“人在什么阶段、什么年龄就应该干什么事。”相信大家多少都听过这句劝导。 而近来,诸如“你的同龄人,正在抛弃你”这样的标题也是层出不穷。 眼看又到了毕业季,就在毕业生们满怀惆怅与迷茫之时,有这样一篇被称为“今年听过的最好的演讲”刷爆朋友圈。 这篇扎心的演讲告诉我们:
或许,看完这篇火爆油管,名为《在你感觉到压力之前》(“Before You Feel Pressure”)的演讲,你也会重新思考自己的人生: 提示:1分钟后才是重点! 视频开头,一位校长正慷慨激昂地给中学生们讲“人生须知”,认真地为大家做着规划。
校长就这样有条不紊地用一分钟总结了人的一生。 这时,沉默的听众中举起了一只手。 一名小哥走到台前,自信满满地说:
接下来,他讲的每一句都似乎说到了每个人的心坎上。 I know people who graduated at 21 and didn't get a job until they were 27. 有的人21岁毕业,到27岁才找到工作; I know people who graduated late at 25 and they found work immediately. 有的人25岁才毕业,但马上就找到了工作; I know people who never went to university, but found what they love at 18. 有的人没有上过大学,却在18岁就找到了他们热爱的事; I know people who found a job straight out of college making decent money, but hate what they do. 有的人一毕业就找到好工作,赚到很多钱,却过得不开心; I know people who took gap years and found their purpose. 有的人毕业后选择了间隔年,并找到了自我。 I know people who were so sure about what they were going to do at 16, they change their mind at 26. 有的人16岁时就确信找到了自己想做的事,但却在26岁改变了想法; I know people who have children but are single, and I know people who are married but had to wait 8 to 10 years to have children. 有的人有了孩子,却还是单身;有的人结了婚,却等了十年八年才生孩子; I know people in relationships who love someone else. 有的人身处一段感情,爱的却是别人; I know people who love each other but aren't together. 有的人明明彼此相爱,却没有在一起。 一口气举了这么多例子后,小哥说出了自己的观点: So my point is everything in life happens according to our time, our clock. 我想说的是,人生中每一件事都取决于我们自己的时间、自己的节奏。 You may look at some of your friends and think that they’re ahead of you, maybe some of them you feel are behind, but everything happens at their own pace. 你身边有些朋友或许遥遥领先于你,有些朋友也许落后于你,但凡事都有它自己的节奏。 They have their own time and clock and so do you. 他们有他们的节奏,你有你自己的。 Be patient. 耐心一点。 接下来,他举了几位大家心目中的成功人士作为例子:
所以,如果你的人生进度和别人不一样,也不要觉得自卑: Getting your degree after 25 is still an achievement. 25岁后拿到文凭,依然值得骄傲。 Not being married at 30 but still happy is beautiful. Starting a family after 35 is still possible, and buying a house after 40 is still great. 35岁后成家也没什么不可以,40岁后再买房也不丢人。 Don't let anyone rush you with their timelines. 不要让任何人用他们的标准来扰乱你的时间表。 此刻,抛出爱因斯坦的一句名言再合适不过:
演讲者最后说:
听完这篇演讲,又想起《死亡诗社》里的老师说的那句话:“Carpe diem, seize the day”(活在当下)。 这个世界上有多少人,就会有多少种不同的人生。 坦然一点,耐心一点。 这样想,并不是给自己找借口。 少一些焦虑,把握好今天,掌握好自己的步调。 你的人生,是属于你的。 只要你开始努力,一切都不算晚。 本文转自21世纪英文报,已获授权。 |
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