 图片来源于网络 不会聊天怎么撩妹？ 不知道如何避免没话聊的尴尬场面？ RT主持人给你支几招！ 赫扬 We all need to have conversation with people. Sometimes someone attractive sometimes is your boss or your colleague or someone potentially important in your life.
And have you ever experienced this? That is, you are trying to strike a conversation. But you start to stutter, and you don't know what to say or when you’ve started the conversation but the other party is simply seeing as if there is a...a...an increasingly less of enthusiasm to be engaged in a conversation.
So what do you do, how can you improve your conversational skills? Well, I’m not very a...I'm not a person of quick wit. I'm not exactly very uh... good at making conversations, but I do have a tip. If you want to keep conversation going. So this is also shared in this tip too...that is...that repeat the last three words.
Repetition is the ideal when it comes to good communication skill, especially repeating the last three words of a conversation, which is known as the echo effect.
Basically, um...what I usually would do is when someone is...when someone is talking to me and I, I have difficulty finding a...a response to...to... anything that he or she just said, I'll just repeat what he just said...what he just said. LM 赫扬 What he just said Yeah, I'll just repeat.
And then, hopefully he or she will come up with some fresh ideas other than what he or she just said. And then, maybe in these fresh ideas, I could find a way to relate and I'll come up with more information or more ideas to correlate. LM 赫扬 More ideas to correlate. Did you see what I'm doing there? Yeah. LM 赫扬 Ok, and he didn't really engage in more conversation. Cause I'm not very...I’m not really a master of conversations. LM 赫扬 Oh, you're very good at it! Yeah, you are really good!  HS 赫扬 You're a ...You are a radio personnel right now. Yes, well... Still training. LM 赫扬 Yes, well, you've been doing a great job then. Well, Huangshan, when you look at this, are there any useful tips that you can give to our listeners who might be struggling to strike a conversation? Yeah, really appreciate this one. Especially during the ice-breaking...like stage, for example, you can encourage people to talk more about themselves. Because like...based on the research-findings, talking about ourselves...it can trigger the same sensation of pleasure in the brain as food or money, so I think...yeah... it's really like...like I said... ice-breaker for example, it proves...proves that you are listening...you got pretty involved in a conversation, like you encourage the other part to talk more about herself or himself is because you...you’re showing your respect to the other person and also you can say that I'm a good listener and I want to listen to more about your stories. HS Means you are interested in what he or she saying. LM Yeah, yeah yeah yeah...that really makes... like...shows people you are involved in this...like...conversation and you are interested in the topic and you are also a good listener. HS 赫扬 Yeah, so the key to be a better conversationalist is to be an attention-giver rather than an attention-getter. This means that you begin to concentrate more on the person you are talking with and on gratifying their needs instead of your own.
That is certainly very valuable. And.. well there has been conversations that I happen to be part of, and...um.. I was...was playing the nice girl card, yes, see what society does to you. I think...um... it tends to subconsciously teach girls to be a good listener. To conform to a certain kind of image. LM 赫扬 Yeah, and...and you should be listening instead of saying too much. But then sometimes when I’m listening to the other person, possibly a guy, so uninteresting. Maybe I should speak up more. Maybe you should repeat what he just said. LM Yeah. HS 赫扬 Well, that's encouraging him to say more when I need the spotlight! Ah... LM 赫扬 Ah... Yeah, I also wanna like quickly mention...one thing...is gossip positively. If you are gossiping, just positively. Don’t say any negative words because the other side will associate you with this... like... the words you are saying and describing. HS Uh huh. LM 赫扬 Gossip can be a positive thing? Uh...use some positive words when you are gossiping. Yeah, that’s really hard. HS It’s therapeutic...Someone told me. LM 赫扬 Well, I do know that gossiping...well that is...you know exchanging information...that... Nonessential. LM 赫扬 Yes, about other people. And that could be a bonding tool for some people, so immediately the two people in the conversation feel or more than to in that conversation will feel that...um, you are as thick as thieves, you are...you are...you are the criminals of the same pack, so to speak.
Yeah, what about this? ---Emphasizing similarities. So instead of showing that we’re different but try to find that some similarity or common interest that you and the other person are both interested in. It's always a good strategy that even when you want to introduce some different opinions, you have to first of all agree with the one that you’re talking to. That makes the conversation more friendly. LM 赫扬 Oh...I’ve realized that Ryan has... Oh well, ok, I'm actually saying Laiming, ok, using that tactic on me. 特别感谢热心听友 晨宁Chenning 帮助听写本期文稿 Also follow us on Wechat@ ezfmroundtable Weibo@轻松调频RoundTable 企鹅FM@China Plus APP 轻松调频EZFM & China Plus |
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