Don't bring too many people into your life. If they can't get inside you, they just clutter up your life. 深感认同。都说生活需要断舍离，其实社交也同样需要。 Identify with. They say that life requires disengagement, but so does social life. 有些人相处起来，就是一场灾难。 Some people are a disaster when they get along. 特别是以下三种人，遇到请趁早拉黑，不要过多纠缠。 Especially the following three kinds of people, encounter please screen as soon as possible, do not entangle too much.   不懂得尊重别人的人 He who does not respect others 前段时间，在知乎上看到一位网友的经历，让我印象颇深。 Some time ago, I saw a netizen's experience on Zhihu, which impressed me deeply. 网友说她有佛教信仰，再加上身体不是很好，所以一直不能吃牛肉。 Netizens said she has buddhist faith, coupled with the health is not very good, so has been unable to eat beef. 每次跟朋友聚餐，她都会提前打声招呼。 Every time I have dinner with my friends, she says hello in advance. 有一次，她跟一个朋友出去吃饭，中途去了一趟洗手间。 Once, she went out to dinner with a friend and stopped in the bathroom. 回来之后，朋友夹了一个丸子给她，跟她说是鸽子肉味道很好。 After coming back, a friend put a meatball to her, with her that the pigeon meat taste very good. 她也没多想，直接就吃了。 She didn't think twice about it and just ate it. 等她吃完，朋友还问她好吃吗？她点了点头。 After she finished eating, her friend asked her whether she was delicious? She nodded. 紧接着她朋友便哈哈大笑说：不能吃牛肉的人，却可以吃牛肉丸！ Then her friend burst into laughter and said, 'People who can't eat beef can eat beef balls!' 网友顿时很无语，出于良好的教养，她没有直接甩脸走人，但在心里拉黑了这个朋友。 Netizen immediately very speechless, out of good upbringing, she did not directly jilt face to leave, but in the heart to block this friend. 最后她吐槽说：简直太不尊重人了，骗我吃不能吃的东西，如果真的出了问题担得起么？ In the end, she joked, 'It's so disrespectful that I cheat myself into eating something I can't eat. If something goes wrong, can I afford it?'  很能理解网友的感受，这样的人实在过分，不尊重别人的感受，还愚弄别人来取乐。 I can understand the feelings of netizens. Such people are really too much, don't respect other people's feelings, and fool others for fun. 有人说，懂得尊重别人，是一个人最大的魅力，也是一个人有良好修养的体现。 Some people say, know how to respect others, is a person's greatest charm, but also a person has a good cultivation of the embodiment. 一个懂得尊重别人的人，会尊重别人的习惯，也会考虑别人的想法；而一个不懂得尊重别人的人，往往以自我为中心，只顾自己快活。 A person who knows how to respect others will respect others' habits and consider others' ideas. And a person who does not know how to respect others, often self-centered, only care about their own happiness. 这样的人，说白了就是自私。 Such people are, to put it bluntly, selfish. 要是与之交往，只会受气和吃亏。 If you associate with them, you will only suffer and suffer. 面对不懂得尊重你的人，别过多迎合，别强颜欢笑，尽早拉黑，便是对自己最大的保护。 In the face of people who do not know how to respect you, don't cater too much, don't fake a smile, shield as soon as possible, is the greatest protection for yourself.  背后喜欢嚼舌根的人 A backstabber who likes to gossip 之前看过这样一条新闻。 I've seen this news before. 四川的张女士和赵女士原本是关系不错的朋友，某天两人约着在一家酒吧喝酒，喝着喝着就聊到另一位好友小陈。 Ms Zhang and Ms Zhao of Sichuan are good friends originally, one day two people are about to have a drink in a bar, drink and talk about another good friend Xiao Chen. 张女士随口说了句，跟小陈脾气不是很合得来，已经很久没联系了。 Ms. Zhang said casually that she did not get along with Xiao Chen's temper and had not been in touch with him for a long time. 没想到一转头，赵女士居然把这话告诉了小陈，还添油加醋了一番。 Did not expect a turn around, Ms. Zhao unexpectedly told The words to Chen, but also some embellishment. 张女士不能忍，就去质问赵女士，随后两人发生了争执，引发了一场口水大战，之后张女士被赵女士拉黑。 Ms Zhang can not bear, went to question Ms Zhao, then two people had an argument, triggered a war of words, after Ms Zhang ms Zhao screen. 这还不算完，赵女士直接把两人的对骂记录截图发了朋友圈，并还配了张女士本人的照片。 That's not all. Ms. Zhao posted a screenshot of the exchange of words directly to her friend circle, along with a photo of Ms. Zhang herself. 事情越闹越大，不仅张女士的父母知道了，还引发了张女士与丈夫之间的矛盾，于是张女士一气之下将赵女士告上了法庭。 