奥巴马给女儿的建议：停止12件事

人总是矛盾，

时而觉得生命如此短暂，哪天突发奇想又觉得生命怎么也走不完，

有时候又因为小小的挫折觉得人生真是转眼一瞬间的事情，不要做这样的纠结狂了，好好的把今天过好才是要紧事儿

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奥巴马给女儿的建议：停止12件事

1 – Stop Doubting Yourself 停止怀疑自己

If you don’t believe in yourself, nobody will.

如果你自己都不相信自己，那没人会相信你。

2 – Stop Being Negative 停止消极

You don’t like when people are critical of you, so stop being critical of others.

你不希望被人对你挑剔，那么也不要再去挑剔身边的人。

3 – Stop Procrastinating 停止拖延

When you procrastinate, you remain stagnant. Whatever you’re putting off doesn’t go away; resolve the problem, and move on.

一旦开始拖延，其实你已经停滞不前了。你拖延的事情不会自行解决。解决问题，继续前行吧。

4 – Stop Being Mean 不要那么刻薄

If someone wrongs you, let it go. There’s no need to seek vengeance unless that’s the type of person you want to be.

如果有人对你无理地对待，随他们去好了。没必要去报复，除非你也想成为那一类的人。

5 – Stop Complaining 停止抱怨

We all have problems, and sometimes we need to vent to someone. That’s acceptable, but pay attention to how often you’re venting. We all love helping our friends and family, but when all you get from someone is negativity, it’s easier to cut them off than help, especially if they’re always complaining about the same things.

我们都有麻烦事，有时候总想跟别人倾诉。这可以理解，但要注意你吐槽的频率。我们都喜欢帮助朋友和家人，但如果从那个人身上我只能感知到负能量，那么还是离得越远越好吧，尤其是当他们在反复抱怨同一件事的时候。

6 – Stop Being Selfish 别再那么自私

If you only think about yourself, you’ll soon find yourself by yourself.

如果你只考虑你自己，那么很快你会发现身边只剩下你自己。

7. – Stop Wasting Time 别再浪费时间

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: time is the most valuable resource we have. Don’t waste your time on unproductive things.

虽然之前说过了，但我还想再说一遍：时间是我们拥有的最宝贵的资源，不要把时间浪费在没有意义的事情上面。

8 – Stop Making Promises 别再做承诺

When you make a promise, you’re adding responsibility to your plate that, despite all your best intentions, you may not be able to deliver on.

每次做承诺都是不禁给自己增添了责任，无论你的出发点有多好，你都不可能完成所有的部分。

9 – Stop Being a Pushover 不要总做老好人

Everyone’s looking out for themselves in one way or another, and you need to do the same. Stop putting yourself out because you’re too shy to say no.

每个人都从不同的角度去找寻着自己，你也需要，你要做的就是在合适的时候说不。

10 – Stop Being Wasteful 停止浪费

You don’t finish your meals, and away food instead. You leave the faucet running when you brush your teeth, pouring precious water down the drain. You are wasteful, and it needs to stop.

你饭没吃完，然后扔掉食物；刷牙的时候还开着水龙头，就让宝贵的水哗哗的流走；如果你浪费了，那就赶紧停止这一恶习。

12 – Stop Taking Everything Personally 别把每件事太往心里去

Not everything is about you, and if you’re easily upset, someone will use that to their advantage.

不是所有的事都要围着你转，如果你是玻璃心，有人会利用这一点。