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Bybeing born into our family, we not only inherit genes and physical traits, butalso belief systems, behaviour patterns, thoughts and conscious and unconsciousdynamics that affect us in our daily lives. Family Constellations arefascinating experiential therapeutic interventions that bring these dynamics tolight, and provide a deep insight into the underlying causes of one’s lifeissues. Many times, the root causes are not what we think. 出生于自己的家庭，我们并非只是继承了家庭的基因和生理特征，也继承了家庭的信仰体系、行为模式、思维、有意识和无意识的动力——这些影响我们日常生活的因素。家庭系统排列这种疗愈方法，是迷人且具有实验性的发明，它将这些家庭动力显露出来，为隐藏在人生重大事件背后的潜藏原因带来深刻的洞见。很多时候，根本原因并不符合我们的想象。 Eachperson is an individual as well as a product of his/her family, environment,culture, and other group systems. Recurring emotional patterns and issues suchas depression, anger, fear, anxiety, low self-esteem, addictions, feeling likea victim, feeling like you do not belong, not finding a partner, difficultiesin relationships, financial limitations, etc., are often a result of unresolvedevents from previous generations. 每个人既是个体，也是家庭、环境、文化和其他团体系统的产物。反复出现的情感模式和问题，例如抑郁、愤怒、恐惧、焦虑、低自尊、上瘾、感觉自己像受害者、没有归属感、不想寻找伴侣、在亲密关系中有困难、财务上有局限等等，这些通常都是上一代未解决的问题带来的结果。 Inthe western culture, it is common to blame our parents, even removing ourselvesfrom our roots. This can result in a disconnection from life and the feeling ofnot having the strength to make one’s dreams and higher purpose happen. Family constellations do not blame others forthe situation we are in, but rather allow us to see an objective perspective ofour family system and ourselves in it. With a new awareness and acknowledgementof what is, through the eyes of love and without judgement, it is possible fora healing resolution to take place. 在西方文化中，责怪家长的现象很普遍，人们甚至会把自己脱离于家庭的根源之外。这会导致我们与生命失去联结，也感觉不到实现梦想和更高目的力量。家庭系统排列不会因自己所处的情境而责怪他人，而是允许我们从客观的角度观察我们的家庭系统和位于其中的自己。用爱和不评判的眼光、全新的觉知和认知去了解家庭系统，就有可能让疗愈的的结果发生。 The founder of Family Constellations is Bert Hellinger, a German bornpsychotherapist who spent 16 years as a missionary living in South Africa withthe Zulus. His relationship with the Zulus had a deep impact on Hellinger, whowas fluent in the Zulu language and participated in their cultural practicesand rituals. Rather than converting them to Christianity, he incorporated theirviews on the interrelation between the living family members and their deadancestors. From the Zulus, he learned the fundamental need for humans to alignthemselves with the forces of nature and the importance of gaining healing andstrength from one’s ancestors. 家庭系统排列的创始人伯特·海灵格是一位出生于德国的心理治疗师，他在南非以神父的身份，和祖鲁族人一起生活了16年。海灵格与祖鲁人的关系对他有很深的影响，他可以说流利的祖鲁族语言，也参与他们的文化活动和仪式。海灵格并未劝他们改信基督教，而是把他们的观念融入在世的家庭成员和去世祖先的相互关系中。通过祖鲁族，海灵格学习到人类与自然力一致的基本需求和从自己的祖先获得疗愈和力量的重要性。
海灵格在一个会议期间离开了神职，一位学者问他：“理想和人，哪一个对你而言更重要？你愿意牺牲哪一个来成全另一个呢？”海灵格的回答改变了他的人生进程和事业道路。他回到欧洲，接受传统心理治疗、完型心理学、家庭系统治疗、心理剧、现象学、神经语言程序学（NLP），艾瑞克森催眠治疗（Milton Erickson’s hypnotherapy）的训练，并将这些元素整合进入家庭系统排列中。 The result is a dynamic methodology which is unique in that: a) it is experiential;b) the client hardly speaks; c) its premise is that many of our issues arerelated to family patterns; d) it deals with the energetic field or familysoul, the family blueprint which largely affects family members; e) it allowsyou to feel what it is like to be in another person’s shoes; f) it attempts to release theunconscious trans-generational dynamics embedded within the family system. 家庭系统排列多元化的方法论带来的结果是独一无二的：a)实验性；b)案主几乎不说话；c)它的前提是，发生在我们身上的许多事件都与家庭模式有关；d)它涉及能量场或家族灵魂，即在很大程度上影响了家族成员的家庭蓝图；e)它能让你设身处地感受他人；f)它试图释放嵌入在家庭系统中的代代相传的无意识动力。 Bert Hellinger has been nominated for the 2011 Nobel Peace Prize. Although hismethodology is widely practised around the world, it is just beginning toemerge in Canada. Although he is honoured as the founder of this work, manyfacilitators integrate constellation insights into their current practices andothers have evolved the constellation process, such as Carola Castillo, who hasexpanded this work to the collective and the past life realm. 