在教育教学经历中,许多家长都表示在为孩子的学习和生活效率感到担忧:精力不集中、磨蹭、浪费时间……每天的生活都像打仗一样,可是感觉该做的事情总是不能及时完成。 人的高效能是有方法的,好的习惯是提高效能的不二法门,您也许听说过《The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People - 高效能人士的7个习惯》这本书,其实这本书的作者还专门针对年幼孩子和中小学生,写过另外两本着名的书:《The 7 Habits of Happy Kids》(快乐儿童的7个习惯)和《The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens》(高效能青少年的7个习惯)。 很多美国学校根据这两本书的内容,给学生们画了一个叫7个习惯树(The 7 Habits Tree)的海报,以培养孩子的好习惯,这副海报在美国中小学生教室里很常见。今天为大家详细解读一下The 7 Habits Tree,希望对家长和孩子都有帮助。 高效能孩子的7个习惯: The 7 habits Tree 这幅海报用一棵大树来比喻孩子一生中要培养的好习惯。从树根开始从下往上,这7个习惯像一棵树一样逐渐长成,分别是: 1. Be proactive 2. Begin with the end in mind 3. Put first things first 4. Think win-win 5. Seek first to understand, then to be understood 6. Synergize 7. Sharpen the saw 下面,来看看对这7个习惯的注解: 第一个习惯 Be proactive - you are in charge 积极主动,我的人生我负责 I am a responsible person. I take initiative. I choose my actions,attitudes and moods. I do not blame others for my wrong actions. I do the right thing without being asked, even when no one is looking. 我对自己负责,做事积极主动。我管理自己的行为、态度和情绪。我做了错事不怪别人。不用别人说我也会去做正确的事情,哪怕没有人在看。 第二个习惯 Begin with the end in mind - Have a plan 有目标,有计划 I plan ahead and set goals. I do things that have meaning and make a difference. I am an important part of my classroom and contribute to my schools mission and vision. I look ways to be a good citizen. 做事前我会定计划和目标。我做有意义和带来积极影响的事。我是班级里的重要一员,为学校事务做贡献。我希望成为一个好公民。 第三个习惯 Put first things first - Work first, then play 做事分主次,先工作,后娱乐 I spend my time on things that are most important. This means I say no to things I know I should not do. I set priorities, make a schedule, and follow my plan. I am disciplined and organized. 我在重要的事情上花时间。不该做的事,我勇于说不。我制定优先级,做日程表,执行我的计划。我对自己有纪律,做事井井有条。 第四个习惯 Think win-win - Everyone can win 从互赢角度考虑问题,利己利人 I balance courage for getting what I want with consideration for what others want. I make deposits in others Emotional Bank Accounts. When conflicts arise, I look for third alternatives. 我勇于争取自己想要的,但是我同时也会考虑别人的需求。我在别人的情感银行账号里放下我的存款。有矛盾的时候,我寻求能平衡彼此需求的解决方案。 第五个习惯 Seek first to understand, then to be understood 先去理解别人,再求被人理解 I listen to other peoples ideas and feelings. I try to see things from their view points. I listen to others without interrupting. I am confident invoicing my ideas. I look people in the eyes when talking. 我仔细聆听别人的主意和情感。我努力从他人角度去理解问题。听别人说话的时候我不插嘴、不打扰。我很有信心说出我自己的主意。别人说话的时候,我直视他的眼睛。 第六个习惯 Synergize - Together is better 协同-合作会更好 I value other peoples strengths and learn from them. I get along well with others, even people who are different than me. I work well in groups. I seek out other peoples ideas to solve problems because I know that by teaming with others we can create better solutions than anyone of us can alone. I am humble. 我珍重别人的优点,向他们学习。我和大家很好相处,即使他们和我很不一样。我能有效地进行团队合作,因为我知道合作比单打独斗能带来更好的解决方案。我保持谦虚的精神。 第七个习惯 Sharpen the saw - Balance feels best 磨刀不误砍柴工,寻求健康和平衡 I take care of my body eating right, exercising and getting sleep. I spend time with family and friends. I learn in lots of ways and lots of places, not just at school. I find meaningful ways to help others. 我注意饮食、锻炼和睡眠。我花时间和家人、朋友在一起。我在各种地方都能以各种方式学到很多东西-学习的地方可不止于学校。我用有意义的方式去帮助别人。 |
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