适时舍得

从前有一位师父，他到印度去。那时候，我们没有通信或飞机或多种交通工具，我们现在要做的。所以这位师父就步行去印度。他从未去过印度；也许他来自波斯的。他到那儿时，他看见很多水果。他们在印度有大量的水果卖，但是大部分是昂贵的因为他们不能对水的情况多是由于生长。他看见一个篮子里，一大篮子的一些很红，长果。这是商店里最便宜，一点都不贵。

So he went up and asked, "How much per kilo?" And the shopkeeper said, "Two rupees." Two rupees in India is nothing; it's like dirt. So he bought a whole kilogram of the fruit and started eating it. But after he ate some of it: Oh, my God! His eyes watered, his mouth watered and burned, his eyes were burning, his head was burning and his face became red. As he coughed and choked and gasped for breath, he jumped up and down, saying, "Ah! Ah! Ah!"

所以他去问，“多少钱一斤？”和店主说，“两个卢比。两卢比在印度没什么；它像尘土。所以他整整买了一公斤，然后开始吃。但是在他吃了它：哦，我的上帝！他的眼睛湿润，他的嘴浇水烧了，他的眼睛在燃烧，他的头被燃烧，他的脸变得通红。他咳呛得喘口气，他跳上跳下，说，“啊！啊！啊！”

But he still continued to eat the fruit! Some people who were looking at him shook their heads and said, "You're crazy, man. Those are chilies! You can't eat so many; they're not good for you! People use them as a condiment, but only a little bit to put into food for taste. You can't just eat them by the handful like that; they're not fruit!" So the stupid master said, "No, I can't stop! I paid money for them, and now I'll eat them. It's my money!"

不过他还是继续吃！有人看到他摇摇头说，“你疯了，男人。那些是辣椒！你不能吃太多；他们对你不好！人们把它作为一种调味品，但只是一点点放进食物的味道。你不能只吃少量的一样；他们不是水果！”那位笨师父说，“不，我不能停止！我付了钱给他们，现在我会吃。那是我的钱！”

And you think that master was stupid, right? Similarly, we sometimes do a lot of things like that. We invest money, time or effort in a relationship, business or job. And even though it's been a long time, bitter experience tells us it won't work, and we know there's no more hope that things will change in the future - this we definitely know by intuition - we still continue just because we've invested money, time, effort and love into it. If so, we're kaput in the brain. Just like the man who ate the chilies and suffered so much but couldn't stop because he didn't want to waste the money he'd paid.

你认为师父很笨，是吗？同样地，我们有时做的很多事情一样。我们投资的钱，在一个关系的时间和精力，业务或工作。尽管这是一个漫长的时间，痛苦的经验告诉我们，它不会工作，我们知道没有希望的事情会在未来改变我们的直觉告诉我们还是只是因为我们已经投入了金钱，时间，精力和感情在里面。如果是这样的话，我们头脑坏。就像人吃辣椒的这么多，不能停止，因为他不想浪费已经付出的钱。