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《查泰莱夫人的情人》这本书给我最大的印象是关于女人对男人的影响有多大。 The book <Lady Chatterley's Lover> give me the most impression about how great a woman could impact a man. 因为从腰下部分全部瘫痪，克里夫在感情上对他的妻子康妮有着很大的依赖。只有跟她在一起，并且他的私生活都由她来伺候，他才能有安全感，并觉得生活是完整的，但是他不能给她性爱，只能有精神恋爱。所以克里夫有一种负罪感，害怕有一天她会离开他，他对她很是包容，甚至有点屈辱和卑下。为了寻找成功证明自己男人的能力，他开始写小说，这也确实给他带来了一些名气，但他仍没有感觉到强烈的满足感。事实上，他写的东西都很空洞，可以看出他仍然没有找到作为一个大男人的生命的意义。 Because of paralyze from the waist down of his body, Clifford's emotion depended much on his wife Connie.Only staying with her and having his private life served by her, he could feel the security and integrity of his life, but he couldn't supply lust love to her,between them there is only spiritual love left.So Clifford felt guilty about that ,and for feal of her leaving him one day, he behaved very bearable about her ,even humuliated and inferior to her.In order to search for some success to prove his capability as a man ,he began to write novles, which certainly brought famous fame to him, but he still not felt the strongest satisfaction. what he wrote , in fact ,was very empty, which shew that he still really hadn't found the real meaning of his life as to how to be a big man. 当波太太来伺候他以后，克里夫的精神生活发生了巨大的改变。波太太向他描述村里的胜过，并用崇敬的态度仰视他，并且在他们玩纸牌游戏时，她表现的很不擅长，就像一个小女孩，这些给克里夫的男子汉气概带来了巨大的鼓舞，他很快就下大决心改善他拥有的煤矿的挖煤技术，将事业从一个忧郁的作家转向了充满活力的企业家，每天他都可以赚好多钱。并且他开始凌驾于一切之上，感觉像从冬眠中苏醒了，恢复了生命力。 After Mrs Bolton came to serve him, Clifford had the extreme change in his spirit life. She despicted the life in the villiage with quite respectful attitudes looking up to him, and when they played card games, she behaves so poor skilled,just like a little girl, both of which gave him immense boost of his muscularity, he soon made big determination to improve the technique of digging coal in his mine, transverted his career from a dismay writer to an entreprenuer with enough viritality, everyday he could earn lots of money. And he also becomes so superior to everything, seeming awakening from the dormant, and coming back to life. 从这里我可以看出女人对于自己老公不同态度的不同作用。不管你自己多么完美，如果你表现的很强势的凌驾于他之上，他就会蔫了，至少他作为成功男人的能力将会打折。但是如果你崇拜他，给他心里灌输自信和自尊，让他感到受到尊敬和很高的期望，他将会表现出超能量来实现他的人生目标。这就是为什么说女人是男人的导师。 So I can tell the different attitudes towards your husband could lead to quite different results to him.No matter how perfect yourself are, if you behaves riding upon him mightily, he will whither, at least his ability as a successful man will be decounted.But if you adore him , importing self-confidence and self-esteem into his heart, making him feeling respected and highly expected, he will exhibt his extre energy to achieve his goal of life.That's why a woman is the guider of the man. |
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