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每个人都是一面镜子，认识自己就像从别人的镜子中看见自己，但镜子之间常常有一层迷雾，要想驱散这层迷雾需要自己遵循四个约定：一、善用美好的语言：语言是一种力量，充满了强大的魔力。善用美好的语言，意味着不要用语言来伤害自己。我们应该用积极、美好的词语来表达自己的想法和情感，从而创造良好的人际关系和自我形象。中国有句俗话说“良言一句三冬暖”说的也是这个道理。二、不受他人言行影响：不要将任何事情个人化，一个人的行为或言辞是他们自己及内心世界的反映，而不是你。别人的伤害性行为是别人的情绪垃圾，如果你将其个人化，你就会接纳别人的情绪垃圾，并开始形成自己的情绪垃圾。三、不要妄加揣测：大脑善于会对情况进行各种揣测，我们应该在下结论之前针对情况提出问题，并尽可能多地收集信息。当我们针对任何情况能保持开放态度，而不是妄加揣测最坏的情况时，我们才能够减少不必要的痛苦。四、凡事尽力而为：尽力而为并不是完美或超越你实际能够实现的范围，而是随着每一天的感受而变化。有时候尽力而为是收拾房间，有时候尽力而为是跑一场马拉松。这本书非常小，看完这四点就相当于看完这本书了，大家不必浪费时间再去看这本书！Today we're delving into the life changing, mind altering teachings of Don Miguel Ruiz, and his books, The Four Agreements, this short but powerful book uses principles of ancient Toltec wisdom to explain just how easy it is to completely transform your life for the better, using only your mindset, originating from southern Mexico in the city of pyramids. The the Toltec were known as men and women of knowledge who had formed a society to explore and conserve the spiritual knowledge and practices of ancient civilization. They held beliefs about freedom, happiness, and love. That today can transform the average person's mindset from self doubt and pain to joy and fulfillment.今天，我们将深入探讨堂·米格尔·路易兹关于改变生活、改变心灵的教诲，以及他的作品《通往心灵自由之路》。本书短小但充满力量，通过运用古代托尔特克智慧，向我们阐述了如何只用改变思维倾向就能轻松彻底改变自己的生活，托尔特克智慧源自墨西哥南部的金字塔古城。托尔特克人是一群有知识的男男女女，他们组成了一个社会，探索并保留了古代文明的精神智慧和实践经验，他们坚信自由、幸福和爱。如今，这些教诲能将普通人的思维倾向从自我怀疑和痛苦烦恼转变为喜悦和满足。One important lesson that the Toltec teach is the idea of of the smoky mirror. For this lesson, everyone in the world is a mirror. We are all much more alike than we think we are. When looking at each other, we should recognize our similarities and treat others with empathy and kindness. However, the smoke in between the mirrors stops us from being able to recognize ourselves in others. It dampens our awareness and keeps us from relating to others and being truly happy. There's a way to help us see through this smoke. And these are the four agreements.托尔特克人传授的一则重要教诲是“迷雾之镜”理念。在这个教诲中，世界上的每个人都是一面镜子，每个人其实都比我们想象中更相似。在相互看待时，我们应该认识到彼此的相似之处，并以同情和善意对待他人。然而，每张镜子间的迷雾阻止了我们从他人中认出自己。迷雾之境蒙蔽了我们的觉知，使我们无法与他人建立联系，也无法真正快乐。帮助我们穿透这层迷雾的一种方法，就是四个约定。The first agreement is to be impeccable with your word. Words are powerful and the language we use to describe ourselves, and our environment matters a lot. If we choose to gossip and think negatively about people or the world around us, we will end up suffering more. In fact, we can see the effect negative language can have on us in a scientific study from 2021. Scientists assigned 2 groups to read two different stories, 1 group ready story that used a lot of negative words like stressed, sad, dirty, and bad. The other group was given a very similar story. But this one use more positive language like excited, strong, good, and happy. The results show that the group that read the positive story or in a better mood than you guessed it, those that read the story with negative language. This study and others like it, prove that being careful of our words can play a huge role in how we feel throughout the day, even the way we speak to ourselves or self talk, is essential to our happiness and overall confidence.第一个约定是：善用美好的语言。语言的力量强大无穷，我们用于描述自己和周围环境的语言至关重要。如果我们选择传播流言蜚语，对人或周围世界持负面态度，我们最终会遭受更多痛苦。实际上，2021年的一项科学研究，证明了负面语言对我们的影响。科学家们让两组人分别阅读不同的故事，一组读了一则使用了许多负面词汇如压力、伤心、肮脏、糟糕的故事。另一组得到的是一则非常相似的故事，但这则故事使用了更多积极的语言，如兴奋、坚强、良好和快乐。研究结果显示，读了积极故事的那组人情绪比预期中更好，而读了带有负面言辞故事的那组人则情绪更差。这项研究及类似研究表明，我们需要注意自己的言辞，言辞对我们的幸福感和自信心至关重要，言辞会影响我们一整天的情绪，甚至影响内心自我对话的方式。