伯特·海灵格曾被2011年的诺贝尔和平奖提名。尽管他的方法论在全世界被广泛地运用，在加拿大只是刚开始出现。尽管他作为这项工作的创始人备受尊敬，许多导师将系统排列的洞见整合进他们目前的练习方法，其他人使系统排列的进程得以演进，如卡罗拉·卡斯迪洛（CarolaCastillo），他将家庭系统排列拓展到集体生活和前世的领域。 WHATHAPPENS IN FAMILY CONSTELLATIONS? 家庭系统排列中会发生什么？ Constellations can be done in group workshops (including the client, the facilitator and agroup of people) or individual sessions (the client and the facilitator). Ingroup constellations, the client is the person who wants to work on an issue.In many cases, he/she has tried to work on the presenting problem before andhas been unable to create lasting change. 家庭系统排列可以在团队工作坊（包括案主，导师和一群人）或个案（案主和导师）中进行。在团体的家庭系统排列中，案主是想要解决某个问题的人。许多案例中，他/她之前已经在试图解决呈现的这一问题，但无法创造出持久的改变。 The group members (who do not know the client or his/her family) sit in a circleand the client wishing to work sits to the right of the facilitator. Thefacilitator then asks the client what he/she would like to work on, which mayor may not seem to be related to his/her family. After the issue is defined,he/she asks factual questions abut the family history without getting into theclient’s perceived story or judgement. He/she is looking for traumatic eventsfrom the past that may systemically be affecting the client today. Such eventsinclude premature deaths, miscarried or aborted children, murders, suicide,casualties of war, members that were not accepted by the family because of adifficult fate or because they lived a lifestyle that was frowned upon, memberswho benefited from someone’s loss, babies given for adoption, seriousaccidents, an early separation from the mother, having roots in differentcountries etc. 小组成员（并不认识案主或他/她的家庭成员）坐成一个圈，想要解决问题的案主坐在导师的右边。接着，导师会问案主，他/她想要解决什么问题，这个问题有可能和他/她的家庭有关，也有可能无关。在这个事件被定义之后，导师会问一些关于其家庭历史的事实性问题，不让案主主观的叙述或评判介入。导师会在这些过去中寻找有可能系统性地影响了案主如今生活的创伤性事件。这类事件包括：过早死亡、流产或堕胎的孩子、谋杀、自杀、战争伤亡、因为坎坷的命运或生活方式另类而不被接受的家庭成员、因为某人的损失而得益的成员、婴儿时期被收养的人、严重的事故、早期与母亲的分离、在不同国家有家庭根源等等。 Once the issue is clear and the facilitator has enough information to explorethe dynamics, the constellator asks the client to instinctively pickdifferent members of the group to represent his/her family members, or thepresenting issue, and position them in the room according to what feels rightfor him/her at the moment. The client intuitively goes to the people he/she ismost attracted to in order to represent his/her family members one by one, andrespectfully asks them if they would like to be a representative. The groupmember picked by the client can choose to represent and be in the service ofthe client and his family or decline and participate by being a mindfulobserver. The client also chooses a representative to stand-in for him/herself. 一旦事件变得清晰，导师获取到足够的信息去探索家庭动力，导师（即家族排列师）会要求案主根据自己的直觉选择小组里的不同成员来代表他/她的家庭成员，或是展现一个事件，在房间里根据他/她当下的感觉来安排小组成员的位置。案主直觉性地走向最吸引他/她的人，依次让这些人代表自己的家庭成员，并以尊敬的态度询问，他们是否愿意成为代表。被案主选中的小组成员可以选择接受，为案主和他的家人服务，也可以拒绝邀请，以留心的旁观者角色参与。案主也要选择一个人来代表他/她自己。 After the representatives for family members, the client and/or the issue have beenset up in the room, the client sits down and observes, taking in what unfoldsbefore him/her. By the mere fact of setting up the constellation, the energeticfield of the family, a collective consciousness known as the “knowing field” isactivated, and representatives tap into feelings, sensations, body postures orposition themselves with relation to one another in a way that becomes usefulinformation for the constellator to explore what is “out of order”. There is acertain mystery around how this phenomenon takes place and Hellinger himselfhas stated that he does not know how it happens. It is often compared to Dr.Rupert Sheldrake’s notion of the morphogenetic field, which refers to an energyfield which connects us and has memory and influence. 