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Decide if it's worth trying to get your ex back bycarefully examining your relationship history. 谨慎地反思你们的恋爱史，决定是否值得挽回你的前任。 You Will Need 你需要 Discussion 讨论 Examination 检查 List 列表 Dating 约会 Personal questions 个人问题 Steps 步骤 STEP 1 Discuss the issue 1.讨论该问题 Discuss with your ex if things were left up in the air about what went wrong. Pay attention tousing good communication. If the conversation goes poorly, old wounds won't heal, and youshould move on. 如果问题悬而未决，与前任共同讨论这个问题。注意使用良好的沟通方式。如果对话不顺利，旧伤难愈，你应该放弃，一切向前看。 STEP 2 Examine loneliness 2.是否孤独 Examine whether the impulse to reconsider comes from your discomfort with being alone.Realize that it's better to be alone and feel content than it is to be with someone and feelmiserable. 反省一下复合的冲动是否来自孤独导致的不适。意识到相对于和让你感到痛苦的人生活，单身一人感觉更好，更满足。 If you get intimate with your ex after your breakup, don't automatically assume that thatmeans you should get back together. 如果分手后和前任更加亲密，不要自动假设这意味着你们应该复合。 STEP 3 Save the trouble 3.躲开麻烦 Save yourself the grief if the desire to get back with the ex is borne of jealousy. You'll needyour strength to move on, and jealousy is not a good use of your energy. 如果与前任复合的渴望来自嫉妒，最好别自找麻烦。你需要继续前行的力量，不应该让嫉妒来浪费你的精力。 STEP 4 Date others 4.约会其他人 Go on a few dates with other people to gain perspective. If you're meant to get back togetherwith your ex, you should be able to survive a period of seeing other people while you sort outyour feelings. 与他人约会，或许更有机会。如果你打算和前任约会，你应该度过一段与其他人约会的时光，以此来整理自己的感觉。 STEP 5 Avoid abuse 5.避免滥用 Figure out if you were trying to fix them. Did you try to help them solve problems that, inretrospect, they hadn't shown much interest in addressing? Realize that only your ex canchoose to change their own life. 弄明白你是否想要改造他们。你过去是否曾试图帮助他们解决一些问题，而他们却根本没兴趣解决？要意识到只有你的前任才能改变自己的生活。 STEP 6 Ask questions 6.询问问题 Ask yourself if you like the person you are when you're around your ex. Do they bring out yourbest qualities? Do they appreciate you for who you really are? If the answer is no, it's probablynot worth trying to get your ex back. 问一下自己，是否喜欢在前任身边时的自己？你是否表现出最好的品性？他们是否喜欢真正的你？如果答案是否定的，可能并不值得与前任复合。 A 2004 film, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, depicts exes who had their memorieserased after a painful breakup. It ends with them running down a snow-covered beach wheretheir romance started, starting all over again. 2004年一部电影《美丽心灵的永恒阳光》描述了一对前恋人痛苦的分手后记忆被抹去的故事。故事的结局是，他们一起走过开始恋情的大雪覆盖的沙滩，一切重新开始。 小编听好多人说过，女人说一百遍分手都没有男人说一遍有效果。如果前任求复合，相信纠结的是大都数，这才出现情侣分分合合的情况。分手后沉沦于过去美好的时光，不习惯没有他的生活，这样的情况到底应不应该挽回前任呢？小编也不得而知，沃粉们有什么好的意见呢？在微信中与大家分享吧！ |
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