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社会上成功的人层出不穷，但是他们如何教育子女保持家道长远呢？秘诀是自律和低调。 Successful people arise in the society continuously, but how could they teach their children to keep the fame of the families ?The secrets are self-discipline and low-pitch. 现在我举历史上两个成功教训的例子。 Now I give you some examples of successful family instructions in the history. 杨震，名言“天知地知，你知我知”的创始人。因为他当先生时的诚实廉洁与正直，被称“关西孔子”。在他的影响和教育下，他的后代出现了东汉历史上“四世三公”，并且他的女性子孙也具有良好的教养，许多名人都以能够取到杨家女为荣。他的家世延续了好几个朝代，长达500年之久。他家训的核心是“重道德轻钱财”，所以美好的声誉成为了家族的保护神。 Yang Zhen, the creator of the proverb,"You know I know, and the Heaven knows the earth knows."He was called the "GuanXi Confucius",because of his good performance being honest and clean and upright as a teacher.Under his infulence and instructions, His offsprings of four successive generations became TaiWei of the East Han Dynasty,and his female offsprings alao had good breedings,so many famous men was honoured of could marry the daughters from this family.And the name of his families was passed on for several Dynasty and lasted for more than 500 years.The core values of his family instructions are putting importance to moral qualities while dispising money,so the good fame became the protector of the big family. 另一个好例子是张安世，西汉时期重要的官员。虽然他的职位可以给他很好的报酬，他还是每天都穿低质量的衣服。他害怕过高的名誉会给家族带来强大的嫉妒，他主动辞去了掌握更多权力的机会。当他向皇帝推荐别人时，拒绝将功劳揽在自己身上，只说是为了国家号。他的家族也因此在整个西汉时期很繁盛。 And another good example is ZhangAnshi,an important high official in West Dynasty.Although he was well awarded at his positon, he still wore low-quality clothes.He was afraid of the high reputation could bring great jealousy to his family, he initiatively refused the opportunity of mastering more power.When he recommened somebody to the emperor,he declined to bring the credit to himself, just declared it's good for the country.And his family was prosperous for more than 200 years in the whole West Dynasty. 让我再举一个历史上家训失败的例子。 Let me give you one example of failing family instructions in the history. 也许你听说过霍光，是汉景帝和汉宣帝时期最重要的大臣，实际上在那段时期他掌握了整个朝廷的大权。虽然他自己很谨慎低调，但是他的家庭成员非常傲慢跋扈，他的亲戚好友遍布朝廷各个重要位置。最终，为了支持他的小女儿当上皇后，他的老婆将原来的皇后杀害了， 这就导致了霍氏家族的满门根除。 Maybe you have heard about HuoGuang, who is the most important official in the periods of Han Xuan and Han Jing emperors,in fact at that time the whole power of the country has been holden by him.Although himself was very cautious and low-pitched, his family members were very arrogant and bullying.His relatives and friends were all over all the important positions of the government.And finally, in order to support his little daughter to be the queen, his wife plotted to kill the original queen,which brought the uproot of the family. 所以你可以看到，由于你的家族已经拥有多于常人的声誉与财富，他们嫉妒羡慕你的财富和高高在上的位置，一旦你有不好的把柄掌握在别人的手里，他们将会不遗余力的让你垮台，甚至希望瓜分你的财富。只有低调和很强的自律能够让你有较少的污点掌握在别人手里，只有诚实善良，多给社会和人民做贡献才能够将别人的嫉妒转变成感激。一句话，好的道德素质是你家族的保护神。 so you can see, as your family has enjoyed more fame and wealth than most ordinary people, they are jealous and envious of your richness and high positions, once you have some bad evidenced holden by others, they will try their best to bring you down, even wanting to divide your treasure.Only low-profile and strong self-discipline could make you have less blemishes in others' hands,and your honest and kindness with more contributions to the society and people will change others' jealousy into gratitude.One word, your good moral qualities are the protector of your family. |
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