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文/两又同齐 Somethimes.we do not know why we are angry. just suddenly we are in a bad mood. and we want to quarrel with other people . even these people do not have any mistake or do something bad to ourselves. we release our emotion to them unconsciously. Do you have suffered these? How you are feeling when you release your bad emotion? Do you feel better after doing that? Or you feel more self-condemned after doing that? I guess the first reson why we feel disprited is that we suffer a lot unhappiness things in a short time. and we do not know how to describe it. and these small and small things in our heart become a fire someday and fire the people who are around us. For example. the first day you find your bike was broken. then you miss the bus. at last you are later for work time and deduct the salary. The second day someone rides a bike and hurt you without any words but running away. and you find you forget door keys at home when you are outside of the door. The third day,your baby are playing the toys on the floor and throw the toys every where. then you call him to make them together.but your baby is still in the happy playing mood. you are becoming angry with him and reprimandjng your baby without any reason. and the baby watch you and say what I am wrong? Exactly. what you are angry is because you met many bad things and collect these grievances together. but unluckily. you take your baby as an aim and pull out these complaints to him. there is one sentence said: it is not the last straw bends the camel but each straw. The second reason we feel angry is we want to control everything and hope what we except is successful. if it is opposite our ideas. we will become angry. We wish we say one no person can say two. we hope we do everything can sucess in a short time and get a good results. well. actually. every things need our effort and discuss it for a long time. and mostly the complex is not the things but the people communication. If we want some one help us. we shall think how to meet him. how to speak to him. different person has different method to deal things. someone prefer frankly speaking. some one perfer politely telling. and some one perfer exchanging methods. so if a frank people meet a polite man.perhaps the communication will become a nonsenscial chatting. and each one does not get what they want. and they feel unhappy. The last reason we are angry is we ask a high-level for ourselves. this is no relations other people but ourselves. Perhaps you plan to finish the work in one hour. well. at last you use three hours to complete it. then you will feel angry for yourself. bacause you do not have enough time for other things. Maybe you guess you can get the goals earlier. in fact. even you exert your energy to catch it. then you failed. that is why you become angry and have a bad temperament. So why we become angry. we can say it is for ourselves mind. not others. if we complain the world. if we balming others. we will find we become more angry. because we can not control others. but we can adjust ourselves. When we met a chain of bad luck. we can say it is the test of heaven. and we will become more strong after these things. what we do is just to change our cognizance to these unlucky matters. there is one word say:every cloud has a silver lining. We shall realize that it is not we control somebody or something. it is the people or somethings follow us by our respect to them. so what we do is to go with the flow and show our advantages at this flow. then we will find every thing will become better and better. so please Improving ourselves instead of boring around. When we improve ourselves. we shall pay more attention to our actual ablity and to find how much we can improve or catch the higer skills. To make an achievable goals and detail plans. then we insist to work as the plans. Perhaps we need mondify our plans in action. but please do not change the goals easily. it is every road leads to rome. so rome is our goals and the road is our plans. Perhaps. We can not change the world. well. but we can change ourselves. we can adjust our minds and thoughts to watch the things which happened or happening on ourselves. It is lucky or unlucky. which is based on what we thought. we can choose we are angry or ee are clam to face the matters around us. Since we can have a choice to face our life. we can creat happiness and choose how much better our lives we can get.too. so,.why we choose angry? why we are angry? If we feel angry next time. please tell ourselves. to think the sunshine and to see the beautiful. to find the right side. to enjoy the life. 上一篇： |
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