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对于孩子而言，过生日绝对是一件值得期待的大日子，因为这一天不但可以收到很多礼物，还能吃到很多自己喜欢的食物，尤其是生日蛋糕。 孩子上了幼儿园之后，每年的生日未必都是周末，很多家长为了不让孩子失望，常常会往幼儿园送一个蛋糕，让老师分给班里的小朋友，一起为孩子庆祝生日 单位小陈的儿子本来今年3月就该入园的，由于疫情的影响，到了9月才入园。上个月25号是儿子4岁生日，她就订了一个生日蛋糕，准备给儿子送到幼儿园。 老师看着她拎着的蛋糕说：“闹闹妈妈，你把蛋糕拿回去吧。班里孩子多，这么小的蛋糕也不够分。我们幼儿园禁止家长给孩子送生日蛋糕的。” 小陈以为老师嫌弃蛋糕小，就又买了一个双层大蛋糕送了过去，结果还是吃了闭门羹。小陈认为老师故意刁难自己，就在家长群里质问老师，结果家长们都一边倒地支持老师。 幼儿园的老师讲出了不让家长送蛋糕的苦衷1、食品安全 生日蛋糕的制作原料多为奶油制品，奶油在空气中放置时间过久就会发生变质，孩子们一旦吃了变质的蛋糕，很容易诱发健康问题。 大多数幼儿园都不允许外面的食物进入幼儿园，不仅仅是生日蛋糕。对于幼儿园而言，外来食物进校园是一件非常危险的事情，一旦孩子吃了劣质食物，发生群体性中毒事件，这个责任幼儿园承担不起。 2、攀比之心 孩子从进入幼儿园开始，就开始了团体生活。“攀比”是团体生活无法避免的，即使孩子没有，家长之间的攀比也从未停止过。 当幼儿园开启“孩子过生日，父母送蛋糕”的先例，其他家长就不得不效仿，要知道一个班级里，并不是所有的家庭都能承受这样的开销。 另外，那些过生日时父母没有送蛋糕的孩子就会受到排挤、冷落，甚至霸凌。这都是家长之间的虚荣心、攀比心在孩子身上结出的恶果。 3、打乱老师正常教学任务 幼儿园接收了家长送来的蛋糕，就要花更多的时间来组织生日会、分蛋糕，打扫卫生都需要很长的时间，必然会打乱老师的正常教学进度。 孩子上了幼儿园，蛋糕是送，还是不送？孩子过生日，父母送不送蛋糕，主要还是看幼儿园的政策。孩子在幼儿园过生日，父母送个蛋糕，你可以看成是炫富、攀比，也可以看作是分享和感恩。 无论是分蛋糕、还是吃蛋糕，都是施与受的学习过程，是孩子学习处理人际关系和管理情绪的好机会，我们似乎没有必要剥夺。孩子年龄还小，就像一张白纸，生日会究竟是攀比还是分享，就看父母如何引导了。 最后生活中的“比较”有很多，不会只发生在生日会。父母教会孩子不用物质衡量人和事，这样孩子内心宽广，心灵富有，人格也会越来越健康。 英文版A cake was rejected by the teacher for her daughter's kindergarten birthday, and parents praised the teacher. Kindergarten shuts out birthday cakes, even double-decker ones. Parents like them. For children, birthday is definitely a big day to look forward to, because this day can not only receive a lot of gifts, but also to eat a lot of their favorite food, especially birthday cakes. After the child went to kindergarten, the child's birthday is not necessarily the weekend every year, many parents in order not to let the child disappointed, often to send a cake to kindergarten, let the teacher to class children, together to celebrate the birthday. Chen's son was supposed to have entered the kindergarten in March this year. Because of the epidemic, he didn't enter the kindergarten until September. It was her son's fourth birthday on the 25th last month. She ordered a birthday cake for him to send to the kindergarten. The teacher looked at the cake she was carrying and said, "Noisy Mom, take the cake back." There are too many children in the class to divide such a small cake. Our kindergarten forbids parents to give their children birthday cakes. Xiao Chen thought that the teacher rejected the cake is small, they bought a double big cake sent in the past, the result is to take the door. Xiao Chen that the teacher deliberately make things difficult for themselves, on the group of parents questioned the teacher, the parents are overwhelmingly support the teacher. The teacher of the kindergarten told the trouble of not letting parents send cakes. 1、 Food safety Birthday cakes are made from creamy products, butter in the air for too long will spoil, once the children eat the spoiled cake, it is easy to cause health problems. Most kindergartens don't allow food from outside, not just birthday cakes. For kindergartens, foreign food into the campus is a very dangerous thing, once the child ate bad food, a group poisoning, the kindergarten can not afford to bear the responsibility. 2、 The heart of comparison Children enter kindergarten from the beginning, began their group life. Keeping up with the Joneses is an inevitable part of group life. Even if children don't, the joneses never stop. When kindergarten sets the precedent of "children celebrating their birthdays and parents giving cakes," other parents have to follow suit. Not all families in a class can afford such expenses. In addition, those children whose parents didn't give them cakes on their birthdays were excluded, left out in the cold, and even bullied. This is between the parents of vanity, comparisons in the heart of the child bear the consequences. 3、 Disturbing the normal teaching tasks of teachers Kindergarten to receive the cake from parents, we must spend more time to organize birthday parties, sub - cake, cleaning all take a long time, will disturb the teacher's normal teaching schedule. Is the cake delivered or not when the child goes to kindergarten? Children's birthday, parents do not send cake, mainly to see the kindergarten policy. Children in kindergarten birthday, parents sent a cake, you can be seen as a show off, comparison, can also be seen as sharing and gratitude. Whether it's dividing a cake or eating a cake, it's a give-and-take learning process. It's a great opportunity for kids to learn how to deal with relationships and manage emotions. The child is still young, just like a blank piece of paper, whether the birthday party is to compare or to share depends on how the parents guide. Finally There are so many "comparisons" in life that don't just happen at birthday parties. Parents teach their children not to measure people and things in material terms, so that children will become more and more healthy and broad-minded.
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