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2008年12月 不要彷徨，也许最重要的只是自由地飞翔 为了给已经写好的童话寓言找一张合适的图片，上网搜索到石磊的一篇文章，权作本文的前言。 飞翔是一种态度 看着青海湖上海鸥自由的飞翔，想起了儿时对自由飞翔的渴望，总希望早一点脱离父母的束缚，能在自己的一片天地里飞翔。长大后才知道在父母眼里并没有绝对的自由飞翔，即使你再成功，再出众，在父母眼里始终是长不大的孩子。飞翔只是一种态度。是对生活的态度，对工作的态度，对自己的态度。你可以选择逆风飞扬，也可以选择顺风翱翔，逆风可以让自己成长，为以后飞地更高做好沉淀，顺风能增加自信，让你更好的把握自己。每个人都应该像海鸥一样去自由飞翔，选择自己的飞翔状态和方式。 我想说：“飞翔不只是一种态度，当这种态度真正融入你生命的乐章之中，飞翔就是一种自然、鲜活的旅途人生。” 听着家人动情地念着《家有考生》上一篇文章“家长，一个无法选择却会影响孩子终生的职业。高考成功，是数以万记的考生十几年寒窗苦读的最终目标，未来几十年的路在这里起点。高考是他们的‘成年礼’-------”，听着这些貌似真理的混蛋逻辑文字，我虽然保持了必要的耐心去倾听，但自己的灵魂和思绪却早已飞到了遥远的大海，汹涌澎湃的海水无情地敲打着陡峭的岩壁、欢喜雀跃的乳白色浪花轻轻地抚慰着绵软的沙滩，高高在上的一朵巨大的白云在高傲地审视着海水们不断地潮起潮落，但在无尽的远方蔚蓝天空又仿佛和海洋融为一体。 陡峭的岩壁之上，几十支小海鸥在凉凉的海风撕掠下，早早地走出了各自的巢穴，开始了自己的清晨散步。成年的海鸥在附近海面的风浪中上下翻腾，已经在为弱小的生命准备可口的早餐。带着海水的新鲜，海鸥爸爸稍稍盘旋而上，就准确无误地将自己衔在口中的小鱼送到自己那在岩石板间徘徊的小海鸥面前。看着自己的小雏鸥一天天长大，已经步入壮年的海鸥爸爸开始不时利用休息时间，一起陪着小海鸥嬉戏玩耍，并不时地用翅膀煽打碎石来激励小雏鸥振翅跳跃。每逢和风细雨的时候，也抽出时间带着小雏鸥走下岩壁，来到距离海滩不高的一个平台联系滑翔。 又是一个阳光明媚的早晨，还像往常那样，小雏鸥练习不停地上下呼扇着自己的翅膀。但它那里知道，看着它一天天越来越油光发亮、黑白分明的羽毛，今天海鸥爸爸和妈妈已经决定让它开始从巢穴高台的直接飞翔。父子俩之间还是以往的吱吱哑哑般耳语，但这次已经不再是以往的共同散步，行进间小雏鸥发现自己已经被海鸥爸爸带到了悬崖尽头的一个死角，之前小雏鸥也多次来过这个地方，也在这里迎接过爸爸、妈妈送来的食物；但今天却非常特别，没有了新鲜的“三道纹”充饥，在这风和日丽的峡谷之上，它看到的只是海鸥爸爸坚毅的眼神和张开的翅膀；小雏鸥惊慌地四处张望，自己已经没有了退路。没有等待，也不必彷徨，小雏鸥独自站到悬崖边时，由于长期以来从小平台到沙滩的掠空而降式滑翔锻炼，加上近日来一些小伙伴们相继飞翔成功的榜样作用，自己也鼓起勇气振翅向峡谷飞去。 虽然海滩上海鸥妈妈早早地在那里等待和张望，但对于小雏鸥来讲，脚步腾空、振翅飞翔的一瞬间，还是对深深的峡谷充满了恐惧。没有目标、不知高低、无所谓远近，刚刚飞出的小雏鸥只有按着以往沙滩之上的小滑翔磨练，来静静地体会大峡谷的挑战。慢慢地，它发现了大峡谷气流的高低错落和轻重缓急，忽轻忽重、忽高忽低的气流带给它不再是简单的振翅盘旋，有时候，左轻右重、前低后高的螺旋式气流搞得你简直无法保持平衡。也正是这种涡流，使得小雏鸥掌握了在复杂的气流中不均匀振翅的新型体验。不时荡漾、不时盘旋的身体在自重的作用下不由自主地接近了海洋平面，之前小雏鸥已经也有过多次不慎落水的亲身体验，它已经清楚地知道了自己洁白羽毛带来的漂浮作用，所以，空中荡漾、盘旋的小雏鸥此次没有轻易地收起自己的翅膀，正当它想要尝试用自己的胸膛去迎接海浪冲击的当头，海面上一股新的气流突然地将它再次托起，无意间小雏鸥学会了在上升气流中向高空盘旋飞翔。当小雏鸥玩得实在是累得够戗时，它才慢慢飘落到海岸。就这样，从那天开始，小海鸥一步步地学习逆风飞翔的同时，也学会了俯冲和捕食，小海鸥长大了。 行动并不意味成功，但成功必须付注行动 上面这则自己瞎编乱造的童话寓言故事，其实非常简单，简单到只需要半句话就可以说明自己的观点。但，作为一个18岁孩子的父亲，难道就只是这么半句话吗？“一切全靠自己。”家长不是家庭、社会甚至自然界的神灵，更不是一个必须完美展示飞翔技巧的空中教练。家长也是自然界中普通一员，小海鸥要学会用年轻的翅膀去迎接早晨的阳光，已经步入中年的家长何尝不是在落日的余晖中重新面对暴风骤雨的考验。只要生命存在一天，你从此开始，需要做的最多的就是不停地飞翔。海鸥爸爸和妈妈们没有像人类一样相对固定的巢穴，也许这样的大自然才真正变得全新般和谐统一。 面对一个陌生、全新、开放和充满诱惑，也满是荆棘和风险的现实生活和人类世界里，18岁的成人礼——高考，虽然不像小雏鸥振翅飞翔般充满生命的挑战，但前辈的亲身体验中一点也不缺少狂风暴雨的考验。虽然未来的道路不像大峡谷那样深邃、恐怖，但漫漫人生路上，高考的经验只不过是你要面对的自己好好准备的一顿小小早餐。前途是那么渺茫，但你却不需要过于恐慌，因为无尽地飞翔才是证明生命存在的最真实的答案。虽然，在你飞翔的高空中无法辨认生活的方向，就像小海鸥无法看清海水中游荡的鱼群；虽然生活中没有神灵帮助你阻挡住失败的锤炼，就像小海鸥无法避免肆虐的风暴一样，你需要的就是一次次地俯冲、一遍遍地再次起飞，也许这样你才是你捕捉生命营养的最为自然方式。 生活中也许生来就没有什么远大不远大的目标，没有什么适合不适合的专业，振翅高飞本身就不需要什么目标明确或者什么统揽全局，自由飞翔更不取决于你的个人喜好或者什么伟大理想，生命的快乐与痛苦总是共生共亡，生命中失败的挫折自然地造就了最为真实的成功的喜悦、无垠的海洋孕育了广阔无边的生命力量。 生活中没有平坦的道路，没有理想的环境，更没有编制好的计算机程序化人生轨迹。如果你还是你——小雏鸥啊，作为一个大自然里真实的生命，别人编织好的鱼网也许恰恰是你生命枯萎的开始。 学习中没有限定了领域，生活中更没有早已准备好的答案，高考也决不是十几年学习的终点。小雏鸥啊！