帮助孩子成长的10个人生残酷事实

译者： 小龙爱小玲 原作者：网络

发表时间：2015-04-27

Ten Cruel Facts in Life that Help Children to Grow Up

帮助孩子成长的10个人生残酷事实

Ten Cruel Facts in Life hat Help Children to Grow Up

1、人生是不公平的

1、Life is unfair

往往在你最意想不到的时候，人生会让你尝到柠檬的酸味。你越早明白这个残酷的事实，在处理这些必将出现的麻烦事时，你就会准备得越好。

Life will let you taste the sour taste of lemons even when you are least expected. The sooner you understand this cruel fact, the better you will be when dealing with these problems around the corner.

2、万事开头难

2、Everything is hard in the beginning

让我们面对这个事实：改掉坏习惯非常困难。研究证实了这一点。中国的哲学家老子说过，“千里之行，始于足下。”如果你想要做出改变，就从第一步开始。做出一点小的 行动，任何一种行动都行，然后就从这里开始。

Let‘s face this fact:It is difficult for us to get rid of bad habits . Some researches have confirmed that. Lao Zi, a philosopher in China once said " A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." If you want to make any change,then begin with the first step. Just make some small actions, any kind is ok, and start from there.

3、好事情不会来得很快

3、Good things don't come  very soon

我们认识中的伟大成就都来之不易。想想看，你还有别的办法吗？有一个基本的心理学原理，叫做即时满足，意思是我们期待立刻获得回报。但有时候你要和大脑中的这种冲 动作斗争，要相信你正在走一条正确的路。

In our consciousness, great achievements were hard-earned. Think it over, are there any other solutions that you can come up with? There is a fundamental psychological principle called instant gratification,which means we expect to be rewarded immediately. But some times you have to struggle with this kind of impulse in your mind,just believe that you are going a correct way.

 

4、人生路上不是每个人都会支持你

4、Not everyone will support you in the journey of life

你的人生中从来不缺乏怀疑者、嫉妒者和悲观主义者。克服这个残酷的现实很简单：别听他们的。坚守自己，相信你的直觉，忘掉那些不支持你的目标和激情的人。

There are always many sceptic，the envious and pessimists existed in your life. However,it is easy to overcome this cruel fact: Don't listen to them. Stick to what you are doing，and believe in your instinct ,just forget those who don’t support your goal and passion.

5、你无法永远掌控每件事

5、You can never handle everything

听着，放手不是件容易的事，尤其如果你还是一个能干的人。但如果你想继续成长，有时候你需要放弃对某些事的掌控，让一切顺其自然。这并不意味着你对待事情的态度是 “静观其变”。你依然可以为了成就伟大而奋斗，只不过在努力之后，就可以放手，要相信上天会为你安排妥当。你会惊讶地发现一切都很顺利。

Listen,it is never easy to give up something,especially if you are a competent man. But if you want to grow continually,you need to give up handling something some times, and just let nature take its course. It doesn't mean that your attitudes towards things is "wait and see'. You can still struggle for great achievements, just let things go after a lot of effort, do believe that god will arrange for you properly.You will be surprised finding that everything goes smoothly.

 

6、不入虎穴焉得虎子

6、Nothing venture，nothing gain

这又是一个很多人不能领会的残酷现实：如果你不能冒险，想实现你所追求的就会更加困难。那些真正改变世界的人都是最大的冒险家。他们情愿让一切处于危险之中，也肯为了他们所信仰的事而失败。他们认为每一次失败都是一次成长、变得更好的机会。

This is another cruel fact that many people can not figure out: If you don't want to take risks,it would be more difficult to achieve what you are pursuing. Those who actually change the world are all adventurers. They are willing to put everything at the edge of danger，as well as suffer from failures from things they have belives in. They consider every failure as a chance to grow up and get better.

 

7、没有了你眼下在乎的某些人，你的生活也许更美好

7、You may living a better life without someone you care about at the moment

这一点听起来很难以接受。但有可能你生命中某个你特别在乎的人阻碍了你前进。这不是说你要放弃那些你爱的人。可是有时候你需要做出艰难的决定，对那些不能帮助你成 长的人说不。

This sounds unacceptable. But it may be someone you deadly care about and cherish that hold you back. This does't means that you should give uo those you love. But sometimes you have to make tough decisions,and learn to say "No" to those who can't help you to grow up.

 

 

8、死亡是人生的一部分

8.Death is a part of life

面对失去所爱之人的巨大痛苦，我们总是无所适从。残酷的现实在于，这是一个黏性的循环。但是你可以做一些事情，让这种痛苦减轻一些：从现在起就让他们成为你人生中的一部分。别推迟给那些好久没见的朋友或家人打电话或者上门拜访。每次和你爱的人们相处时都把它当作是最后一次，这样你就不会有任何遗憾了。

Suffering from great pain resulted from losing our loved ones, we are always feel confused about what to do. But the harsh reality tells us that it is a sticky cycle. But you can ease your pain by doing some things: Let death be a part of your life from now on. Don't hesitate to call or visit your friends or families whom you have't seen for a long time. Regard it as the last time when you get along with those you love, then you will never have regrets.

 

9、你是自己通向伟大的唯一阻碍

9、Yourself are the only obstacle on the way to greatness

我们总是期待着下一件好事情，却没有意识到它正在我们面前发生。别被消极的念头所阻碍。相反，要关注那些发生在你生活中的积极的事情。选择快乐，就是现在。

We are always looking forward to the next good thing,but even don't realize they are happening in front of us. So don't be blocked by negative thoughts. In contrast, pay attention to those positive things happened in your life. It is time to choose happiness now.

10、有时候好人也会遇到坏事

10、Sometimes the good may also meet bad things

 

磨难是人生的一部分。但好处在于，它会让我们更强大。世界的运转总有随机性，这确实难以理解。我们每天都会看到这种证据，这的确会让你质疑人类的未来。你如何看待这个世界由你自己决定。只需要记住，现实不论多么残酷，都会让你自由。

Suffering is a part of life. Its good point is to make us more stronger. Things always works with randomness,it is hard to understand indeed. We see this kind of evidence everyday,which surely makes you to doubt the future of human beings.How to look this world is decided by yourself. Just remember,no matter how cruel the reality is, it will makes you free.