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做个有“情”的女人

 若飞若扬1963 2018-02-02
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                                                  《男女本色》一书的作者说,“女人最喜欢两样东西:情和钱”我不反对。

                                                                    由于女人是感情的动物,一生为情所困,很难放下。

                                                                             于是,才有了“痴情女子负心汉”一说,

                                                                                 有了从古至今连绵不绝的殉情女子。

                                                                                         问题是,对于女人来说,

                                                                                         情和钱哪个更为重要呢?

                                                                             也许对于拜金主义的人来说,钱更重要。

                                                                                    有了钱,她可以买高级化妆品;

                                                                                      有了钱,她可以穿高级时装;

                                                                                有了钱,她可以住洋房、开高级轿车……

                                                                                总之,有了钱,她可以过奢华的生活。

                                                                             而对于那些痴情女子来说,钱是身外之物,

                                                                                           “情”才是最高奢求,

                                                                          包括:激情、爱情、亲情、温情、友情和恩情……

                                                                                   总之,情是人世间最难说清楚的事,

                                                                                            对痴情女子尤其重要,

                                                                           她们对“情”的困惑与执著几乎让人难以理解。


 

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                                                                                   先说说“激情、爱情和亲情”。

                                                                   这三种“情”是男女生理、心理兼体力活动的产物,

                                                                              并且这三种情感之间呈递进关系。

  

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                                                    激情是陌生男女之间比较容易迸发出的一种物理反应兼化学反应的产物。

                                                                                  激情是人类最可贵的情感之一,

                                                                                      它是情欲和爱情的原动力,

                                                                                           更是快乐的催化剂。

                                                                                       激情可能会发展成爱情,

                                                                                         也可能很快烟消云散,

                                                                                            来得快也去得急。

                                                                                       总之激情是很玄的东西,

                                                                                         激情最终会趋于平淡,

                                                                                    千万不要指望靠激情过日子,

                                                                               更不要以激情缺失为借口毁掉婚姻。


 

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                                                       与激情相比,爱情少了许多激情迸发出的物理反应及化学成分,

                                                                               而多了许多心灵和精神的成分。

                                                                       爱情是一种感觉,比较抽象,无比浪漫。

                                                                           爱情是青春的梦,可以是风月情浓,

                                                                                       可以爱也可以不爱,

                                                                              可以爱得很深也可以爱得很淡。

                                                                                  然而,爱情一旦走入婚姻,

                                                                      随着时间的推移,爱情就会渐渐归于从容。

                                                                           结了婚的人,要想保持爱情的甜美,

                                                                                     是一件比较困难的事情。

                                                                   婚姻比爱情更需要彼此懂得关怀、尊重和了解。

                                                                        婚姻是合同、是责任,比较具体、务实,

                                                                     签约的双方在享受权利的同时也奉献着义务。

                                                               那么,婚姻真的就是“爱情的坟墓”吗?也不尽然。


 

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                                                                             真正美丽的爱情是没有终止的,

                                                                                 婚姻不应该是爱情的终点,

                                                                                   而应该成为亲情的起点。

                                                                                      在漫长的婚姻道路上,

                                                                                当爱情升华为一种超越爱情,

                                                                           又胜于爱情的无血缘关系的亲情时,

                                                       这种感情就会比炽烈的爱情来得更加坚定可靠、更加历久弥新。

                                                                所谓“少年夫妻老来伴儿”,说的就是这个道理。


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                                                                                 再看看“温情、友情和恩情”。

                                                                        这三种“情”更多的是理性层面的情愫,

                                                         仔细观察它们之间也有着由浅入深、循序渐进的微妙关系。

                                                                          温情从字面上可以解释为:温柔深情。

                                                             它包含了温情脉脉、温情蜜意等让人感觉温暖的词汇,


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                                                                            诠释温情最好的例子是母爱的温情,

                                                                          任何人都会为之陶醉在母亲的怀抱里,

                                                                                   母爱的力量令人永生难忘。

                                                                              所以,要想成为一个完美的女人,

                                                                                           除去特殊情况,

                                                                        她都应该想方设法让自己成为一位母亲。

                                                                                         从某种意义上讲,

                                                                                     温情也算是一种亲情。


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                                                                           友情则不同,友情是朋友之间的情谊,

                                                                                    它更加博大、宽阔、深沉。

                                                                                 时间可以阻隔激情、冲淡爱情,

                                                                                         但时间扯不断友情。

                                                                                   友情如果经不住时间的考验,

                                                                                 它就不是真正肝胆相照的友情,

                                                                                        而是逢场作戏的虚情,

                                                                                          是勾心斗角的私情。

                                                                                               达尔文说过:

                                                                        “谈到名声、荣誉、快乐、财富这些东西,

                                                                                 如果同友情相比,它们都是尘土。”

                                                                     然而,女人一旦成家经常会不自觉地忽视了友情

                                                                           在对待友情的态度上男人要比女人好得多,

                                                                                这也是男人能成就伟业的原因之一。


                       

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                                             提到“恩情”首先唤起我的是那首歌颂伟大领袖的歌曲《鲜红的太阳永不落》,

                                                                            那里有一句歌词“您的恩情比海深……”,

                                                                       啥也不用说了,恩情就是一种深厚的情意。

                                                                 任何人在生命的旅途中都会遇到各种各样的恩情,

                                                                       其中最大的就是给予你生命的父母之恩了。
                                                                               我相信,一个有“情”的女人,

                                                                                   一定也是一个幸福的女人。

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