明天海面上随时会出现的季风做带来极其微小的变化都会将你曾经的经验变得一无是处，大自然赋予你年轻的翅膀才是带给你不断前进的力量源泉。所以，你不需要成功人士的计算机式的整理咨询，更不要理会中年人的教科书般、重整旗鼓式精神刺激，年轻的小雏鸥啊，你需要的也许就是信心百倍地、当仁不让地不断尝试和飞翔。尽管现实中我们眼前已经充斥了无数的无事可做的海鸥、一片片无鱼可食的海洋，但一切都只会因你的自由飞翔而改变，因为，只有飞翔才可能发现新的生命海洋。18岁的小海鸥啊，其实成人的一天早已降临，你现在需要的只是无尽地、尽情地享受翱翔。 书写该文时，恰好刚把THE PURPOSE DRIVE LIFE读完第一遍，由于影响深刻和意义深远，自己尚在学习和理解当中，故将其中的结尾章节简单地摘录和改编如下，希望能对你理解上文有所帮助。我已经把“living on purpose”理解为“有意义地生活”，而不是“有目标地活着”，其实“自由飞翔”更接近“有意义地生活”。 Because living on purpose is the only way to really live. Everything else is just existing表象. Most people struggle with three basic issues争论 in life. The first is identity身份: “Who am I?”The second is importance地位: “Do I matter?” The third is impact权利: “What is my place in life?” The answers to all three questions are found in five natural (God’s) purposes for you. What is a life purpose statement? It’s a statement that summarizes natural (God’s) purposes for your life. A purpose statement is not a list of goals. Goals are temporary暂时; purposes are eternal永恒. It’s a statement that points the direction of your life. Writing down your purpose on paper will force you to think specifically about the path of your life. A life purpose statement not only spells out分析出 what you intend to do with your time, life, and money, but also implies告诉 what you aren’t going to do. It’s a statement that defines “success” for you. It states what you believe is important, not what the world (people) says is important. It clarifies澄清 your values. It’s a statement that clarifies your roles角色定位. You will have different roles at different stages in life, but your purposes will never change. They are greater than any role you will have. It’s a statement that expresses your shape生命状态. It reflects反映 the unique ways Nature (God) made you to serve him. Life’s five greatest questions What will be the center of my life? This is the question of worship. Who are you going to live for? What are you going to build your life around? You can center your life around your career, your family, a sport or hobby爱好, money, having many other activities. These are all good things, but they don’t belong at the center of your life. None is strong enough to hold you together when life starts breaking apart支离破碎. You need an unshakable固定 center. King Asa told the people of Judah to “center their lives in God.” I want to tell you to “center your life in Nature.” How do you know when Nature is at the center of your life? When Nature (God’s) at the center, your worship信仰. When he’s not, you worry焦虑. Worry is the warning light that Nature has been shoved to the sideline被搁置. The moment you put him back at the center, you will have peace again. What