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人们常说，树挪死，人挪活，现实中也确实存在这种现象，为什么？下面跟大家分析探讨一下。个人认为，主要原因是由于自然属性和社会属性不同所造成的。树的生长需要满足自然属性，而人的成长需要满足社会属性。 从自然属性看，一棵树在一个地方长久了，必然越来越适应这个地方的自然环境，根也越扎越深。若要挪动，在新环境中，由于适应成本大，反而对生长不利，不利于树成活。 从社会属性看，一个人在一个地方呆久了，难免会犯一些错误。尽管这个人可能后来也改正了错误，但周围的人由于有利益竞争关系，总是会抓住这个人的错误不放。即使这个人在这个地方干出了很大成绩，但好事不出门，坏事传千里。另外，从社会属性看，一个人在一个地方待久了，难免会得罪周围的一些人。而得罪的这些人，可能一生都会成为这个人前进道路上的障碍。一些研究也表明，伤害人一次，往往需要补救十次，才有可能扯平，但总是还留有疤痕，所以，人是伤害不起的。 如此，当一个人在一个单位感觉发展不顺时，若年龄允许，或有关条件允许，不妨换一个环境，会更容易成功。因为在新的环境中，一是可以以自己前面犯的错误引以为戒，必然更少犯错误；二是也躲开了原来得罪了的一些人，找你不是的人必然少了，阻挡你前进的人也必然少了。 由于存在树挪死、人挪活现象，这也从另一个方面为我们如何做人提供了启示。一个人在一个单位，从一开始就一定要谨慎，本本分分、规规矩矩、踏踏实实最好。若出了问题，换单位虽然也有变好的可能性，甚至有较大变好可能性，但换环境总是有成本的，甚至会有很大成本，有的人甚至换过去后还有可能不如以前，情况变得更差。所以，在前进道路上，如何实现人生成本的最小化，需要人生的扣子，从一开始就要系好、系正。小成靠智，大成靠德。不积跬步，无以至千里。立足善良，不急躁，不怠慢，把每一件小事都谨慎做好，与每一个人都尽可能处理好关系，不要轻易伤害人。要大成，就需要时时守住这个理。当然，说不能轻易伤害人，也是有前提的，这个前提就是做人原则。有些人做人做事若不符合做人原则，甚至严重背离，还是需要爱憎分明的，不能当和事佬和老好人或当软弱可欺的羊。只是面对这些问题，处理需要更有艺术性，更有弹性，要注意多留回旋余地，要把柔和刚有机结合起来。 好，谢谢，谢谢。 Song Guiwu view 18: tree move dead, people move live, why People often say, tree move dead, people move live, in reality there is really this phenomenon, why?The following analysis and discussion with you.Personally, the main reason is caused by the difference in natural attributes and social attributes.The growth of a tree needs to meet the natural attributes, and the growth of people needs to meet the social attributes.From the natural attributes, a tree in a place for a long time, is bound to become more and more adapted to the natural environment of the place, the root is more and more deep.If you want to move, in the new environment, due to the large cost of adaptation, but not conducive to the growth of the tree survival.From the social attributes, a person in a place for a long time, it is hard to avoid making some mistakes.Although the person may later correct the mistakes, but the people around because of the interests of competition, always seize the person's mistakes.Even if the person in this place has made great achievements, but good news does not go out, bad news spreads.In addition, from the social attributes, a person in a place for a long time, it is hard to avoid offending some people around.And the offending people, may be a lifetime will become the obstacles on the road to the person's progress. Some research also shows that, hurt a person once, often need to remedy ten times, it is possible to even, but always also leave a scar, so, people can not afford to hurt.So, when a person in a unit feels development is not smooth, if the age permits, or the relevant conditions permit, may wish to change an environment, will be more easily successful.Because in the new environment, one is to take their own mistakes in front of a warning, must make fewer mistakes;two is also to avoid the original offended some people, find you not the people are bound to be less, blocking you forward people are bound to be less.Because of the existence of the tree move dead, people move live phenomenon, this also provides a revelation for us how to be from another aspect.A person in a unit, from the beginning must be cautious, honest, rules and regulations, steadfast best.If there is a problem, change the unit although there is also a possibility of better, even have a greater possibility of better, but change the environment is always costly, and even have a great cost, some people even change the past may not be as good as before, the situation becomes worse.So, on the road ahead, how to achieve the minimization of life costs, need life buttons, from the beginning to tie well, tie is.Small by wisdom, great by virtue.A thousand miles, no steps. Based on kindness, not impatient, not slight, do every little thing carefully, and everyone as far as possible to deal with the relationship, do not hurt people easily.To great success, we need to always keep this principle.Of course, say can not hurt people easily, is also a premise, the premise is the principle of life.Some people do not live in accordance with the principle of life, or even serious deviation, or need to love and hate clearly, can not be a peacemaker and good or when the weak sheep.Just in the face of these problems, the need to deal with more artistic, more flexible, pay attention to more leeway, to combine the soft and hard.OK, thank you, thank you.  |
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