。
所有人都进了实验室后,老师让我们启动系统,但我怎么也打不开。原因是：

第一,我从来没用过电脑,所以我根本不知道怎么启动和关闭它。
第二,我没有请任何人来帮我开电脑。因为我的英语和印地语说得都不怎么好,那时候我真的很害怕。

我是从印度北部邦一个很小的村子出来的,我只会说比哈尔方言。我的老师走过来问我,“你怎么还没打开电脑?” 我说我不会。
他就开始哈哈大笑,“连电脑都不会开你来学什么电脑科学工程?” 然后就走开了。

下课铃响了，大家都关了电脑。我还是在和这个电脑暗暗较劲,没有请教别人。老师朝我走过来，又开始笑，给全班人说我不会开电脑的笑话。然后实验室里的每个人都盯着我笑个不停。我真是难受得快哭出来了。最后,他才跟我说,按住ALT键跟F4就可以了。（到现在我都记得他的话。）

这件事真是一段我不堪回首的经历,但是我就把它看作一种动力，这样真的对我的自我成长有很大作用。
从那天开始，我就一直努力学习做到最好,现在对软件了解得非常透彻。我很明白像我这样出身的学生们的心情，我从不嘲笑他们,并且尽我的努力去帮助他们。
现在我大三了。上个月RetailOn公司到我们学校招聘,我在一面和二面都过关了,之后去了班加罗尔进行技术和人力部的面试,在我们大三的这批学生中我是唯一一个。

Rohit Kapoor

失恋

它让我明白，改变你的一生只在一个刹那。没有任何征兆，一个亲密的爱人就离开了你。

你生病了，去到一个很好的医院，检查身体过后发现自己没任何问题。呵呵，不是什么毛病都是你某个坏掉的器官引起的。

你出色的工作，有趣的小玩意，完美的简历—对你来说都没有任何意义了，因为你只想要那个特别的人回来。它让我知道，你能做得好一件事并见得你处理得好一段关系。

只有你的父母姐妹会来关心你。看看你现在的样子，你的朋友可能不会来找你，你前任的朋友都会假装不认识你，你的同事也许会给你一点私人空间，但是只有你的父母还在关心你，为你打气，为你重拾生活的勇气。

我终于发现所有的承诺只有在实现之后才叫承诺。曾经的海誓山盟、对未来的憧憬都是浮云。对他们来说，最重要的是开启自己的新生活，追寻自己的梦想。
那一句“为什么是我？”之后，你就懂得了，曾经的那段美好已经烟消云散了。生活就是让你不断成长，我学到的那些很小的东西都改变了我的人生观价值观。

Snehil Singh

死亡

2012年，我先后在九个月内失去了我们哥哥和妹妹。我那时17岁而且恰逢期末考试，我必须去参加。他们的死教会了我很多东西，让我彻底变了一个人。

它教会我，生命中没有什么是永恒不变的。你永远不知道下一秒会发生什么，不知道在那个转角什么在等着你。是你能做的最好的，就是努力微笑地面对现在的生活。

它让我明白时间有多宝贵。一旦流逝，就再也回不来了，下一秒一切都变成过去，你只有后悔的份。

它教我要学会放手。抓住不放对谁都没有好处。

要好好珍惜眼前人，和所有的人都和善有礼。

要好好听听自己内心的声音，不要鲁莽。因为世界上没有后悔药，愧疚会让你悔不当初。

它让我给生活设定一个目标，然后保持心情愉快。

它让我不在沉浸在悲伤中，想着自己有多可怜。顾影自怜，自怨自艾对你没什么好处，什么都会很快过去。

它让我不在害怕，该发生的躲也躲不掉。以前我就是一个胆小鬼但是现在我什么都不怕了，有什么事能比失去至亲还可怕呢？所以别再踟蹰不前，勇敢地做你想做的事。它让我有了一颗强大的内心并教会我在生活中勇往直前。

所以所有人都应该甩掉身上的束缚，朝着自己的目标勇往直前。
以前我们兄妹间感情非常深，现在我就是爸妈唯一的孩子了。这是个很艰难的时期，但是我想他们现在一定在另一个美好的世界过着无忧无虑的生活。死亡是一个很残忍的事，但是处理好它你就可以变成一个乐观而强大的人了，之后你就不会再为负面情绪烦恼了。

