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Perhaps the show?s popularity was due to having some truth in the fiction:
(a) friends can be a proxy family for young people, offering invaluable advice, support, and companionship; (b) friends can be of the same or opposite sex, but these two types of friendship work differently; (c) friends may engage in casual sex, but may also become involved romantically; (d) friendships are central to the lives of emerging adults, especially those who are single and not in a serious romantic relationship; and (e) friends help people to figure themselves out and influence their behavior, potentially for both good and bad 1. Friendships are important in emerging adulthood, but their importance changes as romantic relationships become more salient and stable. Whether emerging adults are single, dating, or married affects friendship networks. Single and dating people are strongly attached to friends, naming friends as their top companions and confidants. In contrast, romantically involved emerging adults change the time they spend with friends. Early in their relationships, emerging-adult couples spend more time with friends to introduce them to their new romantic interest. But as the relationship gets serious, the couple withdraws from the circle of friends. Typically, withdrawal is selective, with couples spending less time with peripheral friends and more time with friends who support their relationship 2. While some EA have meaningful and (mostly) platonic opposite-sex friendships, in reality these are less common than same-sex ones. The line between a friend and a romantic/sexual partner is often fuzzy, creating feelings of anticipation and disappointment. One should be careful not to assume that opposite-sex friendships among EA are platonic or romantic. Emerging adults become increasingly flexible in whom they include in friendship networks and how they maintain these networks. They grow more accepting of opposite-sex friendships, even keeping former boyfriends or girlfriends on as friends 3.Emergin
g adults? friendships are even
more emotionally intimate than their friendships of just a few years earlier. Relationship quality depends not only on what you give friends, but also what you get. In addition to the healthy dimensions we described above, friendships can also have negative aspects, such as frequent conflict, power inequities, and antagonism 4. Parenthood,an event that typically happens at the end of
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emerging adulthood. parenthood normally reorganizes friendship networks. New parents report fewer friends following the birth of a child, and fathers, especially, report less
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