TrueLoveAlwaysPrevails
Trueloveiswesticktogetherin"thickandthin".Especiallywhenit''sthin,whenit''stroublesome.Thenweshouldreallybridgeoverthe"troubledwater".That''swhattheysayinEnglish.Butmostofusfailthetest,toourselves,nottoourpartners.Hemightleaveyou,hemightstaywithyou,becauseyou''reniceornotnice.Butyoufailyourself.Youleaveyourself.Youleavethemostnoblebeingthatyoureallyare.Soweshouldcheckuponthistoourfamilymembersorwhomeverthatisbelovedanddeartous.Mostofthetimeincriticalsituations,wejustturnourbacksandthatisnogood.
Ofcoursewehaveouranger,ourfrustrations1,becauseourpartnersarenotaslovingasusual,orwhomeverthatis;butheorsheisinadifferentsituation.Atthattime,sheorheisinmentalsuffering.It''sjustasbadorevenworsethanphysicalsuffering.Physicalsufferingyoucantakeapilloryoucanhaveaninjectionanditstopsoratleasttemporarilystops,andyoufeeltheeffectrightaway;oratleastifpeopleareinphysicalsuffering,everyonesympathizeswiththem.
Butwhentheyareinmentalanguish2,andwepoundthemmoreonthat,andweturnourbacksandbecomecoldandindifferent,thatisevenmorecruel,evenworse.Thatpersonwillbeswimmingaloneinsuffering.Andespeciallytheytrustusasthenextofkin3,thenextperson,theonethattheythinktheycanrelyonintimesofneed;andthenatthattime,wejustturnaroundandaresnobbish4,becausetheydidn''ttreatusnicesowejustwanttorevenge.That''snotthetime.Youcanrevengelater,whenhe''sinbettershape.Justslaphim.
Actually,atthattime,thepersonisnothisusualselfanymore.Hewasprobablyunderverygreatpressurethathelosthisowncontrol.It''snotreallylosthisowncontrol,butforexample,whenyouareinahurry,yourtalkisdifferent.Right?"Handmethatcoat!Quick!Quick!Quick!"Thingslikethat.Butnormally,youwouldsay"Honey,please,canyougivemethatcoat."Isthatnotso?(Audwww.baiyuewang.netience:Yes.)Orwhenyou''reinpain--forexamplestomachpain,heartacheorwhatever--youscreamloudly;andanyonewhocomestotalktoyou,youdon''ttalkintheusualwayanymore,becauseyou''reinpain.
Similarly,whenyouareinamentalorpsychologicalpain,youtalkalsoinaverygrouchy5way,verycross.Butthatisunderstandable.Soifwe--anyso-calledlovingpartnerorfamilymember--donotunderstandeventhisveryleast,verybasicconcept,thenwe''refinished.Thenwearereallyinabadsituation.It''snotthatthepartnerwilldoanytwww.tt951.comhingtous.Whetherhedoesanythingtouslaterornot,thatisnoproblem.Theproblemisus.Theproblemiswedegradeourselves,thatwemakelessofabeingofourselvesthanweshouldbe,thanwearesupposedtobe,orthatwereallyare.Sodonotmakelessofabeingofyourselves.
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