萨古鲁：女性应该工作和追求事业吗？

Question: Nowadays, there is sometimes a disdain towards women who are housewives and are not employed. Even when we have young children, this attitude persists. What should one do? 

问：如今的社会里，那些全职太太和没有工作的女性有时会遭受鄙视。甚至当我们有了小孩时，这种态度依旧持续。那么个人能做什么呢？

Sadhguru: Generally, people work for financial needs. If you are working out of a passion for what you are doing, that is different, but most people work for financial gain. So, if there is a financial requirement in a family, women going to work or pitching in by working from home is perfectly fine. The question is not about whether you should work or not. The question is about whether there is such a need or not. If the need has become social rather than financial, I don’t see a need that every woman must work. The idea of creating so much technology in the world is that someday, we create a world where neither man nor woman needs to work. We can live on a vacation! But many people work because they are in a mode of compulsive action. They don’t know what else to do with themselves. That is an unfortunate way to be. 

Sadhguru（萨古鲁）：普遍而言，人们为经济需求而工作。如果你因热爱它而去做一件事，那另当别论，但大多数人是为了获取钱财。所以，如果一个家庭有经济需求，那么女性外出或者在家远程工作，为家里做出贡献是完全可以的。但问题不在于你该不该工作，而在于有没有这样的需求。如果是出于社会性的需求，而非经济上的，那么我不认为每位女性都必须工作。我们发明了那么多技术就是为了有一天创造出一个不需要男人和女人工作的世界。我们可以一直在假期中！很多人工作是因为他们处于强迫性行动的状态。他们不知道还可以该拿自己怎么办。那是一个不幸的存在方式。

Coming to women in particular, this idea that every woman should work has gained great momentum in the last 40 to 50 years. It has come because of a certain element of exploitation that happened to women because of their financial dependence on the man. As a reaction to that, women thought the only way is to go to work. But I think it is only in some families that such exploitation happens. It is not true with many families.  The idea that you are a real woman only if you earn money, has been borrowed from the man’s mind. In the name of women’s liberation, women have taken on men’s values. This is true slavery. If she wants to become free, a woman should not take on man’s values. She should see how to enhance the feminine into a flower-like, fragrant existence on the planet. This is something only she can do. 

说到女性，认为女性应该工作的观念是近40-50年才出现的。它的出现是因为女性在经济上依赖于男性，进而导致了对她们某种程度的剥削和利用。作为回应，女性认为唯一的办法就是出门工作。但是我认为只是在一些家庭中有这样的剥削和利用，多数家庭中并不是这样的情况。“只有能够赚钱时你才是个真正的女人”，这是从男人的头脑中借来的观念。以女性自由的名义，女人们采纳了男人的价值观。这是真正的奴役。如果她想自由，一个女人不应该去采纳男人的价值观。她应该看看如何将自己的阴性提升为像花一样芬芳的存在。这一点只有女性才能做到。

Looking at Life Beyond Your Wellbeing

超越自身幸福去看待生命

The world becomes beautiful not because you earn money. Whether it is an individual’s life or a family, community or the world, it becomes beautiful because there are a few people who exist out of their love, truly wanting to reach out and do something beyond their personal wellbeing. That is what makes the world beautiful.

这个世界不是因为你赚钱而变得美丽。无论是个人的生活还是一个家庭、社群或者世界，它变得美丽是因为有一群人出于爱，真切地想要伸出双手，去做一些超越自身幸福的事情。正是它让世界变得美丽。

In terms of my personal experience, my mother never went to work outside, and my father would have never thought that she should work. But was she a useless person? Absolutely not. Without her, what would we be? Her dedication, the way she gave herself to her children and husband, is what has made us who we are.

就我个人经历而言，我的母亲从未出门工作过，我的父亲也从未想过她应该工作。那她是个无用的人吗？当然不是。没有她的话，我们会成什么样？正是因为她的付出，因为她那样将自己奉献给了孩子和丈夫，才造就了我们。

A deep sense of concern, care and looking at life beyond your own personal wellbeing was something that was instilled in us simply by looking at her. There was no way you could miss it because her life was never about herself. With great joy, day or night, she served her family. This was not slavery, this was done out of absolute love. If you told her that she was being exploited, she would have been immensely offended because for her, it was such an experience of love to expend herself in doing what she was doing.、

只是看着她，她那深沉的关怀以及超越自身幸福去对待生命的情感就浸入了我们的内心。你不可能错过它，因为她的一生从不是为了她自己。怀着巨大的喜悦感，她日夜为她的家人服务着。这不是奴役，这是出于她纯粹的、绝对的爱。如果你告诉她她正在被剥削利用，她会感到极大的冒犯，因为对她来说，将自己投入于所做的事情之中，是如此美好的一场爱的体验。

The world becomes beautiful not because you earn money. Whether it is an individual’s life or a family, community or the world, it becomes beautiful because there are a few people who exist out of their love, truly wanting to reach out and do something beyond their personal wellbeing. That is what makes the world beautiful.

这个世界不是因为你赚钱而变得美丽。无论是个人的生活还是一个家庭、社群或者世界，它变得美丽是因为有一群人出于爱，真切地想要伸出双手，去做一些超越自身幸福的事情。是这一点让世界美丽。

A family is the smallest unit of community in the world, and if this does not happen in a family, it will not happen anywhere in the world. If a child is not exposed to this sense of love and dedication right from childhood, it will not happen.

在这个世界上，家庭是社群的最小单位。如果这一点无法发生在一个家庭中，它就更不可能发生在世界上的任何一处。如果一个孩子从小没有生活在这样的爱和奉献中，这一点将无法发生。

Making a Difference

带来不同

This does not mean a woman cannot do this if she goes to work. If there is a need to work, she has to do something about it. Once again, to take my mother as an example, she did not go to work, but she made sure that whatever could be done at home was done, so that it need not be bought in the shop.

这并不意味着，如果女人去工作她就不能做到这样。如果她有工作的需求，那么她就必须为此做点什么。再次以我的母亲为例，她没有出门工作，但是她确保只要在家里能够解决的事情就在家里完成，这样就不必去商店买。

Throughout my childhood, until I moved out of my family situation, I never slept on a pillow without a little bit of embroidery. She always made sure there would be at least some embroidery – maybe a little parrot or a little flower. Without this, my life wouldn’t be the same. She could have bought it in the shop. My father could afford it, but she made sure that she did that little thing. That was her way of pitching in. Whether you make money or you save money, it is still a contribution to the family.  So, how a particular woman functions is an individual aspect. But no one needs to develop a philosophy that all women should work or all women should not work

我的整个童年，直到我离家前，我所睡过的枕头上一定都会有一点刺绣。她总是确保我的枕头上有一点刺绣——也许是一只鹦鹉或一朵小花。如果没有这个，我的生命将会不同。她其实完全可以去商店买，我的父亲也能够付得起，但她会自己来做。那是她为这个家庭贡献的方式。无论你挣钱或存钱，都是对家庭的贡献。所以一位女性如何运转取决于个人，我们不需要发展出一套哲学，说所有的女性都应该工作或者不工作。

Love&Grace,

Sadhguru

爱与恩典

萨古鲁