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一些人总是能看到自己的不足 而去羡慕别人的成就或者人生 从而开始自卑，盲目 但其实我们从来就不应该把眼光放在别人身上 多观察自己，倾听自己，爱自己 才是应该做的事情 记住，我们每个人都是上帝的宠儿 Germany is one of my favorite countries. But actually, when I first came into Germany, I didn’t feel good about this heavy industrial city in a short while. Because it does not have the nobleness of Britain and the romance of Paris. Instead, the first impression that it gives me is depression and indifference. Why depression? Because it is really industrialized, the architectural style is relatively single. Why indifference? Perhaps because of the rigorous and serious style of German people, and few people will be enthusiastic and initiative. However, on my second day, I fell in love with this country. I visited three cities in the west of Germany. What makes me most delighted and emotional is——Kӧln. 德国，是我喜欢的国家之一。 其实刚踏入德国的时候，并没有一下子让我对这个重工业城市产生好感。因为它没有英国的高贵也没有巴黎的浪漫，反而给我第一印象是压抑和冷漠。 为什么压抑？因为确实很工业化，建筑风格也相对比较单一。 为什么冷漠？或许是因为德国人严谨认真的作风，很少有人会热情主动。 但，就在我来的第二天里，却爱上了这个国家。游历了德国西边的三个城市。最让我欢喜与感慨的是——科隆。 科隆主火车站，一出车站就是教堂 When it comes to Cologne, everyone knows the famous Cologne Cathedral. It is Cologne 's most visited landmark, and currently the tallest twin-spired church at 157m tall, second in Europe and third in the world. Just standing in front of it that made me feel awe-inspiring. But if you look closely, you will find that the church seems to have a 'story'. At first, you will find that the color of the wall is very uneven, and there is a wall that is even black. In addition, it can be observed that this building has many untidy and slightly rough areas. 说到科隆，想必大家都知道著名的科隆大教堂。这是科隆市的标志性建筑，欧洲第二高，另外也是世界上第三大的哥特式教堂。 光是站在它面前就让人肃然起敬，气场十分强大。不过如果你仔细观看，就会发现这个教堂似乎很有“故事”。 首先，你会发现，墙体的颜色很不均匀，有一面墙体甚至是发黑的。另外，还可以观察到这个建筑有很多不工整又略显粗糙的地方。 Indeed, it does have a story. 没错，它的确有故事。 夜幕中的样子也很迷人 The church was built in the Middle Ages and was eventually completed in 1880. However, during World War II, Cologne was almost blown up in ruins. The only survivor was the church, but it did not escape the attack of fourteen bombs and was partially destroyed. Later it was repaired constantly, so, what we see now is actually has been repaired many times. Although escaping the war, on the other hand, due to the development of heavy industry, it has been polluted by industrial waste gas and acid rain for a long time. Over time, the wall has been smoked dark brown. Therefore, this church carries the history of the city, it seems like you could see the development track of the whole city and It remains the same although several decades passed away. At that time, something touched my heart, but I cannot utter a word. Finally, I left the church in a very complicated mood and went for a walk along the Rhine. 这座教堂始建于中世纪，1880年最终建成。不过在二战期间，整个科隆几乎被炸成废墟，唯一幸存的便是这座教堂，但也没躲过十四枚炸弹的攻击，部分遭到了破坏。后来又被不停地修复，所以我们现在看到的其实是经历过很多次修复的样子。 虽然躲过了战争，但另一方面，由于重工业的发展，长期受到工业废气和酸雨的污染，久而久之，墙体被熏成黑褐色。 所以，这座教堂承载了这个城市的历史，看到它像看到整座城市的发展轨迹和岁月带来的考验。 我好像心中涌动着什么，却又说不出。最后怀着很复杂的心情离开了这座教堂，来到了莱茵河边散步。 When night falls, it is my favorite moment of the day, and the walk by the river makes me feel relaxed. At this time, I began to feel the city—quiet, peaceful, and orderly. You will find that it is monotonous but full of lingering charm. Although people here are indifferent, it is because of their rationality and rigor that they created the world-class products. At the same time, I stopped. Faced with the Rhine, close eyes, the breeze blew, as if touching each of my restless cells, let them return to the original calm. Yes, that's how the magic feeling of nature and humanity that makes me fall in love with this city. With this calm and freedom allow me to enjoy it. And then, I began to calm down and think about what things touched my heart in church at that time? I thought that this church has experienced so much that it doesn't look so perfect and amazing, even a little vicissitudes. But this not only does not make me feel bad, but even makes me feel that it is so lively and true. 夜幕降临之际是一天中我最喜欢的时刻，河边的散步让我轻松起来。在这个时候，我开始感受这座城市——安静，祥和，有序。你会发现，虽然单调但却韵味十足。而这里的人们，虽然冷漠，但恰恰因为他们的理性与严谨，才创造出世界一流的产品。 而这时，我停下脚步。 面对着莱茵河，闭上双眼，微风吹拂，像是在抚触着我每一个躁动不安的细胞，让它们恢复最初的平静。对，就是这样神奇的自然与人类的通感，让我深爱上这座城。这种平静与自由让我享受其中。 我开始静下心来思考当时在教堂中内心的暗涌到底是什么？ 我想到了这座教堂经历了那么多，让它看起来并不是那么完美与惊艳，甚至略显沧桑。可这不但没有让我觉得不美好，甚至让我觉得它是如此的鲜活和真实。 