在家庭成员的代表选定之后，案主和/或这个时间就在房间里布置好了，案主坐下，观察，吸收在他/她眼前展现的情景。随着布置排列的单纯事实，这个家庭的能量场，一种被叫做“识知场”(knowing field) 的集体意识就被激活，代表们自己就会进入到某种感受、感觉、身体动作或姿态中，以某种方式与另一个代表有所联系，这对排列师探索哪里“失序”是很有用的信息。这种现象的发生存在着必然的神秘性，海灵格自己也曾说过，他不知道这是怎么发生的。这一点通常会与鲁伯特·谢多雷克博士(Dr. Rupert Sheldrake)的形态场（morphogenetic field）相提并论，指的是一种联接我们的能量场，它有记忆，并且能产生影响力。 （译注：形态形成场又称为“形象之场”，是英国皇家协会特别研究员鲁伯特·谢多雷克博士提出的一种“共鸣”理论。他认为，不只声音会产生共鸣，事件也会产生共鸣。他将连续发生同类事件的场所称为“形态场”，将所发生的同类事件称为“形态共鸣”。 At this point, it is the role of the constellator to assess the situation andexplore to uncover the hidden dynamics and look for a possible resolution tothe issue. The facilitator may also ask representatives to repeat certainhealing sentences, known as the “language of the soul” to reveal the truthpresented, restore and strengthen relationships within the system. Members thatwere once excluded are honoured and love flows freely once more through thefamily system. 这时，排列师需要评估场景并探索如何揭开隐藏的动力，并寻找对这一事件可能的解决办法。导师（即排列师）也可以让代表重复说出一些有疗愈作用的句子，也就是所谓的“心灵的语言”，这样是为了展露眼前的真相，修复并加强系统内的人际关系。曾被排拒在外的成员会受到尊重，爱会重新在家庭系统中自由地流动。 Aresolution has been reached when most of the representatives in theconstellation visibly feel better or calmer. At this point, the client may beasked to take his/her place in the constellation, instead of the representativefor the final stage of the constellation. The client then feels what it is liketo stand in the new place and integrate the new feelings into their body, mindand soul of this new image of his/her family. Often, this work produces aprofound transformation, which allows the client to see his/her life from adifferent perspective and be free of his/her initial block. 当大部分排列中的代表看起来感觉更舒服、更平静时，最后的结论便达成了。这时，案主也许会被要求去参与排列，站在自己的位置上，代表不需要参与排列的最后阶段。案主于是体会到站在新的位置是什么感觉，他/她以新的形象出现在家庭中，并把新的体会整合进自己的身、心、灵。通常这项工作会带来深刻的转化，让案主从不同的角度看到自己的人生，并从他/她最初受阻的地方解脱。 Representativesor the people in the group observing the constellation also receive shifts andinsights into their own family systems as well. It is not a coincidence to beasked to be a representative for someone’s constellation or to be watching oneunfold. 代表或小组里的其他人在观察排列时，也会对自己的家庭系统有所转化和洞见。被要求去做代表或是观看一个故事的开展都并非巧合。 Privateconstellations are equally powerful for people who prefer not to work in agroup setting. The facilitator and client enter into a sacred space where thefamily system is honoured and acknowledged. Instead of setting up people asrepresentatives, the constellator uses footsteps, figurines, mats or any otherobjects to represent the family members or issue to be addressed. Usingfootsteps is a very powerful way for the client to literally “step into” otherfamily member’s shoes and feel what it is like to be the other person. After aprivate constellation, the client often perceives his family and situation verydifferently, feeling deep compassion for his family members and harmony withlife. 私人的排列对于不喜欢小组工作的案主来说，同样是强有力的。导师和案主会进入一片被这个家庭系统所荣耀和认同的区域。与将人物设为代表不同，排列师运用脚步移动、小雕像、地席或其他物体来代表家庭成员或需要解决的事件。脚步移动对案主来说是非常强大的方法，使他/她实实在在地“踩进”其他家庭成员的鞋子并体会他人的感受。在私人的排列之后，案主通常会用十分不同的眼光看待他/她的家庭和处境，对家庭成员感到深深的慈悲，并与生命同步。 Familyconstellations are a powerful way to transform what is blocking you from livingthe full life you are meant to live. It is not easy to picture how they work orimagine the healing power they transmit until you experience one. Those whohave done family constellations develop more compassion for themselves andothers because they see firsthand the impact family history has had on theirbehaviour. Many feel a powerful transformation from their constellation work. 家庭系统排列是一种强有力的方法，它能够转化使你无法全然活出自己愿景生活的阻碍。要描述它到底是如何运作，或想象这种转化所带来的治愈力量都是不容易的，除非你亲自体验它。参与过家庭系统排列的人们会发展出对自己和他人更多的慈悲，因为他们可以直接看到家庭历史对自己行为的影响。许多人都从系统排列的工作中感受到巨大的转化。 版权说明：我们旨在分享，尊重原创！ |
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