Fritz Perls（1893-1970）1 …nobody can stand truth if it is told to him. Truth can be tolerated only if you discover it yourself because then, the pride of discovery makes the truth palatable. ……没人能承受被告知的真相。只有你自己发现真相，才能容忍它。因为发现真相的自豪感使真相变得可被接受。 2 Lose your mind and come to your senses. 放下头脑，进入感知。 3 A thousand plastic flowers don’t make a desert bloom. A thousand empty faces don’t fill an empty room. 一千朵塑料花不能让沙漠绽放；一千张空洞的脸无法填满一个空房间。 4 I do my thing and you do your thing. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, and you are not in this world to live up to mine. You are you, and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, it’s beautiful. If not, it can’t be helped. 我做我的事，你做你的事。我在这个世界上不需活出你的期望，你在这个世界上也不需活出我的期望。你是你，我是我，如果我们碰巧找到彼此，那就太美了。如果没有，也无需介意。 5 Learning is the discovery that something is possible. 学习就是发现某些事情是可能的。 6 Our dependency makes slaves out of us, especially if this dependency is a dependency of our self-esteem. If you need encouragement, praise, pats on the back from everybody, then you make everybody your judge. 依赖会使我们成为奴隶，特别是如果这种依赖是关于我们自尊的。如果你需要每个人的鼓励、赞扬、拍拍后背，那么你就让每个人都成为你的裁判。 7 The person most in control is the person who can give up control. 最能控制的人是能够放弃控制的人。 8 Anxiety is excitement without breathing。 焦虑是没有呼吸的兴奋。 9 Fear is excitement without the breath. 恐惧是没有呼吸的兴奋。 10 Anxiety is the gap between now and later. 焦虑是现在和未来之间的缺口。 11 Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind. 做你自己，说出你的感受，因为在乎你的人不介意，介意的人不在乎你。 12 Expecting the world to treat you fairly because you are a good person is a little like expecting a bull not to attack you because you are a vegetarian. 因为你是一个好人而期待世界公平地对待你，有点像因为你是一个素食主义者而期待一头公牛不攻击你。 13 It feels much nobler to feel guilty than resentful, and it takes more courage to express resentment than guilt. With expressing guilt you expect to pacify your opponent; with expressing resentment you might stir up hostility in him. 内疚比怨恨的感觉更高尚，而表达怨恨比表达内疚更需要勇气。表达内疚可以使对方平静，表达怨恨却会煽动起他的敌意。 14 Trying is lying. I’ll try means you have no serious intention of doing it. If you’re really planning to do it, say: “I’ll do it”; and if not, say: “I won’t do it”. You have to speak clearly in order to think clearly and act clearly.” 我要试试就是撒谎。我会尝试意味着你没有想这么做的意图。如果你真的打算这么做，就说：“我会做的”；如果不是，就说：“我不会做的”。你必须说清楚，才能想清楚，做清楚。 15 We live in a house of mirrors and think we are looking out the windows. 我们住在一个全是镜子的房间，却以为我们在看着窗外。 16 Awareness in itself is healing. 觉察本身即治愈。 17 We are using most of our energies for self-destructive games, self-preventing games. We prevent ourselves from growing the very moment something unpleasant, something painful comes up. At that moment we become phobic, we run away, we desensitize ourselves. Neurotic suffering is suffering in imagination, suffering in fantasy. 我们把大部分精力都用在了自我摧毁以及自我阻碍的游戏上。当不愉快的事情、痛苦的事情出现时，我们就阻止自己成长。在那一刻，我们恐惧，我们逃跑，我们脱敏。神经症的痛苦是想象中的痛苦，幻想中的痛苦。 18 If you are bored, you are not paying attention. 如果你感到无聊，你就没有在专注。 19 Those that fight don't listen, those that listen don't fight. 吵架的人们不倾听，倾听的人们不吵架。 20 There's always a possibility of richer maturation - of taking more and more responsibility for yourself and for your life...And this is what I hope...to make you understand how much you gain by taking responsibility for every emotion, every movement you make, every thought you have...We touch each other by honestly being what we are, not intentionally making contact. 有一种更丰富的成熟的可能性——对自己和生活承担越来越多的责任……这就是我希望的……让你明白，对每一种情感、每一个动作、每一个想法承担责任，你会得到诸多好处……我们通过真诚地做自己来接触彼此，而不是刻意制造联结。 21 If you take responsibility for what you are doing to yourself, how you produce your symptoms, how you produce your illness, how you produce your existence-the very moment you get in touch with yourself-growth begins, integration begins. 从你与自己建立联系那一刻开始，成长和整合就开始了。你对自己所做的事情负责，你如何制造了症状，你是如何让自己生病的，你如何创造了你的存在。 22 As Albert Einstein once said to me: 'Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity.' But what is much more widespread than the actual stupidity is the playing stupid, turning off your ear, not listening, not seeing. 阿尔伯特·爱因斯坦曾对我说：“有两样东西是无限的：宇宙和人类的愚蠢。”但比真正的愚蠢更普遍的是装傻，关上耳朵，不听，不看。 23 Nothing changes until it becomes what it is. 只有如其所是，才能获得改变。 24 Have a dialogue between the two opposing parts and you will find that they always start out fighting each other until we come to an appreciation of difference. 让两个对立的部分对话，你会发现除非我们欣赏它们的差异，否则它们总是在打架。 翻译：李敬水&陈影萤 |
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