徒步爬到教堂顶端，俯瞰莱茵河的景象 It is like our life. Many people want to pursue perfection, they don't like jealousy, don't want to make mistakes, don't want to accept their flaws, and even start to hate themselves and doubt themselves, which leads them lack of confidence and even deep in inferiority. On this point, I believe that you have seen a lot of statements about this issue. I am here to share my experience with you. It's not a bad thing to pursue perfection, but it's a bit worthless to be over strict with ourselves. After all, we don't have superpowers. Of course, we can have a wonderful vision in the future and good goals. 这像极了我们的人生，很多人会想要追求完美，不喜欢瑕疵，不希望自己犯错，不愿意接受自身的缺点，甚至开始讨厌自己，怀疑自己，从而导致不自信甚至深陷于自卑。 关于这一点，相信大家已经看到过很多关于这个问题的说法，我在这里和大家分享下我的心得。 追求完美不是一件坏事，但是苛求自己就有点不值当了，毕竟我们没有超能力。当然，可以有美好的愿景，美好的目标。 The chief thing is that we need to have a clear understanding of ourselves. For example, be clear about what is unchangeable and what can be changed. Unchangeable factors include the originated family, stature, born defects, etc. For these uncontrollable things, we have to accept it all, because this is a part of us, you can't hate them, hate is useless. It is an objective existence. For example, there are some people around you who are dislike their height. Some girls are not confident, because of their high stature. Some guys maybe are afraid to show themselves, because of their short stature. I knew a girl who is 182m tall. And she is the most highest girl that I have never met before. Instead, she is not confused by her height and really knows who she is, she’s very confident cause she knows her strengths. Of course, many guys like her. I appreciate her. 但首先需要对自己有一个明确的认知。 比如，要清楚自己身上哪些是不可改变的，哪些是可以改变的。 不可改变的因素包括出生的家庭，身高，天生的一些缺陷等等，对于这些不可控制与改变的东西，我们要全盘接受，因为这是我们的一部分，你不能讨厌他们，因为讨厌也没用，这些就是客观存在。 举个例子，身边会有一些人不喜欢自己的身高，有些女生会因为自己太高而不自信有些男生会因为自己矮而不敢展现自己。我认识的一个女孩子，身高182，这也是我长这么大，第一次在身边遇到这么高的女孩了，但是她并没有因为自己高而不喜欢自己，相反，她很明确的知道自己的优势在哪，并且也深知身高是不可改变因素，早就全然接受，活出自己的味道，也充满自信，自然身边少不了追求者。我欣赏她。 As for the factors that can be changed, we can certainly pursue change and encourage everyone to act. For instance, if you want to have a fascinating body shape, you can get it through hard work. Or if you want to be a writer, then you need to practice basic skills every day. When you recognize yourself, you naturally know which direction you should go, and you won't be entangled in things that cannot be changed. 至于可改变的因素，我们当然可以去追求改变，也鼓励大家去行动。比如，想拥有迷人的马甲线，你可以通过努力而获得。比如，你想当一个作家，那么你就每天努力练习基本功。 当你认清楚了自己，自然也就知道自己该往哪个方向去，不会一直纠结无法改变的事情。 Second, don't be afraid to make mistakes. It's normal for everyone to make big or small mistakes in our life. It's not terrible to make mistakes. It is terrible to always immerse yourself in the shadows of the past, or blame yourself, and then start to hate yourself. In fact, we should learn to let them go boldly and sum up our experience to in case to make the same mistake. After that, forget about it and move on. In the end you will find that these 'mistakes' will make you precipitate, which will make you more unique. 其次，不要害怕犯错。 每个人一生中总会犯大大小小的错误，这是很正常的一件事情，犯错不可怕，可怕的是总是沉浸在过去的阴影中，或是责备自己，从而又开始讨厌自己。其实，面对我们犯得错误要学会大胆释怀，并且总结经验，不要再犯同样的错误，之后，就忘掉它，继续向前走。到最后你会发现，这些所谓的“错误”会让你沉淀，会让你更加独特。 The last but not least thing is to be confident. Many people feel that self-confidence needs to be gained from the affirmation of others, or when you have accomplished something that makes you feel fulfilled. But what I’m trying to say is that it’s just an external channel to gain self-confidence. The most important self-confidence is that you are the one who believes in yourself, likes yourself, and knows that you have a unique advantage. You don't need to prove anything to anyone, and you won't be influenced by anyone. You can only create your own value if you are truly confident. It will attract people or things that you like. So don't be afraid. Your flaws or your faults may be a kind of life's perfection and beauty. Learn to accept yourselves, like yourselves and create yourselves, is the most important things in your life. 最后就是要拥有自信。 很多人会觉得自信是需要从别人的肯定中获得的，或是当完成了一件让你很有成就感的事情时获得的。但我想说的是，这只是获得自信的一种外在渠道。真正最重要的自信是，抛开一切外在的东西，你就是你，你相信自己，喜欢自己，并且你知道自己身上独一无二的优势，不需要向任何人去证明什么，也不会被任何人影响。你只有真正的自信，才会创造出自己的价值。才会吸引到你喜欢的人或事物。 所以，不要怕。你的缺点或是你的过失或许才是一种人生的圆满和美妙，学会接受自己，喜欢自己，创造自己，才是最重要的事情。 Afterward, I’ve been to a lot of churches in Europe, some big some really beautiful, and found that most of them were quite similar, which would be forgotten in a long time. But Cologne Cathedral was very clearly engraved in my mind, with endless aftertaste. Is it perfect? It's really not perfect. But I'm just hopelessly in love. 后来，又去过了欧洲很多的，漂亮的，大大小小的教堂，会发现大多都比较相似，时间一久就会忘掉，但科隆大教堂却格外清晰的印刻在我脑海中，回味无穷。 它完美吗？真的不完美。但我就是无可救药的爱了。 |
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