10 ways to keep your relationship working

Rainer_A 2017-01-02

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Our lives as human beings run on the wheels of relationships. As long as you are alive you cannot do without a relationship. From parents to coworkers to classmates, and everything in between, simply existing requires some sort of relationship. How then, can we fully equip ourselves to get the best from this critical part of our daily life? Here are the ten ways you can get your relations working smoothly. Even if you feel there is no errors in your relationships, these ten points will remind you to keep doing the right things so as to keep your relation running smoothly.

1. Keep the communication line open. This is one of the most misunderstood principles of relationship. Keep the communication line open doesn't mean you must talk every day. It means that there is freedom of communication between the parties involved. Any topic or any issue can be boldly talked about without fighting or muscling each other. I normally ask my friends ‘the mouth that will say the truth and the ear that will hear the truth, which one is more afraid?’ Most times in relationships, the partners withhold some things because they are afraid how their partners might react. So to be safe, I suggest you ask your partner the same question.

2. If you say sorry, mean it. Some people can tell you sorry 100 times and still do the same thing again. If you want your words to carry weight, then weigh them well. If you don't mean it, then don’t say it.

3. Never make promises you are not ready to keep. Men and women face pressure when confronted with some hard choices in their relationships. So many guys just tell the lady what she wants to hear. Stop making empty promises.

4. Don’t be the perfect one, be the right one. Since every relationship is not destined to end in marriage, then don’t expect your partner to be perfect let him\her be the right person that you need.

5. Don’t compare your girl with any other girl and vice-verse. Nothing kills a relationship like comparisons. Every man is different and unique, and so is every woman. Making comparisons is ignoring the fact that no two people on earth are exactly the same. We talk, walk, eat, dress, essentially do everything differently. So demanding from your partner to be exactly like someone is else is directly telling him/her that they are not good enough as they are.

6. When you get hurt, just forgive and forget. Getting hurt once in a while in a relationship is certain. In life we face challenges and in relationships, we face pain. I hear ladies say something like “all men are the same.” Well, logic calls that a fallacy of hasty generalization: a fallacy that is committed when a person draws a conclusion about a population based on a sample that is not large enough. When you are hurt, just forgive and move on. Forgetting is harder but just as worth it.

7. Beware of his/her feelings. Feelings are like the connecting switch that connects two people. Instead of ignoring or fighting your partner’s feelings, try to understand it. Only very few people can say they don’t have feelings.

8. Understand and be understood. Some people have been in relationship for months yet they don’t know their partners. You need to understand your partner’s temperament. Basically there are four main temperaments they are Sanguine , Choleric , Melancholic and Phlegmatic. Every individual has a combination of these temperaments. I suggest you read about them.

9. Give things time. Time tests all things. No matter how sweet that guy or girl may seem now, give it time. Just like earth has different seasons relationships have phases, and only when you give it time can you see it evolve.

10. Don’t talk much about your ex. Keep the lessons you learned from your last relationship to yourself. Talking too much about your ex means he\she is still in your head. Get them out. Enjoy the moment and flow with it.

I believe these points can help you spice up your relationship. Some of these points can be applied to other parts of our lives other than relationship between a man and woman. According to Galileo Galilei “You cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him discover it in himself.” Let these tips guide you as you work harder to spice up your relationship.