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Not Everyone In Your Life Is Meant To Be 并非每个出现在你生命中的人都是命中注定 By Chris McFaun ︱Jan. 7, 2019 Something that I have learned this past year is that not everyone who accepts you in your life will actually want you. They’ll want a version of you that isn’t really there. A small piece of you that they think defines you or a piece of you that they want you to embrace fully. Even though their perception of you is wrong. People are very stubborn and will only choose to see you from their own perspective. They won’t choose to see how you want to be seen. 去年，我领悟到一些事，在你的生命中，并非所有接受你的人都真的需要你。他们想要的那个你或许根本就不存在。他们认为那一小部分就定义了你，即便他们的看法是有问题的，他们还是希望你也能全然地接受自己的那一小部分。人们很顽固，只会任由自己从自己的角度来看你，他们不会从你的角度设想你想被人看到的样子。 Everyone in life is temporary and there isn’t any way to change that. We do have the power to give them less time with us. We don’t ever have to stick it out with people who make us feel small. The goal in our lives is to always be the best version of ourselves that we can be on a given day. Some days we struggle and we need to rest ourselves and heal our heart and/or mind. Other days we can overcome many obstacles life throws at us. 我们每个人在生命的长河中都是短暂的，没有任何方法可以改变这一点，但是我们却可以减少与那些人共处一处的时间。我们不应该和那些让自己感到渺小的人一直厮守下去。生活的目标永远都应该是，按照自己的时间表、做最好的自己。有些时候，我们会很挣扎，我们需要休息，疗愈我们的内心和灵魂。其他的时候，我们才能够勇敢面对生活丢给我们困境，所向披靡。 The harsh reality is that not everyone in our lives wants us to be the best version of ourselves. 现实是残酷的，并非生活中遇到的每个人都会衷心希望我们能够成为那个最好的自己。 There are people who want us to sink down to their level. There are people who want us to see us as less because that is how they have always viewed themselves. Some people are so concerned with wanting to be relatable that they want others to fail so they won’t be alone in their self-pity. There are people who see themselves as the star in their life and see everyone else as a supporting cast member and nothing more than that. There are going to be people who are self-centered and will push you aside for their own selfish desires and needs. 有些人希望我们能够降到他们的水平，有些人则希望我们会小看自己，因为他们也总是那样看待自己。有些人特别关注和大家混为一体，希望他人失败，这样他们的顾影自怜就不会显得那么孤单，有些人自认为是生活的主角，其他人除了做Ta的配角之外便什么也不配，有些人会以自我为中心，为了自己的私欲和需求，可以把你推到一边。 relatable：有关系的 If there are people in your life who poison your spirit, heart, or mind, then it’s okay to separate yourself from that person or that group of people. Sometimes we’re dealt a band hand. We have to put up with people who do disrupt our energy in some way. It’s important to know that we can overcome any amount of toxicity or negativity others may throw at us if we work on ourselves. If we learn to control our responses or impulses when we are around others. If we refuse to absorb others unwelcoming thoughts and attitudes. If we know that we deserve peace of mind instead of conflicted and uneasy feelings. 如果在你生活中有人毒害了你的精神、心灵或思想，那么，你应该把自己和那个人、或那群人分隔开。有时我们就是时运不济，我们必须忍耐那些以某种方式干扰我们精力的人。但是重要的，我们能够克服任何人带来的负面或消极影响，只要我们在自己身上下功夫的话，只要我们在他人身边时学会控制自己的反应或冲动，只要我们拒绝吸收那些不受欢迎的思想和态度，只要我们明白应该保持心平气和，而摒弃矛盾和不安的感觉。 toxicity：毒性，毒力 It’s always your choice if you allow others negative energy and false perceptions affect you. If you are allowing negative people to affect you today, promise yourself that you won’t allow it tomorrow. 别人的负面的能量和错误的看法如果能够影响你的话，那一定是你的选择。但是跟自己说，如果你今天允许消极的人影响了你，那么保证明天跟Ta说不。 为什么旅行是爱情的终极考验 Part 2。英语读头条（第404期） 👇 |
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