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本文摘自ListenLotus听莲公众平台。 出自伊拉赫先生的著作《通向本质的道路》，生命智慧出版社，2010。由听莲翻译；转载也得到了伊拉赫先生的弟子同意和支持。
It's when youconfuse people with their actions that you reject someone. But people aren'twhat they do! 当你把他人和他们的行为混淆了，你就是在排拒他人了。 但是，他们不是他们所做的事！ When you lovesomeone, you don't stop loving them because they do something you don't like.Unless this accumulates over a period of time. But otherwise you don't take theperson for what he does. 当你爱一个人的时候，你不会因为那个人做了你不喜欢的事情就停止爱他了。除非这样累积了一段时间，否则你不会把那个人所做的事当作那个人。 When someone doeswrong, what do I think? I tell myself that this person is in a bad situation.They couldn't have done otherwise than to do what they have done; they madethis choice because they didn't find a better one the moment they made it. Thisis the truth, this is the reality. Then I become a little sad, because whensomeone has done wrong, he is going to have to pay for it, he is goiing to haveto suffer in order to compensate the wrong he has done. 当某个人做错了事，我怎么想？我告诉自己这个人在一个糟糕的状态下。他们除了他们已经做的，不能做别的；他们这样选择因是为他们在那个决定的当下没有找到更好的办法。这是真实，这是现实。然后我会有点难过，因为当一个人做错了事，他将为此不得不付出代价，他将为了弥补自己所做的而不得不受苦。 What do you dowith your children, if you have any? You love your child, and how does yourchild often behave? Stupidly! He doesfoolish things because he is still ignorant. ... but you don't love him anyless because he doesn't understand or doesn't obey you. 如果你有小孩的话，你怎麼对待你的小孩呢？你爱你的小孩，而你的小孩通常怎么做事？ 很笨！他做愚蠢的事，因为他还很无知……但是你不会因为他不懂或不遵从你，你就少爱他一点。 When you look atthe people you really love, whether they are your children or someone else, youwill see that you love these people, but sometimes you don't love theirbehavior. It is very important to understand this difference, and above all toapply it to your self! 当你望着你真正爱的人，无论他们是你的小孩还是别人，你会看到你爱这些人，但是有时你不爱他们的行为。明白这个区别很重要。更重要的是运用到你自己身上！
Afterward you canno longer consider yourself guilty, a , a bad person, etc. You see that inthese situations, you were like an ignorant child, or a child who wasn't strongenough, and you couldn't have done otherwise than to do what you did, you chosethe best solutioin for yourself at that moment in the situation you were in. 然后你不会再认为自己愧疚、不重要、坏人，等等。你看见，在那些状况下，你就像一个无知的小孩，或者一个不够强大的小孩，你除了那样做你不能做别的，在那个时刻、在你所在的那个状况下，你为自己选择了最好的解决办法了。 This permits us tofeel a little freer on the inside, less guilty, without regrets, but it alsoobliges us to understand the other principle which says, 'You're going tohave to assume responsibility for what you did.' There is the cause andits consequences. For this reason we can judge an act, but we can never judge aperson. 这让我们在内心感觉更自由一点，少一些内疚，没有后悔，但是也让我们懂得另一个原则：“你将为你做的承担责任。”有因果。因此，我们可以评判一个行为，但是我们决不能评判一个人。 |
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