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Isha编者按 And what about love? Is there such a thing as unconditional love among human beings? These are frequently asked questions. 爱是怎么回事？人与人之间有没有无条件的爱这回事？这些是人们常问的问题。  萨古鲁 Isha瑜伽大师 Generally, we have made relationships within frameworks that are comfortable and pro? table for us. People have physical, psychological, emotional, financial or social needs to fulfil. To fulfil these needs, one of the best ways is to tell people, ‘I love you.’This so-called ‘love’ has become like a mantra: open sesame. You can get what you want by saying it. 一般而言，我们建立起的关系都是让我们舒适或有利可图的，人有身体需求、心理需求、情感需求、经济需求或者社会需求需要得到满足。而满足这些需求的最佳方式就是告诉他人，“我爱你。”这种所谓的“爱”像咒语一样：芝麻开门。你说这句话可以得到你所想要的。 One day Shankaran Pillai went to a park. On a stone bench there sat a pretty woman. He went and settled down on the same bench. After a few minutes he moved a little closer to her. She moved away. Again he waited for a few minutes then inched a little closer to her. She moved way. He waited, then inched even closer. Then she moved to the very end of the bench. He reached out and put his hand on her. She shrugged him off. He sat there for a while, then he went down on his knees, plucked a flower, gave it to her and said, ‘I love you. I love you like I have never loved anybody in my life.’ 有一天，山卡兰·皮莱去了公园。公园的一张石椅上坐着一位美女。他走上前去，也坐到那张椅子上。几分钟后他向那个美女靠近了一点，她移开了一点，等了几分钟，他再次向美女靠近过去，她移开了。过了一会，他又靠近了，这时候她移到了椅子的边缘。他伸手搭住她，她推开了。他坐了一会，然后双膝跪地，摘了朵花送给她，说：“我爱你，我从来没有像爱你这样爱过任何人。” She melted. Nature took over and they had their way with each other. It was getting late in the evening; Shankaran Pillai got up and he said, ‘I need to leave. It’s eight o’clock. My wife will be waiting.’ 她被打动了，感性战胜了一切，他们在一起了。到了天黑的时候，山卡兰·皮莱站起身来说，“八点了，我得走了，我妻子要等我了。” She said, ‘What? You’re leaving? Just now you said you loved me!’ 她说，“什么？你要走？刚才你说爱我！” ‘Yes, but it’s time. I need to go.’ “是的，但是到时间了，我得走了。” Every action that we do is in some way to fulfil certain needs. If you see this, there is a possibility that you can grow into love as your natural quality. But you can go on fooling yourself into believing that the relationships you have made for convenience, comfort and well being are actually relationships of love. I am not saying there is no experience of love at all in those relationships, but it is within certain limitations. It does not matter how much ‘I love you’ has been said; if a few expectations and requisites are not fulfilled, things will fall apart. Love is a quality; it is not something to do with somebody else. 我们的每个行动都是从某种程度上满足我们的某些需求。如果你看到这一点，就有可能将爱发展成自然品质。但是你也可以继续欺骗自己，相信你为了方便、舒适、安乐而建立的关系其实是爱的关系。我并不是说在那些关系中根本没有爱的体验，但它是有某种局限的。不管说多少次“我爱你”，只要有几个期望和要求没有得到满足，关系就破裂了。爱是一种品质，与其他任何人都无关。 There is really no such thing as conditional love and unconditional love: it is just that there are conditions and there is love. When you talk about love, it has to be unconditional. The moment there is a condition, it just amounts to a transaction. Maybe a convenient transaction, maybe a good arrangement – maybe many of you made excellent arrangements in life – but that will not fulfil you; that will not transport you to another dimension. It is just convenient. When you say ‘love’, it need not necessarily be convenient; most of the time it is not. It takes life. 没有有条件的爱、无条件的爱这回事：条件是一回事，爱是另一回事。爱一定是无条件的，一旦有了条件，就是交易而已。可能是一个提供方便的交易，可能是一个好的安排——或许你们许多人都对生活做过非常好的安排——但是那不会满足你，不会将你带到另一个维度，只不过是方便。当你说“爱”，它未必是提供方便的，大多数时候不会，它需要的是生命的投入。 Love is not a great thing to do, because it eats you up. If you have to be in love, you should not be. The English expression‘falling in love’ is very signi? cant. You don’t climb in love, you don’t walk in love, you don’t stand in love, you fall in love. You as a person must be willing to fall, only then it can happen. If your personality is kept strong in the process, it is just a convenient situation, that’s all. We need to recognize what is a transaction and what is truly a love affair. A love affair need not be with any particular person; you could be having a great love affair, not with anybody in particular, but with life. 爱并不是要去做一件伟大的事情，因为它会耗尽你。如果你必须要去爱，你就不应当爱。英语表达中相爱是“掉进爱里”，这是非常重要的。你不是爬进爱里，不是走进爱里，不是站在爱里，你是掉进爱里。作为一个人你必须愿意掉进去，然后爱才会发生。如果在这个过程中你的个性依然很强，那就只是一个提供方便的情况，不过如此。我们需要认识什么是交易、什么是真正的爱。爱不需要与任何特定的人发生，你可以有一个美好的爱，但不是与任何人，而是与生活。 What you do, what you do not do, is according to the circumstances around you. Our actions are as the external situation demands. What you do outside is always subject to many conditions. But love is an inner state – how you are within yourself can definitely be unconditional. 你做什么、不做什么取决于你周围的环境。我们的行动是依据外部情况的需求。你外在做什么总是取决于各种情况，但是爱是一个内在的状态——你内在如何肯定是无条件的。 |
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