【有文稿】怎样才算长大成人？

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长大成人的标准

来自RoundTable英语新闻脱口秀

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对于一个人是否已经长大成人，每个人都有不同的标准。

英国电讯报的一项调查显示，大部分受访者认为他们到了27岁左右才能算是成人。

牛牛说很多人认为自己需要经历一个标志性的事件才会长大成人，而她不这么认为。她觉得成长就像玩游戏一样，你的等级越高，解锁的技能就越多。

而赫扬认为长大成人不但意味着要独立，还要承担更多责任，但是同时你也能有更多的自由和选择。

以下是文稿：

特别感谢热心听友Delia听写的文稿！

Heyang: People have different views on what specific events signifies that you are a grown-up. And most people when we look at ourselves as we turn 18, we don’t see ourselves necessarily as a grown-up adult just yet. So that is an interesting gap of understanding of what the losses are and what you feel. Let’s talk about the studies of what shows you are a grown-up. 

Niu Honglin: Well, the study gives an interesting result. Because the study is done by the Telegraph, a British news website. And according to them, most people believe that they are grown-ups until they reach the age of 27. It’s like a large difference between 27 and 18, when the laws say you are a grown-up. And my personal 2 cents on this are that some people need a rite of passage, a milestone to define that they are grown-ups. But I think growing up is more like playing a game, the higher level you get, the more skill you can unlock on your skill board. And you unlock different set of skills and you are growing up. And you are able to cope with different situations and that is what growing up is about to me. And I don’t think I need a certain age to define that.

Jessica: First, I love that you just describe life as a RPG video game. And second, yeah, I think there is another British study in 2015 that set the top three criteria for growing-up are having your own house, becoming a parent or getting married. Hopefully you will be getting married and then becoming a parent. But I do realize that this happens for different people at different times. And I remember when I graduated from high school, I was about little bit younger than 18. And then, in college, of course, I would have this argument with my parents and I will say, Listen, I am an adult, I can do what I want, and by the way, can I borrow some money? So I think this is a difference between legally adult at 18 and psychologically when you think that you are an adult. So what do you think?

Heyang: Yeah, I think that's an interesting thing that we share the cross board regardless of your cultural background. So why is it that the age of 18 is no longer the official sign post that you are a grown-up and all those other things?

Niu Honglin: Yup, I think there are multiple reasons. The first one, when you're 18 nowadays, you're still in college. You don’t have a job, and you don’t own a house and you're still living pretty much on your parents. So that cannot be a sign of being a grown-up. But I think it differs for different situations. As if at work I feel like I am a grow-up, but when I'm at home, I feel perfect of being the little girl of my parents. (Yup)

Jessica: Well, I think that it is also interesting in the United States, some of the laws are changing. Obamacare that came out few years ago. They now insure parents who have kids until they are 25 years old. So the point is that there are kind of even in law stating that  you are kind of kid until you are 25.

Heyang: Yes... Is that reassuring or is that actually catering towards the generation that can legally just push back some responsibilities, maybe. Because I think grown-up, feeling independent is one thing, but it is also being able to shoulder more responsibility is another thing. And that’s not something we can escape from, as a growing up. It doesn't sound that much fun, but being independent means a lot more freedom and choices. That is the fun part.