Three years ago,
myeldest daughter attended her friend’s birthday party. I wasbusy
attending to my other children when the mother handed mydaughter a
piece of cake. I asked
mydaughter, 三年前, Here are 10 reasons why parentsshould sometimes treat their kids as adults. 这里有十个原因, 1. Your kids willhave a better understanding of boundaries.
你的孩子会更好地理解界限。 "孩子将是孩子" If we, as parents,
believethat 如果我们作为父母,
2. Your kids
willbetter understand responsibility. Childrenshouldn’tgrow up stress-ridden, but they need to learn the basics of beingresponsible. For example, as adults, we might have children or petsto look after. We have housework to do. We have food to cook. If welet our children help with some of these activities, they willlearn that responsibilities are a part of life. If you encourageyour child to make their bed every day, to help wash up afterdinner, to feed the pet goldfish, then you are teaching them thatsuccess happens when people work together. 孩子们不该长大,
3. Your kids
mightdo more than what is expected of them. For many of us,
beingtold 对我们中的大多数人来说,
4. Your kids
willappreciate the value of being kind
andconsiderate. Teaching your children empathy
isone of the most important skills you can pass on. In a world
wherecompetition and power can often override caring about others,
it isessential to focus our parenting on kindness. Rather than
lookingat our kids and thinking,“They’re
tooyoung to understand how other
peoplefeel,” 教导你的孩子移情是你可以通过的最重要的技能之一。在一个竞争和权力往往会凌驾于他人的世界之上,
5. Your kids
willfind it easier to believe in themselves. If you, the parent, believe inyour child, then chances are they will believe in themselves too.As adults, we know that life is filled with ups and downs. We knowthat sometimes there are setbacks that leave us struggling to getback up. If you encourage your child and value who they are, theyare very likely to feel the same about themselves. They will feelconfident about who they are and use that confidence to get themthrough life. 如果你,
6. Your kids
willbecome stronger and more resilient. We parents often depend on what webelieve parenting should be. For some, being a parent is simplyabout protecting their child. For others, it’s about preparing theirchild for the future. Striking a balance between the two isprobably more ideal. Rather than trying to protect your childrenfrom all pain and suffering, do your best to help them cope withany future pain and suffering. If they don’t win aprize in pass-the-parcel, don’t be in a hurry to tellthe parents to find one for your child. Let them learn how to dealwith pain. Let them prove to themselves that they are strong andcan cope with disappointment. As an adult, this resilience willhelp them immensely in all areas of their life. 我们父母常常依赖于我们认为养育子女的方式。对一些人来说,
7. Your kids
willunderstand that you can’t always get what
youwant. If you’re walking through thesupermarket with your young child and they’rescreaming for a chocolate bar, don’t feel pressuredinto buying it for them. As difficult as it is to resist thetemptation to keep them quiet, you need to believe that your childis capable of calming down without it. Your child will learn tobetter self-regulate their emotions and start to realize that youcan’t always get what you want inlife. 如果你和你的孩子一起穿过超市,
8. Your kids
willlearn how valuable it can be to share experiences
withothers. You might see fathers work ontheir
cars with their kids. You might see mothers cooking withtheir
children. You might see either mother or father sharing
theirhobbies and interests with their young
children.Doing 你可能会看到父亲和他们的孩子一起在他们的车上工作。你可能会看到母亲们在做饭。你可能会看到母亲或父亲与年幼的孩子分享他们的爱好和兴趣。做
9. Your kids
willreally feel that they matter. When we sometimes look at our kidsas adults, they are more likely to feel that they are just likeeveryone else. Their age doesn’t mean that theydon’t matter. Their thoughts and opinions are not anyless important or valid. Let your child voice their thoughts oncontroversial topics. Let them express the individual that they arewithout censoring them completely. By seeing your child for whothey are, rather than what you want them to be, you’rereminding them that they matter. 当我们有时把我们的孩子看作成年人时,
10. Your kids
willgrow up believing they really can make
adifference. Most parents want to raisechildren who grow up being happy and successful. Theydon’twant much for them, aside from knowing that they are living a lifethat makes them happy and that they are utilizing their talents.When your kids tell you what they want to be when they grow up,don’t dismiss them. Don’t laugh.Encourage them and their dreams—even if those dreamsare likely to change many times in a year. When you treat yourchildren like adults, their thirst for knowledge increases. Theymight just understand and believe you when you say that they reallycan make a difference. That they are not just one person in thisworld. They are actually one person who has the potential to changethe world. 大多数父母想抚养长大的孩子,
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