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For most parents, their children’s wellbeing is a number one priority. Happy children are more likely to grow up to be merry and successful adults. Therefore, it is crucial that we consider all aspects of wellbeing - being mental, physical, social and spiritual - as important. Fulfilling children’s needs in all of these areas will lead to their overall level of life satisfaction. So how do we raise happy kids? The key is not to just raise them, but to grow up with them! 随着互联网的发展，尤其在知识经济发展的时代，网路上有成千上万免费或付费的资讯教你培养聪明和成功的孩子，但怎么培养一个“快乐的孩子”的资源却不多。一个全方位快乐的孩子，在情感，体能，精神，人际交往上都得到满足的孩子，更容易成长为成功的人，所以站在家长的立场，比起养育他们，陪伴他们成长更重要！ Of course, at times it can be difficult to balance what’s best for children with parents’ work and other time commitments. But growing up with your children may not take as much extra time and effort as you think, if you are more conscious of your own behavior. Besides, the return on investment in your child’s happiness is priceless. Below are some useful tips to help you to grow up with your children. 都市生活节奏特别快，每天疲于工作和生活，还需要腾出时间跟孩子互动交流，很多家长都表示力不从心。但是只要方法用对时间用准，养成习惯，日积月累你一定会得到满意的结果。再者，比起其他投入，投入到孩子身上会得到更幸福的回报！这里我们严选了五个小窍门帮助家长在日常生活中与孩子互动。 Keep yourself happy and active 保持积极快乐 How happy and active you are affects how happy and successful your kids will be - dramatically. By simply spending sometime with your own friends, and having a laugh with your family, can increase your levels of happiness. By keeping yourself happy and active with regular exercise and other healthy outlets, your mood will also rub off on your children. 有其父必有其子。你是积极快乐的，你的孩子必然也是积极快乐的！父母保持有频率的锻炼和养成健康习惯，有自己的朋友圈有利于提高整体家庭幸福感，当你感到幸福快乐，你的孩子必然会被这种情感感染。 Teach your children social skills 社交技巧很重要 Having high quality relationships with others is a proven predictor of one’s happiness and overall quality of life. According to many studies loneliness has the strongest correlation with life expectancy compared with any other predictor. Therefore social interaction etiquette is an important skill for kids of any age to develop. Take notice of how your child interacts with other children. Simply encouraging kids to include others when playing, notice others’ feelings, apologize when needed and perform small acts of kindness can help them build friendships and develop empathy. This will be further demonstrated in how you interact with other adults. Be careful of your own behavior when you are in social situations, kids will pick up on parent’s behavior and begin to mimic both positive and negative aspects in their own social interactions. 良好的人际关系是个人幸福感和生命品质的体现。很多研究表明，孤独的人寿命更短。因而社交礼节和技巧值得任何年龄段的人学习。关注孩子与同龄人之间的相处方式，鼓励他们融入群体，培养乐于助人，乐善好施的精神，建立同理心和友谊。同时家长也需要以身作则，树立榜样，让孩子复制良好的行为模式。 Encourage effort over perfection 鼓励行动，而非苛求完美 We must be careful not to pressurize our children by expecting perfection from them. This will ensure that they are putting in effort for their own benefit and the self-satisfaction that comes with completing difficult tasks or over coming challenges. By praising effort but not expecting perfection, we can teach our children to become self-motivated and self-disciplined which are some of the most sought-after skills by employers. 不是为了苛求完美而施加压力，而是鼓励孩子行动起来。让孩子懂得，经过克服困难挑战和努力所获得的成功，是自我满足的过程，有利于让孩子学会自我激励和保持自律，这不管是对学习还是工作都非常有帮助。 Teach Emotional Intelligence 情商要培养 Emotional intelligence is a skill, not an innate characteristic. Expecting children to “naturally” come to understand their own emotions is unreasonable. In order to help them develop a voice of reason we must ask open questions to encourage them to think and talk about their feelings. 情商不是生而具备的，而是通过后天练习和培养形成，因此期望孩子们自然而然的理解自己的情感是不现实的。想要培养出情商高的孩子，在日常沟通的过程中，家长可以多进行开放性的提问。比如孩子不听话的时候，别急着跟着孩子生气，而是安慰和提问，问孩子是不是很生气或者很难过，让孩子有机会表达和理解自己的情感。 Set up their environment for happiness 营造快乐的环境 It’s true we are all strongly influenced by our environment. As they say, you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time around so it is important to keep healthy company, and therefore create a positive environment for ourselves. Some simple measures that can be implemented to ensure your child’s environment is conducive to happiness could include, less TV, less electronic devices, more human interaction, more playtime and time spent being active or outdoors. Perhaps the simplest habit of all, eating family dinners together can have the most profound impact on the happiness of your children and the whole family. Mealtimes are an opportunity to check in with all family members and strengthen family bonds. Mealtime discussions can help family members solve each other’s problems, talk about the good parts of their day, plan upcoming events and discuss exciting ideas. This regular family routine will also give children a sense of stability in their home lives. 大家肯定都听过，把你身边五位亲密好友的能力阶级水平加起来取平均值，就是你现在的能力阶级水平。可见人是环境的动物，给孩子营造一个健康快乐的环境是多么重要！家庭生活中，让孩子少看电视少用电子设备，多与人互动，多参与户外活动。每一天的晚餐时刻，开放性的与孩子讨论一天发生的事情和第二天的计划，了解家庭成员之间存在的问题，加强彼此间的感情链接，不仅让孩子感受到幸福稳定的家庭氛围，更是给孩子树立了榜样。 扫描二维码，获取更多信息
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