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有这样一位年轻的临终关怀护士，她亲眼目睹、亲耳听到1000例患者的临终遗憾后，写下了《临终前会后悔的25件事》一书，活着的我们又该如何拥有一个不留遗憾的人生呢? 01.没有做自己想做的事 02.没有实现梦想 03.做过对不起良心的事 04.被感情左右度过一生 05.没有尽力帮助过别人 06.过于相信自己 07.没有妥善安置财产 08.没有考虑过身后事 09.没有回故乡 10.没有享受过美食 11.大部分时间都用来工作 13.没有和想见的人见面 14.没能谈一场永存记忆的恋爱 15.一辈子都没有结婚 16.没有生育孩子 17.没有看到孩子结婚 18.没有注意身体健康 19.没有戒烟 20.没有表明自己的真实意愿 21.没有认清活着的意义 22.没有留下自己生存过的证据 23.没有看透生死 24.没有信仰 25.没有对深爱的人说“谢谢
护士透露前5件最令临终前的人后悔的事 It is grim and frightening, but death is also inevitable. All we can hope for is that we are at peace with ourselves and with the way we have spent our time. 这是残酷和可怕的,但死亡也是不可避免的。我们能期待的是我们自己与和我们度过时间的方式是平和的。 For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives. 多年来,我曾在姑息治疗。我的病人是那些准备在家中死去的人。一些令人难以置信的特殊时光分享。我与他们度过人生最后的三到十二周。 People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them. 人们很多成长当他们面对自己的死亡。我学会了,永远不要低估一个人的能力增长。一些变化是惊人的。每个经历过各种各样的情感,正如所料,否认、恐惧、愤怒、悔恨,更多的拒绝相信和最终接受。每一个病人会在他们离开之前找到安宁。 When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five: 在被问及他们所拥有的任何遗憾或任何他们会重新做得不同的问题时,常见的主题反复出现。下面是最常见的五个: 1.I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. 我希望我有勇气过真心属于自己的生活,而不是别人希望我过的生活。 2.I wish I didn’t work so hard. 我希望我没有这么努力工作。 3.I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings. 我希望我能有勇气表达我的感情。 4.I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. 我希望我有和我的朋友保持着联系。 5.I wish that I had let myself be happier. 我希望我已经让我自己更快乐。 |
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