Take a look at one of our previous videos that does a deeper dive into self talk in the description box below.请在下方描述框内查看我们先前制作的一些视频，深入了解内心对话。(无视这句话)This brings us to our second agreement. Don't take anything personally. As human beings, we spend a lot of time in our heads. This can make it feel like every interaction or opinion formed about us is extremely important. However, according to the Toltec, the way a person acts or what they say is a reflection of themselves and their inner world rather than you. Miguel Ruiz describes hurtful treatment from others as their emotional garbage. And by taking it personally, you take their emotional garbage and start forming your own. 这将引出第二个约定：不要将任何事情个人化。作为人类的代价是，我们会在大脑中消耗很多时间，这会让我们觉得每一次社交互动或别人对我们的看法都极其重要。然而，根据托尔特克人的教导，一个人的行为或言辞是他们自己及内心世界的反映，而不是你。堂·米格尔·路易兹将他人的伤害行为描述为他人的情绪垃圾。如果你将其个人化，你就会接纳他人的情绪垃圾，并开始形成自己的情绪垃圾。Moving on to our third agreement, don't make assumptions. Our minds have a tendency to make all kinds of assumptions about situations. When we don't know the whole picture, we tend to fill in the blanks to try to better understand what others might be feeling. For example, we could assume that a friend cancelling plans means that they don't enjoy our company. When in reality, it could have been that they had a really rough day or just couldn't make it for other reasons. We create negative stories and emotional garbage when we assume the worst about a situation.继续谈谈第三个约定：不要妄加揣测。我们的大脑往往会对情况进行各种揣测。当我们不了解整体情况时，大脑倾向于填补空白，试图更好地理解他人可能的感受。例如，我们可能会揣测，朋友放我们鸽子，意味着他们不喜欢我们的陪伴。但实际上，可能是他们经历了很糟糕的一天或者因为其他原因无法赴约。当我们对某种情况持最坏的揣测时，我们会制造负面故事和情绪垃圾。If you think back to the smoky mirror idea, you can see how making an assumption would add to the smoke and stop us from relating to the other person and being truly happy. To stop us from making assumptions. Miguel Ruiz writes that we should ask questions about situations and gather as much Information as we can before coming to any conclusions. This saves us unnecessary suffering when we remain open to any reality rapidly rather than assuming the worst.如果你回想起“迷雾之镜”的理念，你就会明白妄加揣测会增加迷雾，使我们无法与他人建立联系，也无法真正快乐。停止妄加揣测。堂·米格尔·路易兹写道，我们应该在下结论之前针对情况提出问题，并尽可能多地收集信息。当我们针对任何情况能保持开放态度，而不是妄加揣测最坏的情况时，我们才能够减少不必要的痛苦。The final agreement comes after we've mastered all the rest and is essentially the Cherry on Top of the agreement cake. This is about taking actions to achieve your goal. It is to always do your best. This agreement is about giving your best shot in everything you do. Your best isn't perfection or anything more than what you can realistically achieve and it can look different, depending on the day, some days, just getting out of your bed is your best and others running a marathon might be your best. Doing your best is relative to how you feel on a certain day.最后一个约定是基于我们掌握了前三个约定后出现的，实质上犹如蛋糕上的樱桃，起到点缀的作用。这个约定关乎采取行动来实现你的目标，它就是：凡事尽力而为。这个约定意味着无论你做什么事情，尽你最大的努力。尽力而为并不是完美或超越你实际能够实现的范围，而是随着每一天的感受而变化。有些时候，只是起床就是你最好的表现，而在其他时候，也许跑马拉松才是你最好的表现。尽力而为取决于你在某一天的感受。By giving your all to every Challenge you face, you start to become someone others can rely on. And more importantly, if you do your best, you'll have no regrets. And eventually with practice, your best will become better and better until you are truly living to your full potential.全力以赴地面对每一个挑战，你会开始变成别人可以依赖的人。更重要的是，如果你尽了你的全力，你将余生无憾。随着尽力而为的推进，你的最好将变得越来越好，直到你真正发挥出你的全部潜力。Living in practicing these ancient Toltec agreements can be truly life changing. What do you think? Comment below with which agreements resonate the most with you and is always stay tuned?
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