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不像硬技能，如数学、阅读和外语等；软技能围绕人际交往能力与自律。这些关键技能通常都是在课堂以外、向家人和同辈学习到的。但是这些软技能具体是什么呢？ Unlike hard skills, like mathematics, reading and foreign languages; soft skills revolve around interpersonal skills and self-discipline. These essential skills are usually learned outside the classroom from family and peers. But just what exactly are these soft skills? 礼貌 Manners 沟通 Communication 聆听力 Listening 建立友好关系 Building Rapport 同理心 Empathy 解决问题 Problem Solving 自制 Self Control 自尊、自信 Self Esteem, Self Confidence 社交技巧 Social Skills 在孩子面前展示正确的行为和态度时，他们会学到很多软技能。把它们融入到你的日常生活中其实非常容易－你可能已经在做。 Children learn a lot of soft skills when you exemplify the right behaviors and attitudes in front of them. It’s easy to incorporate them into your daily life – in fact you may already do most of them. 有礼貌 Good Manners  在生活中强调礼貌：经常说“请”和“谢谢”、为他人拉门、使用“不好意思”和“不客气”。你的孩子会效仿。 Accentuate manners within your life: always say please and thank you, hold the door open for people, and use ‘excuse me’ and ‘you’re welcome.’ Your children will follow suit. 倾听、沟通和建立友好关系 Listening, Communication And Building Good Rapport    教你的孩子看着交谈者的眼睛。耳机摘下。手机收到口袋里。他们应该专注于对方，认真倾听和适当地回应。这也将帮助他们建立良好的人际关系。如果他们旁听很多成熟成年人的交谈，他们会意识到什么是良好的沟通技巧。 Teach your kids to look directly at their interlocutor in the eye. Ear buds out of ears. Cellphones tucked away in their pockets. They should focus on the person and really listen and respond appropriately. This will aid them to build good rapport with people as well. If they sit in enough mature adult conversations, they will become aware of the give and take in good conversations. 换位思考的训练 A Lesson In Someone Else’s Shoes  同理心是儿童需要获得的关键技能。青少年有时会很刻薄，叫街上无家可归的人“找份工作吧”，或替其他孩子起绰号，不考虑后果或不理解别人背后的故事。 让你的孩子多接触别人的生活。在慈善机构当志愿者、捐赠物品、或在节日为贫困家庭准备和送出食物篮。 Empathy is a critical skill for children to acquire. Teens can sometimes be very mean, and say things like ‘get a job’ to a homeless man on the street corner or call other kids names, without even thinking of the consequences or the background story behind someone’s situation or appearance. Expose your children to other people’s lives. Have them volunteer at a soup kitchen, donate items to the Salvation Army, or help put together food baskets to needy families over the holidays and deliver them together. 实际问题解决 Real World Problem Solving    让孩子参与日常生活中的问题。收拾、洗碗、修理自行车、钓鱼、或者教他们使用洗衣机。你也可以在旅途中让他们负责看导航并帮忙带路。 Involve and engage your child in the day-to-day problems of life. Clean up messes, do the dishes, fix a bike, catch a fish, or teach them how to operate the washing machine. You can also put them in charge of the GPS and ask them to help you find your the way during trips. 控制自己 Taking Control Of Themselves  这是最重要的软技能之一，但自我控制对孩子来说并不容易。要从小开始训练。当面对一个愤怒的幼儿，尝试在指定区域作短暂的“隔离反省”，直到每个人都平静下来。如他们在挫折或困难的情况下没有失去自控就要赞美他们。你也可以在他们的日程里加入简短的冥想（1-3 分钟）来训练平静。 By far one of the most vital soft skills, self-control does not come easy for children. Start them young on this. When facing an angry toddler, try a brief timeout in a designated area until everyone has calmed down. Praise them if they didn’t lose control in frustrating or difficult situations. You may also include short meditation sessions (1-3 minutes) into their daily routine to teach them calmness. 满怀自信 Feeling Good About Themselves  跟你的孩子一起去冒险，像攀岩、滑冰、露营等，从而建立他们的自尊和提升他们的自信心。设定课堂以外的目标，并一起实现。 Have adventures with your kids to build their self esteem and lift their self confidence, like rock climbing, skating, or camping etc. Set goals outside of the classroom and achieve them together. 社交技巧 Social Skills 许多孩子（甚至成人！）对于怎样恰当地与他人交流都会遇到困难，因为社交技巧涉及很多不同的技能，如沟通、倾听、观察、提问、同理心、冲突解决… 小孩子通过亲子活动学习分享、轮流和合作完成任务。当他们大一点，尝试与他们讨论社交技巧的重要性和列出所需要的技能，作为全年努力的目标。 Many kids (even adults!) have difficulties to interact appropriately with others, as social skills involve many different skills such as communicating, listening, observing, questioning, empathy, conflict resolving... Play dates help children learn through sharing, turn-taking and cooperating to accomplish tasks together. When they are older, try explaining to them the importance of social skills and brainstorm lists of skills to work on throughout the year together. 家长是孩子的第一任老师， 也是孩子终生的老师。 Parents are not only their children's first teachers, they are also their lifelong teachers. Sources & photos 资料和图片来源: ifehack.org, kidshealth.org, scholastic.com, lauracandler.com & internet |
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