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你是否在亲密关系中经验过不断重复的剧情。那些相对来说不重要的小分歧是否常常引发激烈的争吵和情绪上的痛苦。在这一切的深处存在着自我的基本模式：它必须是正确的，当然，另一个人就必须是错误的，换句话说，就是认同于头脑的立场。自我还需要时不时地与某件事或某个人发生冲突，以加强那个在我和他人之间的分离感，如果没有这分离感，自我将无法生存。 此外，你和每一个人内在都携带着不断累积的情绪上的痛苦，它来自于你个人的过往，也来自于人类集体的伤痛，这伤痛可以追溯到很久、很久以前。这个痛苦之身是你内在的一个能量场，它会时不时接管你，因为它需要不断经验到情绪的伤痛，来喂养和填充它自己。它会试图掌控你的思考，使你的想法变得极端负面。痛苦之身喜爱你的负面想法，因为它能与这些想法的每一个频率共振，从而以它们为食。它也会引发你身边的人，尤其是你的伴侣的负面的情绪反应，好以随之而来的戏码和情绪伤痛喂养自己。这无意识的对痛苦的认同在生命中制造了如此多不幸，你该如何使自己从中解脱出来呢？ 觉察到那痛苦。意识到它不是真正的你，认出它的本来面目，它只是过去的伤痛。当它在你的伴侣或你自己身上发生时，观照它。当你打破了与它的无意识的认同，你就有能力在你内在观察它，你不再喂养它，然后它就会慢慢地失去能量的补充。 人类的互动可以是地狱。或者，它也可以成为伟大的灵性练习。 Do you experience frequent and repetitive drama in your close relationships? Do relatively insignificant disagreements often trigger violent arguments and emotional pain? At the root of it lie the basic egoic patterns: the need to be right, and, of course, for someone else to be wrong, that is to say identification with mental positions. There is also the ego's need to be periodically in conflict with something or someone in order to strengthen its sense of separation between me and the other, without which it cannot survive. In addition, there is the accumulated emotional pain from the past that you and each human being carries within, both from your personal past as well as the collective pain of humanity that goes back a long, long time. This pain body is an energy field within you that sporadically takes you over because it needs to experience more emotional pain for itself to feed on and replenish itself. It will try to control your thinking and make it deeply negative. It loves your negative thoughts since it resonates with every frequency and so can feed on them. It will also provoke negative emotional reactions in people close to you, especially your partner, in order to feed on the ensuing drama and emotional pain. How can you free yourself from this unconscious identification with pain that creates so much misery in life? Become aware of it. Realize that it is not who you are and recognize it for what it is, past pain. Witness it as it happens in your partner or in yourself. When your unconscious identification with it is broken, when you are able to observe it in yourself, you don't feed it anymore and it will gradually lose its energy charge. Human interaction can be hell. Or it can be a great spiritual practice. |
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