以下为英文原文：

Nilesh Kumar

This incident happened during my B.tech first semester (computer science). It was the first lab of computer programming class. All the students entered into the lab. We were asked to switch on the systems, but I couldn't start the system. The reason was,
1. I had no idea how to start and shutdown a computer because I never used it before.
2. I didn't ask anyone to help me either to start the computer. I was not fluent in Hindi or English. I was scared at that moment. I am from a small village in Uttar Pradesh (India), so the only language I could speak was Bhojpuri.
Then my teacher came to me and asked "tumne system kyu nhi start kiya?" (why didn't you start your system?).
I replied "Sir nhi pta kaise krte hai" (I don't know how to do it).
He started laughing and said "System start krna nhi aata aur branch le liye hai computer science.......sbko engineer hi ban-na hai"(huh!! you don't know how to start a system and you opted for Computer Science for engineering), and then he left...
The bell rang, and the period was over. Everyone shut down their systems, and I didn't ask for help as I was still struggling with the computer.
The teacher came to me and started laughing again and explained to the class about my computer knowledge.
Everyone in that lab was laughing and staring at me. I felt like crying.
At last, he told me to press Alt + F4 (I still remember his words).

This incident was really a bad experience for me, but I took this as a motivation. This really helped me to develop myself. Since that day, I am doing good and have proved myself. Today I have good knowledge of software and I also understand the problem of students who are from such a background. I don't laugh, but try to help them.

Now I am in 3rd year and last month, when the Retailon company came to our college for campus placement, I was the only student from the third year batch, who qualified both for the first and second round and went to Bangalore for a technical and HR interview.

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Rohit Kapoor

Break up.

It taught me that all it takes is a moment for your life to change. All of a sudden, a person very dear to you can decide to walk away.

You fall ill, go to a good hospital, get yourself checked just to find that you are perfectly fine. It taught me not every illness is caused by malfunctioning of internal organs.

All your life checklist-good job, cool gadgets, perfect resume- becomes useless because you want that someone special to come back. It taught me being good at things doesn't mean you'll be good in relationship.

All someone cares for you is your parents and siblings. Looking at your condition, your friends may leave you alone for sometime, your ex's friends may fail to recognize you, your colleagues may give you personal space but only your parents will keep calling you to reinstate your faith in life.

I realized all those promises were never meant to be kept. All those dreams which were shared together didn't matter. All that mattered to them was their new life and their dreams.

All great learning comes after "why me?" phase gets over. Life is about learning. I learnt many small things which shaped my perception and my life changed.

Snehil Singh

DEATH

I lost my brother and sister in a span of 9 months in 2012. I was 17 then and had to appear for my boards. Their death taught me a lot of things and has developed me into completely different person.

It taught me that there is nothing called Stability and Consistency in life.You can never be sure of what is going to happen or what awaits us. Enjoying and working hard in the present is the best one can do.

It taught me the value of time . Time once spent and gone will never come back. It will only be a part of your memories( good/bad) or regret.
It taught me to let things go. Holding something back can never do good to anyone.
It taught me to Value the person in front of me and share good bonds with everyone.

It taught me to listen to the heart and act accordingly. Beacause ,Regrets and Guilt are killing emotions.
It taught me to live with a purpose and stay happy .

It has made me think beyond my own problems and stop feeling sad on petty issues. Sadness , anger , envy are transient feelings and do never good.

It taught me to Stop fearing and accept what is to happen will happen.I was one fearful person but now I fear nothing because what is worst than losing your loved ones? Hence , do away with fear.
It made a strong person and taught me to Move ahead in life.

So , people move ahead and leave anything that is pulling you behind.
Understand your mission and march forward with determination to work towards it.

I was really close to my siblings and now I am the only child left of my parents . It was a hard phase but I know for sure that they are in a better place and enjoying a beautiful life . Death is a harsh reality but accepting this reality makes one a strong and cheerful person. It will unbound your spirit of all negative emotions .