will be the character of my life? This is the question of discipleship追随. What kind of person will you be? Nature (God) is far more interested in what you are than what you do. Remember, you will take your character into eternity, but not your career. Make a list of the character qualities you want to work on and develop in your life. You might begin with the fruit of Spirit or Beatitudes至上幸福. Peter said, “Don’t lose a minute in building on what you’ve been given, complementing补充 your basic faith with good character, spiritual understanding, alert discipline觉悟, passionate patience气质和性情, reverent wonder求知欲, warm friendliness, and generous love博爱.” Don’t get discouraged气馁 and give up when you stumble跌到. It takes a lifetime to build natural (Christlike) character. What will be the contribution贡献 of my life? This is the questions of service事业. What will be your ministry任务 in the body of Nature (Christ)? Knowing your combination结合 of spiritual gifts天赋, heart, abilities, personality, and experiences (SHAPE), what would be your best role角色 in the family of Nature (God)? How can you make a difference? Is there a specific group in the Body that Nature shaped you to serve? While you are shaped to serve others, even Nature (Jesus) didn’t meet the needs of everyone while on earth. You have to choose whom you can be best help, based on your shaped body. So you need to ask everyday, “Who do I have a desire to help most?” Nature (Jesus) said, “I commissioned委派 you to go out and to bear fruit, fruit that will last.” Each of us bears different fruit. What will be the communication传播 of my life? This is the question of your mission使命 to natural-unbelievers. Your mission statement is a part of your purpose statement. Not only knowledge, but also spirit worship, to help others understand the purposes for their lives, and to send out on their mission in the material物欲 world. What will be the community团队 of my life? This is the question of fellowship友谊. The more you mature成熟, the more you will love the Body of Nature (Christ) and want to sacrifice牺牲 for it. There are more and more people loved the nature world and gave his life for it.
As you consider your answer to these questions, include any Scriptures圣经 that speak to you about each of these purposes. But, there is something forever, you just is a servant上帝的使者 to serve others. The person defines greatness in terms of power, possessions, prestige, and position. However, Nature measured greatness in terms of service服务, not status地位. The meeting to a servant服务生/使者, the career you will meet forever.
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