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自信，是個人對自己所做各種準備的感性評估。 廣義地說，自信本身就是一種積極性，自信就是在自我評價上的積極態度。自信是發自內心的自我肯定與相信。 做人應該有自信！ 但是如果人們把“自信”的“有無”看成是“成功”的“與否”的話，就會出“大問題”了。 因爲當我們面對要“處理”一個很陌生的“事情”時，心裏想到却是“我有沒有信心”，而不是“我要怎麽去觀察、瞭解這件事情，幷要怎樣計劃和實施什麽步驟，去實現這件事情。”于是很自然的，我們幾乎都會得出“我沒自信，看來我是做不了！”的想法，于是我們便做都不會去做了，更不要說“成功與否”。 “自信”是一個保健因素(hygiene factor)，沒有它，成功的機會將減低。但有了它並不表示成功的機會加大了。我們還要看外在環境(external environment)及內在能力(internal competency)。正如“知己知彼”，只能“百戰不殆”，並不能保證“百戰百勝”。 所以，之所以我們沒有了“自信”就很多事情都辦不成，幷不是因爲“自信”對“成功”真的“很重要”。而是因爲“它”對“成功”真的“一點都不重要”，但却被我們當成是“成功”的“必備原因”，于是“邏輯錯誤”造成了“判斷錯誤”，“判斷錯誤”又造成了“不去做事”或“草草了事”，最後他們終于認同了那句話：“一旦沒有了‘自信心’，就什麽也幹不成了！” 那麽什麽才是做事時最重要的呢？ 那就是“决心”和“恒心”！而“信念”却是“决心”和“恒心”的“能量”。 The myth of self-confidence is so subtle and deceptive that you may at first have trouble believing what I just wrote. I mean, all those people who are really successful, they are all really confident. And what about those situations where confidence and charm makes up a huge portion of the outcome like delivering a speech, making a sale or asking someone on a date. You can’t honestly be saying confidence isn’t important, can you? The problem isn’t that confidence is bad, it is that people assume it is the cause of success. This isn’t true. Confidence is correlated with success, that is true, but it isn’t the cause of success. What is really the cause of success in any situation, no matter how dependent it may seem to be on confidence is really three attributes: aptitude, beliefs and emotional control. Having confidence can give you a temporary boost of control, but whenever you encounter a situation where you fail because you misjudged the ease of the encounter, your confidence crashes and you have to start rebuilding it again. By instead focusing on these three other aspects you can maintain a cool, calm and collected exterior, internally handling failure with ease and greatly increasing your ability. References: http://www./blog/2006/09/20/the-confidence-myth/ http://www.hudong.com/wiki/%E8%87%AA%E4%BF%A1 |
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