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英语口语 此生能遇见你，已然 幸福得一塌糊涂 Jimmy's Note 吉米老师前言：男女之间有纯洁的友谊么？你是怎么看的？ 论男女之间有无纯洁的友谊 It's one of the oldest questions known to man and woman: Can truly platonic relationships ever exist, or will there always be some bit of attraction there? Do you believe in friendship between men and women? 这是一个从来没有统一答案的千古难题：男女之间是否存在纯洁的友情？男女朋友真的能够摆脱两性之间的荷尔蒙吸引，成就一段柏拉图式的关系么？一份发表于《社会与人际关系期刊》上的研究指出，参与调查的志愿者中，62%的人表示性吸引会影响异性朋友之间的友谊。
Is it possible to be pure friends with someone of your opposite sex? There is no simple answer. Do you put aside your attraction to be friends? Do you just forget about it? But then, what happens the day it all comes flooding back to you unexpectedly? 你真的能和异性发展出一段纯洁的友谊么？这个问题不是简单几句就能说清楚的。你真的能够屏蔽异性朋友的荷尔蒙么？还是说你只是假装视而不见。如果有一天，友谊的小船挡不住风浪只能变成爱情的巨轮，你该怎么办？ 2. Some people think platonic friendship is possible.
There is no relationship that seems more genuine and tender than this one. From the outside they look like a couple – laughing together, smiling at each other, unable to be apart for too long. Asking for each other’s opinion before doing anything. Taking care of each other, being there when life is fun and when it’s less fun. Telling each other absolutely everything. Such a friendship is possible. But you have to set boundaries – if you get too close, love can catch you and not let you go until you give in. 有很多人觉得柏拉图式的关系在异性中是确实存在的。生活中，你会发现有一些异性表现的像情侣一样，却坚持宣称对方只是朋友——他们一起玩、一起笑、一起哭、一起闹。他们会在对方孤单、伤心的时候陪伴，会在分别后日日期盼相见。这样的友谊可能存在，但是，这种关系仿佛走在钢丝上，稍有不慎，两人可能真的擦出火花。 There is also awkwardness: People keep asking “Are you guys together?” You are used to that question. You act surprised, you look at each other, you laugh one more time and you say “What, us? Naaahhhh”. 3. Can heterosexual men and women ever be “just friends”? Moonlighting, Cheers, When Harry Met Sally, Friends, The Office, Scrubs, He’s Just Not That Into You – all…thrive on romantic tension and excitement portrayed between cross-sex ‘‘friends’’ who end up either in a romantic partnership or a temporary attempt at one. 男女之间的友情是不是最终都会变质呢？《蓝色月光侦探社》、《欢乐酒店》、《当哈利遇到莎莉》、《老友记》、《办公室》、《实习医生风云》、《他没那么喜欢你》……这一系列影视剧中都在上演异性朋友之间的友谊经过摩擦、碰撞，最终转化为一段爱情关系的经典剧情。 A new study in the journal Evolutionary Psychology has some compelling findings. The research, conducted in Norway, found that men and women fundamentally misunderstand each other: She interprets his signals of sexual interest as friendliness. He reads her signals of friendliness as sexual interest. 一项发表在《进化心理学》期刊上的研究表明，男性和女性对于友谊有着根本上的误解：女性常常把男性的性兴趣当作友好的信号，而男性常常把女性的友善当作性兴趣信号。由此促成了男女之间友谊的诞生。那这样看，男女之间是不是没有纯洁的友谊呢？ 4. Different perspectives of men and women. 男女之间是否存在纯洁的友谊呢？放一段绕口令，精华都在里面了： Men Men are more likely than women to think that their opposite-sex friends are attracted to them—a clearly misguided belief. In fact, men's estimates of how attractive they were to their female friends had virtually nothing to do with how these women actually felt, and almost everything to do with how the men themselves felt—basically, males assumed that any romantic attraction they experienced was mutual, and were blind to the actual level of romantic interest felt by their female friends. Women Women are generally blind to the mindset of their opposite-sex friends; because females generally were not attracted to their male friends, they assumed that this lack of attraction was mutual. As a result, men consistently overestimated the level of attraction felt by their female friends and women consistently underestimated the level of attraction felt by their male friends. There are good reasons for men and women to view friendships differently: The men reported moderate levels of attraction to (and desire to date) their friend regardless of their own current romantic involvement or their friend’s current romantic involvement. Women, whose long-term mating orientation tends to dominate, reported less desire to date their friend when they were already in a committed relationship. 男生认为没有。 女生认为有。 女生认为男生认为有。 男生认为女生认为没有。 男生认为没有大多是自己从来就没有。 女生认为有大多是自己一直就有。 一个男生，一个女生；一个没有，一个有。 但是男生认为女生也没有，女生认为男生有。 男生认为没有做了很多没有才会做的事，想了很多没有才会想的未来。 女生认为有接受着男生没有的好处，即使发现这是没有，仍然会安慰自己，这是有，这是有。 男生怕女生认为没有而失去女生，当女生问他的时候，仍会回答，有。 然后女生就确定了真的有。 免费送自然拼读法！ |
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