Not only did zhang's parents know about the incident, but it also caused a conflict between Zhang and her husband, so Zhang was furious and took Zhao to court. 最终，法院判决赵女士在朋友圈道歉3天，并赔偿精神损失费5000元。 Finally, the court ordered Zhao to apologize in the circle of friends for three days, and pay 5,000 yuan for mental damage.  不得不说，交到一个爱在背后嚼舌根的人，真的是一场灾难。 I have to say, the delivery of a love behind the gossip, is a real disaster. 生活中总不乏这样的人，每天无所事事，只会搬弄事非，把白的说成黑的，把假的说成真的，一副唯恐天下不乱的样子。 There is always no lack of such people in life, do nothing every day, will only stir up trouble, the white said into black, the false said true, a pair of afraid the world is not disorderly. 殊不知，来说是非者，也是是非人。 Little do they know that he who speaks of wrong is also not a person. 人品好的人，不会随便议论别人，更不会搬弄是非。人品差的人，才喜欢对别人品头论足，整天无事生非。 A person of good character will not talk about others casually, not to mention gossiping. Bad character, just like to comment on others, all day. 与这样的人交往，你也会深受其扰，甚至被波及陷害。 If you associate with such a person, you will be disturbed by them and even be framed by them. 遇到背后喜欢嚼舌根的人，为了自己清净，请立刻远离。 If you meet someone who likes gossiping behind you, please stay away immediately for the sake of your own purity.  整天负能量爆棚的人 People who are full of negative energy all day 朋友木木有一天跟我聊天，说她拉黑了一个微信好友。 Not one day did my friend talk to me and say that she blocked a WeChat friend. 究其原因，是因为那个微信好友，整天向她抱怨工作和生活中的种种不如意。 Investigate its reason, because that WeChat good friend, complain to her all day long in the work and life of a variety of unsatisfactory. 刚开始，木木还想方设法去开导对方，但后来，木木发现无论她怎么做，对方还是一直沉浸在负面情绪里。 At first, Mumu also tried to enlighten the other side, but later, mumu found that no matter what she did, the other side has been immersed in negative emotions. 甚至，还把她的好情绪掠走得一干二净。 And even robbed her of all her good spirits. 于是，当那个微信好友再一次发来消息时，木木先是屏蔽了她，之后直接拉黑了。 So, when the WeChat friend sent another message, mumu first blocked her, then blocked it. 没有了负面情绪的围绕后，木木瞬间感到整个人轻松了不少。 Without the negative emotions around, Mumu instantly felt a lot easier.  作家李尚龙曾说： The writer Li Shanglong once said:
Negative energy is to flog other people's bad, scold the injustice of the society; Positive energy is telling you after the lecture that even though it's hard, I can still make some changes through my efforts. 面对工作和生活，每个人都不容易。 Facing work and life, everyone is not easy. 但正能量的人会保持积极乐观的心态，勇敢地接受各种挑战；而负能量的人只会埋怨种种不公，却不愿付出努力改变现状。 But people with positive energy will maintain a positive and optimistic attitude, brave to accept all kinds of challenges; Negative people complain about injustice rather than making efforts to change the status quo. 和这样的人相处久了，我们也会沾染对方的丧，丧失对生活的信心。 When we spend time with such people, we will also get caught up in each other's loss and lose confidence in life. 对于负能量爆棚的人，如果做不到让对方闭嘴，那就趁早拉黑远离，这样我们的每一天才会充满阳光和热情。 For those who are full of negative energy, if you can't shut the other person up, then shield away as soon as possible, so that our every day will be full of sunshine and enthusiasm.  毛姆说过这样一句话： Maugham had this to say:
It is strange that each of us should spend so little time in this strange and cruel world, and yet take so much care to make himself so unhappy. 如果有一段关系让你觉得不舒服，那么能断则断，否则继续下去，只是一种折磨。 If a relationship makes you uncomfortable, break it if you can, or it's just torture to keep going. 不必把太多人都请进自己的朋友圈，因为人多了注定是一场灾难。 Don't invite too many people into your circle of friends, because too many people is a disaster. 愿我们都能远离不可深交的人，交到真正值得深交的朋友。 May we all be able to keep away from people we don't know, and make friends who are really worth knowing. |
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