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在喜马拉雅听了蕊内的[睡前听]《不结婚》，记录下一些句子：(英文翻译是为了跟美国朋友交流) 不要试图通过结婚来逃避面对自己，不要指望遇到一个差不多的人结婚，就可以解决现在自己生活中的所有困惑和窘境。不要忽略自己内心深处最真实的感受与渴望，更不要埋没天赋，自暴自弃，放弃梦想。 Don't try to avoid facing yourself by marriage. Don't expect to meet a almost person to get married so you can solve all the puzzles and dilemmas in your life now. Don't ignore the most true feelings and desires of your heart, Don't bury your talent, Don't abandon yourself and to give up your dreams. 大部分人的婚姻爱情观无非是绑架对方，真正的爱是自由的。 因为到了年龄而找一个人来结婚，然后违心地去履行一些所谓的责任义务，这样真的行得通吗？ Most people's view of marriage and love is nothing more than abducting each other, and true love is free. Because of the age and find a person to marry, and unwilling to perform some of the duties. that really work? 如果两个人的关系真的很好，是不需要用任何契约的方式来束缚自己的。 If the relationship between the two people is really good, it is not necessary to bind themselves in any way of contract. 实质上真正有品质的关系就是有爱的关系，有爱才有家。一个人如果真正找到了自己内在的爱，那份无条件的无私的爱，那么，无论一个人还是两个人，无论结婚还是不结婚，都已经找到家了呀！ In essence, the real relationship of quality is the relationship of having love, If you have love ,you can have a home. If a person truly finds his inner love, the unconditional and selfless love, no matter whether a person or two people, whether he marries or not, he has found a home. 结婚只是一种制度，但因这个制度而烦恼和被摆布的人数不胜数，即便没有结婚这个纽带，有爱也可以构建一个家庭，既然有心意相通的人，又何必被制度所束缚呢。 Marriage is just a system, but the number of people who worry and be manipulated by this system is numerous. Even if there is no marriage link, love can also build a family. Since there are people who have a mind to connect with each other, why should they be bound by the system? 说说我最近的感悟： 学习客观地去观察和觉知自己的感受、情绪、想法以及正在做的每一件事情。然后就会发现，有些自己曾经做过的事情，简直是蠢到家了，也有些事简直是充满了智慧，奇妙的是，同一件事情，从某个角度看，很愚蠢，从另外一个角度看，很智慧。 Learn to observe and be aware of my feelings, emotions, ideas, and everything that is being done. Then I find that some of the things that I have done before are simply stupid and some things are full of wisdom. The miracle is that the same thing is stupid from a certain angle but but is wise from another perspective. 所以真正客观的观察是，没有评判，没有对错，没有好坏。 So the real objective observation is that there is no judgment, no right or wrong, no good or bad. 对于结婚或者不结婚，也没有对错好坏的分别，而是因人而异。不是为了结婚而结婚，也不是为了不结婚而不结婚。 For marriage or not to marry, there is no difference between the wrong and the right, but the difference between people. Not to marry for marriage, nor to no marry for without marriage. 那到底要怎么做呢？我的观点是去发现、修炼和应用自己内在的爱和智慧，当你感性的爱和理性的智慧越平衡，当你的爱越纯粹，你越有大爱的能力，你的头脑越清晰，觉知能力越强，你的问题就会越来越少。 So what to do on earth? My view is to find and practice and our own inner love and intelligence. When your perceptual and rational intelligence is balanced, the more pure your love, the greater your ability to love, the clearer your brain and the stronger your awareness, the fewer problems you will have. 如何修炼爱和智慧，每个人有适合自己的方法，只要有足够的渴望和愿力，就会找到。 How to cultivate love and wisdom, everyone has their own way, as long as there is enough desire ， it will be found. |
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